Abandoned and Alone #3 — Secrets to Finding Connection Again
By Paula — Grief Guru, Author, and Spiritual Mentor
Hello, and let me start by celebrating you. Yes, you — because you’ve found the strength to be here, reading this, and opening your heart to something new.
Today’s message is a little different — but the content is just as powerful. I’m going to share three incredible secrets to help you reconnect and release the heavy feelings of abandonment and loneliness that can linger after a death or trauma, even in a room full of people.
You’ve survived more than you thought possible. Maybe you’ve told yourself you’re “fine.” But what if I could show you a path beyond “fine” — to amazing?
Why It’s OK to Want More
Having worked with a number of clients over the year, many would agree, the death of a child would be considered the ‘worst’ bereavement any adult could face. When you’ve lost someone you love — especially a child — it’s common to question whether you should be happy again. Whether you’re even allowed to want more from life, because no parent should outlive their child; that is an unnatural state of life.
I hear you. I’ve been there.
But here’s the truth: wanting joy, love, and connection doesn’t mean you’re forgetting your loved one. It means you’re honouring them in the most beautiful way possible — by living fully.
What if you could…
- Save your marriage and make it stronger than ever
- Reconnect deeply with yourself and your emotions
- Let go of guilt and embrace moments of love with your surviving children, friends, and family
- Transform pain into acceptance and peace
Would that be so wrong? Or would you consider it selfish?
The Turning Point
I work with women who are ready to come back to life — women who want to rediscover their worth, their power, and their ability to love again. Healing is not about erasing your loved one from your life. That’s impossible and certainly not something I would even contemplate doing; nobody should.
It’s about accepting that death is a part of life, even when it’s heartbreaking, and making the choice to step into the future with love, trust, and purpose.
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I know this because I’ve lived it. My son died. I survived abuse. And through it all, I found meaning, healing, and connection — guided by my angels, using writing as my power.
You can too.
I’m nobody special. I’m not superhuman. I’m a mother, a woman, a wife, a daughter who refused to allow myself to be broken by life, and death. It’s a choice you make and not one you can make easily, but you get to a point, somewhere within your mind, your decisions and you ask; do I want this for the rest of my life, or do I want to love them, honour them, remember them from a higher place, a loving place?
The 3 Secrets to Reconnecting After Feeling Abandoned and Alone
1. Writing
Writing is powerful. Writing saved me and it can save you. I keep a diary, and even if I write just a single word about how I feel that day, it helps release the tension around it because seeing the word on paper, out of my head, releases its hold over me and I can choose to keep feeling it, or let it go.
Try this:
For one week, write down 1–5 words each day about how you feel. One client wrote three words — morning, afternoon, and evening — and soon saw patterns. She learned which triggers to avoid and which to face.
In my paid program, I use deep transformational writing exercises that help you heal from your very core outward, so old wounds no longer define you. All the answers are within you, you just have to learn how to tap into your own power.
2. Meditation
Meditation is essential for calming your inner voice, raising your vibration, and finding deep peace. It heals in a way ordinary counselling often can’t. Talking about something you just can’t get to grips with is impossible, but by listening to bespoke meditations, you can access those secret, inner depths of your subconscious and begin the healing process.
I create custom meditations for my clients, guided by angels, spirit guides, and sometimes even loved ones in spirit — bringing you messages and comfort unique to your journey.
3. Angels
Angels are the heart of my work. They guide my healing exercises, writing prompts, and meditations. In my 5-month program, every client receives at least two angel card readings for ongoing support.
This work came together through divine guidance, and I trust that the women called to it will receive exactly what they need for their future. I use Angel connection with all of my programmes except ‘basic’ as some people only require straight forward ‘counselling’ and I respect that decision.
Your Invitation
If your heart is ready to come back to life — ready for new adventures, deeper peace, and a stronger connection to your loved one in spirit — then now is your moment.
I have a few free call slots next week to start in September before my annual break in October. Let’s talk about what your angels have in store for you, and how we can begin your healing journey.
I work closely with a small number of women at a time, offering high-touch, deeply personal support. I have space for just three more women.
If you’re ready to reclaim your power, your peace, your joy — and never again feel abandoned and alone — book your FREE call today https://calendly.com/paula-healing-support-30mins-chat/30minchat
With so much love,
Paula
Grief Guru | Author | 20+ Years’ Experience in Healing & Spiritual Guidance
