1st problem with self analysis
1. Where to start?
Start with writing.
Put aside your device and start answering first question that comes to your mind, it could be something like „Why am I writhing this right now?“
Do it now. Stop reading this and start writing because reading will not give you answers, but doing something yourself will.
Reading can give you questions but if it gives the answers they must resonate from within you.
The most basic thing anyone can do is grab a piece of paper and write down a question. Reading it will trigger your mind to start coming up with an answer, or at least an idea of it. Then jot down immediately everything that rushes thru your thoughts, don’t wait for it to make sense in your head, that is what writing is for.
Ask any question that bother your mind right now, even if it seems trivial, and write it down. After you write down some sort of an answer then ask something related and continue to write out your wandering thoughts.
Keep going in depth like this, keep asking questions related to your answers and you will get to the very essence of the thing that is driving your current set of behavior.
Let me give you an example:
„Why am I writing this right now?“
- Because I have the urge to share my thoughts with the world
„Why do I have the urge to share my thoughts with the world?“
- Because I spent a lot of time thinking, reading, writing, and analyzing myself and things I observe, so I came to some meaningful conclusions that helped me feel happy, be more productive and appreciate life and people around me.
„Why is it important to be more productive and appreciate life and people?“
- Well those are 3 different things but if I pick one thing in common it is Love. The feeling of Love inside ourselves after we accomplish something, or when we express true gratitude, or help someone elese feel better will fills us with unconditional Love towards life as it is. Not romantic love, but Love as the ultimate consciousness that moves us and everything around us. It is the spark of life, the spark of God. Love is the only thing you can share indefinitely and always be able to get more of it, from within yourself.
„So Love towards life is the reason I am writhing this?“
- Yes. It feels like I’m sharing Love and it fills me even more with It. How magnificent… :)
You can go more in-depth questioning until you get the answer that truly resonates with you, but you will probably get to it before 7th question.
„ When you know your why you can overcome any how.“
- Viktor Frankl
Now seriously, stop reading this and get to writing.
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The other problems that could stop you from trying could be:
2. Am I being objective?
No. Ok, well, it depends. We get wiser by trial and error. If you just keep thinking without doing anything then it will become meaningless at some point. You will start overthinking and get paralyzed by too much analysis. The main purpose of analysis is to make better ACTIONS. To make less errors at this level and get to the next one.
So you should get out in the world and test you conclusions. Share it with few people, ideally with someone you appreciate. If you can, put some idea to work and observe reactions of the crowd. But first make sure you are not surrounded by complete assholes.
3. Why would I even do it… What is the end goal?
The thoughts that go thru our minds are like clouds in Windows XP famous background… Pretty to see, fluffy but kinda shapeless, floating on the wind with no meaningful path or intention.
I will stop here for a moment to question: „Who am I to judge the clouds path, maybe he has more deep intention I can’t observe from my limited human perspective?“
- Ok maybe I don’t have to answer this question, but the point is clear that we are not suppose to judge anyone, because we can hardly change anyone. But we can surely change ourselves, just don’t be too hard on yourself — be your motive, not your punishment.
“ Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. But today I am wise and I am changing myself. ”
- Rumi
Back to the topic.
If we don’t choose our path, it will be chosen for us by the people who set clear goals and focus on them. And we will be vulnerable to any circumstances stronger than that fluffy cloud. Even small turbulence in the air could get us thrown out of our trajectory like a jumbo jet.
So get your thoughts out of your head, define your why, and choose your path. Pick something that gives you peace and Love. And start doing small thing every day that will lead you towards it. And do not focus on the outcome, focus on your actions.
Good luck.
P.S. If you feel unable to find someone trustworthy around you, reach out to some coach or therapist online. If you can’t afford it at the moment, just ask for some short opinion or advice. Usually you wil get a response because deep down everybody likes to help — it just feels right.
May the forces of Love be with you.
