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Be So Calm That it Makes People Nervous
What they understand that most people don’t.
It’s Tuesday, 10:00 in the morning. You’re halfway through presenting your part of the project when someone cuts you off. “Sorry, but did anyone actually check these numbers?” The whole room turns to look at you. Your face goes hot. Your heart pounds in your ears. Something sharp and defensive comes out of your mouth.
The meeting moves on. You don’t. On the drive home, you rebuild the moment 10 different ways. In every version, you stay calm. You pause. The room goes quiet. So why does that version of you only show up 20 minutes too late?
Composed People Feel the Surge Too
You have watched someone do it. The friend who got screamed at by a stranger in a parking lot simply looked back, waited and said, “Are you done?”
Composed people feel the surge too. Composure isn’t the absence of a reaction. It’s a gap between the reaction and the response.
That gap isn’t a gift you were born without. You can build it the same way you build a muscle.
