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DATING ADVICE FOR MEN, CHIVALRY
Dear Men, Let Chivalry be your Guiding Light
A simple way to think about chivalry is not as an act of manipulation to attain a prize, but rather as an exercise of deepening character. Become a man who considers everyone, not just the beautiful woman you’re trying to curry favour from. Consider everyone and serve everyone from a place of intention inside you. It will change who you are and you will feel powerful and full of presence. This is not power from material attainment, but a deeper, more resilient inner power.
Practice chivalry and watch how the faces of those you touch changes. Watch the hard lines soften into smiles. Watch stoic neutrality vanish as laughter bubbles forth from the power of your action. Watch how conversation suddenly deepens when you authentically compliment someone. Remove the one-dimensional definition of chivalry as being a romantic gesture. Break that perception by practicing chivalry with your grandmothers, mothers, sisters, nieces, and friends.
Hold the door open for all of them with a “Let me” and smile at them when you do. In today’s cold hard world, something so small will surprise them. It will speak to your uniqueness and generosity. Yes, generosity — of spirit. And this matters a great deal more than an empty gesture of spending money with a cold, hard face and an entitled…
