It’s Okay
Is it really?
Is it really okay?
Or does it still hurt somewhere inside you?
Do you secretly wish things had gone differently?
Lately, I’ve realized that over the past two months, I’ve probably said “It’s okay.” or “It’s okay, no worries.” more than 200 times.
It’s funny how two words can become a habit.
At first, you say them because you genuinely want to forgive someone. Then you say them because you don’t want an argument. Eventually, you say them because you’re too tired to explain why you’re hurt.
For me, I think my expectations from people have fallen so low that when they mess up, I barely react anymore.
Your partner isn’t free to talk the whole day and later apologizes.
“It’s okay.”
Your friends were supposed to pick you up from the airport but never showed up.
“It’s okay, no worries.”
Your parents shout at you over something that doesn’t even make sense anymore.
“It’s okay.”
You spend the entire day excited to meet a friend, only for them to cancel at the last minute.
“It’s okay.”
Your partner has been distant for weeks. You finally gather the courage to talk about it, they apologize…
and somehow your reply is still,
“It’s okay.”
Everything goes back to normal.
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Conversations continue.
Life moves on.
But those two words stay exactly where they were.
Sometimes I wonder if “It’s okay” is actually forgiveness…
or just quiet acceptance.
Maybe it’s the moment you stop expecting people to show up the way you hoped they would.
Maybe it’s giving up on explaining your feelings because you’re afraid you’ll sound needy.
Or maybe it’s just easier than saying,
“Yeah… it actually hurt.”
The strange part is that every time I say those words, I convince everyone around me that I’m fine.
And maybe for a moment…
I even convince myself.
But deep down, “It’s okay” doesn’t always mean it’s okay.
Sometimes it means,
“I’m hurt, but I don’t have the energy to make you understand why.”
Sometimes it means,
“I expected better.”
And sometimes…
it simply means,
“I’ve already accepted that nothing is going to change.”
Maybe that’s the saddest part.
Not that people make mistakes.
But that we become so used to saying “It’s okay.” that one day, we stop expecting anything different.
