Self-confidence:
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What is self-confidence?
Confidence or self-confidence means feeling confident about yourself and your talent, not in an arrogant way, but in a realistic way. This security does not mean feeling superior to others. It is about knowing, internally and with serenity, that you are a capable person.
Self-confident people:
- feels more secure than insecure.
- you know you can trust your talents and abilities to deal with anything that may happen.
- feels ready for everyday challenges like an exam, presentation or competition.
- you may think like that “I can” instead of “I can’t”.
Why is self-confidence so important:
Confidence in ourselves helps us feel prepared to deal with life’s experiences. When we are confident in ourselves, we tend to get closer to people and opportunities, not away from them. And, if things don’t work out at first, self-assurance helps us try it again.
When a person lacks self-confidence, just the opposite happens. You are much less likely to try new things and try to communicate with a stranger. If he fails at something the first time, it is highly unlikely that he will try again. A lack of confidence or self-confidence can prevent a person from reaching their full potential.
Believe in yourself:
Has anyone ever told you that you are smart? Funny? Nice? An artist? A good student? A good writer? An athlete?
When people praise us or recognize our talents, it increases our self-confidence, as long as we believe their words. If you doubted or questioned the good things that people say about you, that would be the opposite of self-confidence.
To really feel confident about yourself, you need to really believe that you are capable. The best way to develop this belief is to use your talents and abilities through learning and practice.
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Confidence in ourselves helps us move towards the discovery and development of our abilities. When we see what we are capable of and take pride in our achievements, our confidence grows stronger.
How to gain confidence in yourself?
Everyone can do things to gain more security; Here are a few tips to try:
Build an attitude of mental confidence:
When your inner voice says: “I cannot” or “I am not capable”, retrain it to say: “I can”, “I am capable”. You could also say to yourself, “I know I can learn (or do) this if I give my full attention.”
Be kind to yourself when comparing yourself to others:
It is normal for us to compare ourselves with other people. It is a way of understanding ourselves and developing those qualities that we admire. But, if comparisons often leave you feeling bad about yourself, this is a sign that you need to do something to improve your self-confidence and self-esteem.
Get rid of doubts about yourself:
When we doubt our abilities, we feel inferior, invalid, unworthy, or unprepared. This can make us avoid people and situations that we could enjoy and that could help us grow.
Take safe risks:
Sign up for your school council, volunteer to help with a bake sale project, or show up to be part of a team or to take part in a show. Raise your hand in class more often. Talk to that handsome boy in science class.
Challenge yourself to do something that is outside of your usual comfort zone:
Choose something that you would like to do only if you have more confidence in yourself. Give yourself a push and do it. Once you’ve done it, choose something else and give it a try; and keep repeating this same process. Your confidence will grow with each new step you take forward.
Recognize your talent and let it shine:
They teach us to work hard to improve our weaknesses. Sometimes it is important, like when we get poor grades in school and realize we have to try harder. But don’t let the fact of working on your weak points prevent you from improving even more what you already do well.
Do what belongs. Study. Do homework and school work. Prepare for classes, exams and tests. Why? By keeping up with your homework throughout the year, you will feel more confident on tests and final exams. The best defense against test anxiety and school stress is to keep up with class and work consistently.
Show yourself as you are. Let others see you for who you are, with your mistakes, your insecurities and everything else. It is easier to overcome an insecurity when we do not feel that we should hide it. Assume and accept your quirks instead of trying.
Persevere:
The level of self-confidence rises and falls for all of us, even the people who seem more confident.
If something negatively affects your self-confidence, be understanding of yourself. Don’t criticize yourself. Learn from what has happened, think about how you could do better, and remember it for next time. Talk about what happened to someone who cares about you. Then remind yourself of your strengths and all that you have achieved so far. And come back to your everyday life!
