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Is the Missionary Position Boring?

Dear Deni,

My husband and I have been together many years, and missionary is where we land nine nights out of ten. It’s comfortable, it works, and I love him. But lately I catch myself studying the ceiling fan. Is missionary just boring, or are we doing it wrong? I don’t want to hurt his feelings by asking for more.
Cecilia

Dear Cecilia,

Put down the fan remote. Missionary isn’t boring. It’s just the position everyone stops paying attention to.

Think of it like your favorite song. Play it on repeat for eleven years, half-listening, and it turns into background noise. Change the volume, the tempo, one lyric, and suddenly you’re listening again.

(Nobody gets bored of the song. They get bored of how they’re playing it.)

Missionary has more going for it than any other position: faces close, bodies touching…