(D 10/26/24) “Whenever my amends needed to be made”
Whenever? Anyone not in the 2nd grade or below hopefully knows that ideally, amends should be made at the time of the transgression. No one gives a shit weeks, months, or years later. Its wayyyy too f-ing late. The hurt has festered, infected, and another limb of the relationship has fallen off.
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A prematurely released story draft, as referenced in “Drafts — let them out” published October 30, 2025. Clearly some pent-up anger in this one.
Perhaps it should have remained a draft, but the purpose of this exercise was to “Get it out there” and to let go of the ego a bit. Or in this case, a lot.
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Unless the person you need to make amends to is a stupidly forgiving person, or one who stupidly still loves you on some level and just accepts how fucked up you are. because if it takes you weeks or months or years to make amends at age 50+, you’ll do the same moronic shit again like you always do.
Is that the support and encouragement you were looking for? F-off.
The fact that you need an organization with a rule book to tell you when to make amends should tell you something (spoiler alert, the time to make amends is always “now” dumbshit)
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The time to respond, to communicate — is always now. But oh, woe is me, I’m not able to do that. Well, it’s called ‘basic manners’.
It’s not about when you in your self-absorbed selfishness decide it’s time to make amends. It’s not about you, dumbass. How have you not yet realized that?
“Oh, well, poor maladjusted me, that’s part of my disease, everyone should understand that, and forgive me ”
Well f-you and your so-called disease. Is that enough snarkiness for you? You’ve had sooooo so many chances, and yet you fail again and again
Yep. you fail- let that soak in while you consider growing up emotionally. But don’t wait too long, because you’ll find some perverted way for blaming the messenger who is telling you a hard truth
Actually its a patently simple truth, its just that you’re too emotionally immature to accept it. It’s always someone else’s fault, someone who wronged you, someone who “doesn’t understand your emotional problems or your ‘disease’.
Guess what, Sunshine, it’s not their job to cater to your issues when you’ve wronged them again and again
The person who you owe your amends to, if they respond to you, clearly has (co-dependency, etc) issues of their own, otherwise they would have written your sorry ass off years ago. Either that or you’re making amends to people who didn’t give a shit about you in the first place and will say “Oh yeah, sure, that’s fine. I forgive you, no problem”
And to anyone that you said you’ll help in anyway you can? F-you and your unfathomably stupid, empty words.
Just F-you.
