When Friendship Becomes a Lifeline….
I am an ardent believer in the power of friendship because, during one of the lowest phases of my life, a dear friend helped me rediscover my self-worth when I was unable to see it myself.
At a time when I felt completely lost, emotionally drained, and overwhelmed in my relationship, she helped me understand my own value. I had been giving my 100 percent, constantly trying to please others, yet feeling unappreciated and taken for granted. I was struggling with my confidence and my sense of identity, but her support and perspective helped me slowly find myself again.
For the first time, I learned to speak up for myself, express my thoughts, and understand that my feelings and opinions mattered. I had a realization that life is truly worth living and that love should be shared genuinely, not at the cost of losing oneself. I began to understand the importance of setting healthy boundaries, being mindful of my words and actions, and presenting myself with more confidence and awareness.
Through her, I also learned the true meaning of dedication to family. She valued her family deeply and always made them her first priority. Watching the way she cared for and connected with her family gave me a new perspective on relationships and the importance of belonging.
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We shared countless meaningful conversations about life, children, relationships, friendships, past experiences, future dreams, and the lessons we learned along the way. We would talk for hours, sometimes late into the night, enjoy coffee dates, attend kitty parties, laugh together, and create beautiful memories. That phase of my life was truly special, and I will always cherish those moments.
Then life took me to Canada. Initially, even though we were physically apart, our bond remained strong. We continued sharing our thoughts, experiences, and everyday moments over phone calls. However, with time, distance, different time zones, and busy lives slowly created a gap between us. The vibrant connection we once shared gradually became quieter.
I also became occupied with my own new journey, but moving to a different country and experiencing a new culture changed my perspective in many ways. I began to notice differences in thoughts, values, and ways of looking at life. Sometimes I felt that people back home judged situations quickly without fully understanding another person’s emotions, struggles, efforts, or personal journey. At the same time, I understand that we are all shaped by our upbringing, culture, and the environment we have lived in for years. These experiences naturally influence the way we see the world.
Over time, I started feeling a communication gap and differences in perspectives. I often found myself thinking, “Why don’t they understand?” Gradually, I became more selective about what I shared and chose to open my heart only to a few people who could truly understand the challenges of building a life in a different country and adapting to a new way of living.
Despite the changes, I remain grateful for the friendships that have shaped me. Some people enter our lives and leave an everlasting impact by helping us become stronger, wiser, and more aware of who we truly are……💕
Oprah Winfrey
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down”.🫰
