Fish Love
There is a video about a concept called ‘Fish Love’, you can watch the video on Youtube to really understand what I’m talking about.
Fish love is what some may also call selfish love. To be selfish and take advantage of another living being, you may think that you love them but really, you love yourself and want to get something out of that other person. Although, the video was about love and how we tend to love people, I was left with a different meaning. The video made me think deeper than love for something or someone else, it made me realize that we all have motives behind our actions and that there is a reason why we say and act the way we do. I wondered about how some people whom we dislike act, do their motives hurt them inside? Do we as human beings love just on the surface and end up using each other to reach for more? Is it possible that we use other people to love us because we don’t know how to make ourselves happy on our own? This one video made me realize that everything in our life is motivating us towards ‘fish loving’ each other,
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The media has portrayed love as something we have to have however, it isn’t only the media, but it’s been something we have been told from the beginning of humanity, that we must love someone else and they have to love us back. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Snapchat, and any other social platform has drilled into our brains that we must be in a relationship in order to be a happy person, even though that’s far from the truth. We, as viewers only see one photo, one tweet, one message and we automatically assume everything in these two people’s lives are perfect because they have each other and nothing more matters. We have been taught that love is selfish and that we always have a motive to be with another person. There are some people who become so jealous that they make up stories and false realities to be able to have something that they want, even though the other person may not, we make up fish love. We want something from this person and expect to get it by being with them because the media has consistently shown that if you are with someone, you will get what you want from them because to us that is love, and that is what’s right and okay to do.
Have you ever done something just because it makes you happy, no matter what other people say about it? Have you actually spent time with yourself on your own accord, not being told to by someone else or an Instagram post? Do you ever think about what a less favorable diplomat has thought while making decisions? Fish Love furthermore implies that we love selfishly it also shows how selfish we have become, not once do some people try to understand other people and how they feel, some people only really care about themselves.
We continue to love people in a way that is more favorable to us, and that is Fish Love, do we really love something or do we just think we love it because it makes us feel better. On a daily basis, you will realize that we fish love because there is always another hidden motive that will help us in the end, but love can’t be that convenient, can it?
“True love is a love of giving, not a love of receiving” — Rabbi Dr. Abraham Twerski
