How to (not) lose a guy in 10 ways :
Ever met someone who’s completely swept you off your feet? Someone so gorgeous, that your jaw drops all the way to the ground floor. Someone, you’d sell your soul to impress? Who makes you wear your braveness on your sleeve and ask them out? Whom you’ve begun dating casually but don’t know how to step up to a relationship?
Don’t worry, we’ve got you covered. Dating can be scary, especially if it’s someone whom you’ve thought to be way out of your league or are just very introverted (like me). But like every other experience in life, there’s always a hack and it’s as simple as following the basic guidelines of a cooking book.
If you’re ready to take the next step with your special someone, here’s your guide to (not) losing that guy in 10 ways -
Step 1: Ask them out.
Do it! Wear the pants, and do the unexpected. Dictate the equation and ask him out. Taking the initiative will help you start the narrative of your equation. It shows that you’re bold and you are not afraid of what (or in this case, who) you want… but hold on! There’s a catch. You can’t just as him out anywhere, it has to be THE place where you meet him for the first time. If you don’t want your first meeting to be a complete disaster take them somewhere that’s different from the usual dine-in experience. The key to a good relationship is having as many uncomfortable discussions as required, similarly, a good first date works when you both let your authentic personalities shine, and one way to do it is to do things that are a little out of your comfort zone.
You can do what I did on my first date — boating. When you and your date are in the middle of a beautiful lake with a view of a beautiful sunset, you’re bound to connect with each other and have meaningful conversations along with an experience that you’ve chosen for yourselves.
If you’re looking for more such ideas then read my article on 10 off-beat things to do in Bengaluru on your first date.
Source: Pradeep J
Location: WJ57+3QC, EWS Colony, Stage 2, BTM Layout, Bengaluru, Karnataka 560068
Timing: 2.30 pm to 6.30 pm
Charges Rs.: 50 per person for 30 mins.
Step 2: Take a step back, or maybe two.
You’ve made your intentions known, now it’s time to let the universe do its magic and let your partner take the next step. It’s going to leave room for a dynamic in which both of you have an equal footing, a disbalance of efforts is a guaranteed disaster in making. Allowing them to process your first date and decide what they want is going to nurture a comfortable balance between the two of you. So, while they take their time to figure out the right thing to say to you, check out area 83 in Bengaluru and have a fun weekend with your girlfriends, shooting each other with paint.
Source: Area 83 official website.
Location: Bannerghatta road, Bengaluru.
Type: Resort + Adventure sports arena.
Step 3: Wait and Watch.
Now that we’ve established a routine of going out with each other after regular conversations, it’s time to bond. What better way to bond than to spend time with each other in comfortable silence? What I’m hinting at is watching a movie together. Make it memorable and book your tickets well in advance on BookMyShow, and avail of the buy 1 get 1 free offer using promo code BOOK4U, valid in the month of December!
Source: BookMyShow
Step 04: What’s Cooking?
After you’ve passed the stage of comfortable silence, and have been talking to each other non-stop. Start cooking (I’m not talking just about chemistry). Take your relationship to the table, cook for each other! It’s a great way to spend time with one another because a way to a man’s heart (said my boyfriend) and to a girl’s heart (said his girlfriend) is through their stomach (said both of us).
So try out recipes from Chetna Makan’s quick and easy everyday meals, available on amazon at @25% off for Diwali.
Source: amazon.in
Step 5: Add the old-school charm of spending time — tech-free!
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Engaging is so much easier when you have a back door exit into the virtual world of cell phones, real communication and bonding happens offline when it’s just you, and them. Kill the instinct to escape behind your screen, and download the Digital Detox app by Urbandroid. It locks your phone for the desired time so you can spend real time with your special someone for free!
Source: Google play store
Download it here: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.urbandroid.ddc&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1
Step 06: Go Away.
… with each other. Step out of your comfort zone, and get to know the part of your personality that you’d otherwise miss. Spending all the 24 hours of the day, will familiarize you with each other on a more intimate level. Plan a weekend getaway, on makemytrip.com and get a discount of Rs. 2500 by using the coupon code: MMT, this December.
Source: MakeMyTrip
Make your trip here: https://www.makemytrip.com/holidays-india/
Step 07: A dash of love and a dose of laughter.
Fighting too much? Laugh together. Feeling distant? Laugh together. Burnt cookies while baking? Laugh at it Together. Bringing humor into your relationship creates a lighter space for the relationship to thrive. Laughter is the best medicine to treat the most instant way to do it is to book yourselves tickets to a comedy show. Attend “Jokes Aaj Kal” featuring rising stand-up comedians at Nirula’s, Indiranagar.
Source: insider.in
Book your tickets here: https://insider.in/jokes-aaj-kal-a-stand-up-comedy-show-sep14-2022/event
Cost: 149 onwards.
Date: 2 Jan
Step 08: Move in closer.
The ocean’s calm, things are going great, and it’s been a while. Take the plunge and move in together, and keep them close. Find an apartment on housing.com and make it your home.
Source: housing.com
Search together on: https://housing.com/rent/search-P3narpkd53st96zbh
Step 09: Tale as old as time, true as it can be, barely even friends, then somebody bends …
You’ve been living the dream, now make it real. If they’re the one, and the wait’s been worthwhile, put a ring on them and make them yours. But this pre-engagement phase is tricky, you would want a ring that fits the bill (literally and figuratively). Find a ring that says I’m serious but not dead serious just yet on CaratLane.
Caratlane provides you with hundreds of beautiful options that are exquisite and inexpensive.
Source : stock photos
Find one here: https://www.caratlane.com/jewellery/rings-for+women.html
Step 10: Oops? Thank You, next.
Did the ring ceremony go differently than planned? It’s alight. There are plenty more bees on bumble. Find someone who will want to bee yours.
Source: bumble
