MENTAL HEALTH
This might help. Things can be made easier. Some basic actions to be taken when you feel your mental health is getting worse.
Mental health is something that isn’t very much understood by people. Millions and millions of people secretly suffer and struggle to cope with their thoughts. It’s sad!! when a person doesn’t know how to control his/her emotions. It’s terrifying sometimes. Even when you know that everything is going to be “fine”, there’s still a worm of anxiety eating you inside which gradually makes you feel nothing at all!
Every single soul on earth has battles to fight. When negativity strikes your mind and your heart starts to tremble, remember to do the following points mentioned in the picture.
The image has my handwriting and creativity in it. I didn’t write all of it at once. I used to write it whenever I felt it. One thing at a time.
The first thing to feel when you feel nothing... is, you can ‘breathe’. Deep inhalation and exhalation make no difference in your life. But it makes you feel better at that particular moment. It makes you feel that you are still able to ‘breath’. So … just Breath!
The breathing sensation lets our mind calm down. That is why every workout, every yoga move, and every physical activity that we do, INSISTS on breathing.
“Breathing exercise” that doctors recommend to their patients, do you not think why do they tell us to do that? Yes. Breathing and deep breathing might seem simple while you are reading this. But it is a major part of our mental health. When you get worried about something, you just have to start deep inhale-exhale, inhale-exhale, inhale-exhale. Yeah!! That’s it, pal! you’re better now.
I said… you will feel better! I didn’t say that your worries are going to vanish!
Like, Mark Manson in his book ‘The subtle art of not giving a F***’ says about ‘the feedback loop from hell’. This is a loop where you start thinking about your problems. Then you get worried about them. And eventually, you start wondering why you’re so worried. Now you are worrying about your worries and that worry of yours worries you even more!! From just Thinking about your problems -to worrying about them -to worrying about you being so worried, you are tangled up in a loop.
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It can be anxiety, guilt, regret, anger, sadness, or even nothing at all. When you stop tangling yourself in this loop, you place yourself in a better position to deal with your problems. It’s as simple as that.
Problems are in everybody’s life. Big and small. Extra painful, a little painful, just painful, Whatever the intensity might be. Problems do exist. But the smart move is to stay calm. Do not make your mind lose its ability to keep you sane in life. Do not go crazy and put yourself into more problems.
Mental health … as we go deeper into this, we come to know, not only about the human brain but also the human heart, a person’s history of living, the sufferings, questions upon questions, what, how, why, when, Everything! But little do we understand that it’s natural and it’s all OKAY!
We can never heal a person mentally. It is their own choice to be healed. If they choose to heal, they begin to accept life as it is. When they do not heal, they suffer by overthinking their life.
Acceptance matters a lot. When you have invested all your energy and have given your best in something, and even then, it doesn’t go your way, you accept it, and you keep moving on without sulking. That is what we call a fighter spirit. You probably might feel like a loser for not getting what you want. So what if you “feel” like a loser? There’s a big difference between feeling like a loser and actually being a loser. And It’s good to be a loser once in a while. Losers have made histories and victories!!
People probably think that they can use their smartphones to make them feel good. But these have their own disadvantages as well. And when I say disadvantages, I mean a LARGER and WIDER number of disadvantages. Majorly affecting youngsters’ mental health.
When a person is going through a hard time, they try to bring themselves out of it through distractions. They think of watching reels on Instagram or just start scrolling onto their phones and boom!! they find a person who is doing well in life, people getting married, has a nice 6 figure-earning job, buying houses or cars, having a good time with family and friends, and their relationship is magical, etc.
The thing which was supposed to be a distraction from the problems turns out to be the reason for their overthinking, anxiety, sorrow, guilt, regret, and the ‘Why-didn’t-my-life-turn-out-to-be-so-joyful’ phase opens up! and this worsens one’s mental health.
Jealousy might start to crawl inside one’s mind and make them aggressive. Memories of their good times start to make them feel sad and lonely. They start to think badly of themselves and find themselves unworthy of living in happiness. And when they find no one by their side, to share their pain and their feelings, they might take steps that lead to a terrible disaster.
To avoid such thoughts, one needs to push themselves and try to do stuff that makes them feel better. Listening to a motivational speaker might help, being around people might help, catching up with friends might help or simply taking a walk out in the air might help. Anything but just sitting in one place and blaming yourself! Just let it go! Let your overthinking break up with you.
Have faith in yourself and be kind to your mind, body, and soul. Stop digging in and zoom out! That is how you can see the good in your life, the blessings which you have been neglecting all this time. Your mind gets tired of overthinking. It needs a break too. If you have been blaming yourself, then try forgiving. Love yourself because that is how you will be able to love others. Care for yourself because that is how you will be a caring person to someone. Forgive yourself because that is when you will be able to forgive others. If you do not find yourself worthy of the best of everything in life, then how can life bless you with the best?
Life tests you. Fools you. Cheats you. Disrespects you. Also, life offers you love, care, joy, health, and whatnot. When you push all of the negatives of your life under the rug and only see the positive and bright side, that is when you win in life. That is when you START FRESH.
