The Weight and Beauty of Being a Giver
Some people are naturally givers.
Not because they expect something in return.
Not because they want attention.
But because love, care, kindness, and thoughtfulness come naturally to them.
I think I’ve always been that person.
The one who makes sure everyone feels included.
The one who notices when someone is quiet.
The one who gives compliments freely, supports people silently, and celebrates others even in rooms where nobody celebrates her.
And for the longest time, I believed that if you give enough love into the world, it eventually comes back in the same form.
But life teaches you something different.
Most people are not built the same way.
Some people care only when it is convenient.
Some reciprocate because you did something for them first.
Some appreciate your presence, but never truly hold space for you the way you hold space for them.
And that realization can hurt.
Especially when you begin to notice that you are often the one crossing oceans for people who would not even cross a puddle for you.
But strangely, I still do not regret being a giver.
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Because I have so much love to offer.
So much warmth.
So much care.
And I would rather live as someone who loved deeply than someone who withheld love out of fear of disappointment.
Yes, there are moments where I wonder what it feels like to truly receive.
To be chosen naturally.
To be cared for without needing to earn it first.
To have someone notice me the way I notice everyone else.
But I also understand this:
my ability to give is not something to be ashamed of.
It is rare.
And maybe the lesson is not to stop giving.
Maybe the lesson is to learn where my love is valued, where my kindness is protected, and where my presence is genuinely appreciated.
Because being a giver should never mean abandoning yourself.
So I will continue loving people.
I will continue being thoughtful.
I will continue being the person who makes others feel seen.
But this time, I will also remember that I deserve to feel seen too.
Thanks for reading ❤️
