Boundaries
You know that moment in Lord of the Rings, when the protagonists go into the forest and they see the fairy lady? The two hobbits are able to look her in the face, look her in the eyes, see her light, and the human cannot. I believe the human cannot because of his past. I believe he’s carrying shame. I think shame reflects where there is lack of integrity.
At a conference that I went to, the speaker, a very moving speaker, had a picture of an Elder: A man who is smiling kindly, sweetly. In that man’s eyes and face, I saw someone I have known, and I wept.
He’s someone who has taught me. And he is older in many more ways than one. In all the ways.
There was a thought that I’m carrying shame.
There is the thought that this shame is a burden, a wall that won’t let me move forward in meditation.
What is the opposite of shame?
How to FACE shame?
How to conquer Shame? With Courage.
To not judge. To clean my vision of myself.
What is the opposite of shame?
Why so moved? Moved by every thought, every emotion, every feeling?
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Contentment. Contentment with myself.
Acceptance of myself and I assume of my history.
Acceptance.
Trust. Takes time. You shouldn’t let anyone cross your boundaries, just anyone enter your inner sanctum. Trust takes time.
In meditation I did not, do not, trust. That’s okay.
Trust takes time.
My boundaries have been railroaded, maybe eroded, and I have also railroaded them.
Be one who respects boundaries.
I let people overstep my boundaries as payment for me, so I can overstep theirs, as exchange.
It’s an energetic exchange.
Don’t overstep boundaries.
Know when to open and when to be boundaried.
Individuals can sit on frozen water. Individuals can slip through loose, open water.
