The Interested Challenge
Asking someone about their life is definitely be so tough, but when they are willing to talk with you it becomes much easier to communicate. The word “trust” has developed and the other feel much comfortable when you start caring about them and asking about their problems, and providing solutions to those problems.
With the aim of developing the skill of being interested in me, I start focusing on others by asking about their lives. I asked few people about their life, about the situations they are in, about their desires etc.
I start this project by asking to a best friend very close and dear to me. He is currently doing a job and according to his learning is foremost important in his life but he is facing a lot of problems on his new project because the company he is working for made him the project manager instead of his boss. He is doing a lot of work but comparatively he is not getting enough appraise. After doing all these conversation I feel that he really wants an opportunity to get out of this mess and I am not aware of his such thoughts before.
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The next person I chose is one of my friend and he is currently too much busy and worried about his business as he is in short of supplies and the client wants his order as soon as possible. Along with all these tensions he also enjoying his life by spending time with his newly born baby. Apart from all he is also helping his brother financially who is currently job less. He is so determinate as I already know but I never talk him before about his future goals. He wants to take his business to the next level by also starting his own mill and transport.
After reading the chapter 1: “Do This And You’ll Be Welcome Anywhere” from How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie and completing the interested challenge I learn that if we don’t pay attention to others opinions or thoughts in return they also not pay attention to our thoughts and opinions. And without asking to them you are not aware of the situations they are in.
Well said:
“ We can’t understand someone else’s ideas while we’re busy thinking about our own”
I definitely apply the concept of being interested in my real life and always try to listen others opinions as well because it not only provides me better understanding of their ideas but also build a strong friendly relationship between us.
“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”
