Household scale balance
In my honest opinion, for a typical middle-class family the equation to the right side is the same (100), it's the left that's the variant.
I thought of this as I was spending time with my women friends who are successful in the corporate world. And what I see is their husbands who are either equally successful or lesser. Lesser by choice, either they are relaxed and laid back; or is it that just that’s how they are coded. There is a pattern here.
And then there is me. Someone so qualified but unable to be in the corporate race, by choice. I blamed the inability to find my tribe or the difficulty to navigate around people. But the reality is that our household scale is leaning heavier on my husband’s side with his career and his travel routine. For a plane to fly high, you need the right ground support. And that’s me in this household.
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In the end the scale will either lean on the left side or the right. Or it could be balanced. The total is always hundred.
Every family is different. And it’s good for women to be proud of their achievements if the scale is heavier on their side and the husbands to be proud of their wives, kids proud of their mothers. With shortage of women in workforce, politics, agriculture and industries we do need more of them. To progress as a civilization.
But for them to sustain or flourish, we do need our men to hold more ground duties.
I salute those husbands who hold the ground duty to let their women soar high. After all, we all need a village to raise a child and someone has to hold the ground duty to invest in that future generation that will save this planet or just make this a safe place for the generations to come.
But women shouldn’t forget that if the scale is heavier on the men side, for those who have families, it’s the women who have made the sacrifices to hold the ground duty so that the husbands can soar high.
