Men
12–8–24
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Men hurt. One of the dichotomies of men who’ve been abused/hurt (physically and sexually emphasized here) is that there’s a constant battle and struggle between the societal image of a “masculine man” and the reality of being taken advantage of physically or sexually (subtle abuses can apply as well) along with the realities of life. Some of the realities include the humanness of a human, the emotional pain hidden underneath the muscular frame, and the truth that men hurt too. There’s a belief that we have with women that they should be forever giving and subservient to a higher power but don’t think the same applies to men but believe me it does, just in a different way.
Men may not give love in the way women do but we work just as hard in work, our relationships, with our children (provided you take accountability or responsibility) and an emphasis is to constantly preform like a robot at all things and be the “know it all” when it comes to solving problems with those they love or whom they interact with yet if they know all the answers, why are men so suicidal? Addictions ranging from the bottle, to the blunt, to worshiping the female body, to food, to being negative or avoidant in nature, you name it and there’s suffering underneath them.
Providing is a part of a man’s nature, so that’s not bad but what happens when your first experiences of life show how to connect and provide pain, addictions, physical abuse, sexual abuse, and more. Think about the times bonding with your parents or another guardian figure. Were their addictions there with them (think restraints that serve drinks, gas stations with food and smoking addictions near by, or at horse betting places)? A lot of us don’t know how to love, show love, and receive love and especially as men were thrown forward into constantly giving, even at the cost of our health.
Times will come up where you have to push through regardless of the emotions or even if it’s uncomfortable but if your daily life is filled with hell with little (mental) peace there…then there’s a lot to unpack there. This is the wall, split, and hidden cries of past pains within men, with most men barely making it by and having an average day at best. It makes sense why suicide allures here, comforts us, and seems to “fix” all the problems. It seems like the best move to make, but how much fight do we have left before the brains hit the fan and we submit then and there, with no point of turning back.
