Are You Really a Queen? Queenish Behavior Part 1
I hear and see a lot women talking about “On my Queenish” and “Queenin” and thats great, but what does it really take to not just say those words and take pictures with the hashtag, but actually embody “Queenish” Behavior. I don’t know about you, but I’m interested in actually living the life not taking pictures with hashtags pretending. Over the next few weeks we will be exploring what it means to be a Queen, and working on our Queenish behavior.
This week we’re talking about ten mindsets that every Queen should have, and cultivate
1.I HAVE ENOUGH, I AM ENOUGH
This scarcity mindset that we all sometimes carry around has got to go. You have everything in you necessary to succeed in life and get the things that belong to you. You have got to start feeling like you are enough and you have enough now because having more money, or a better body, or a better relationship wont make you feel that way. You will just add on something else that you need never being satisfied with who you are. This isn’t to say that you cant go and have those things its just to say that you first need to already feel abundant and grateful about what you already have.
2.FEMININITY IS MY POWER
Our power is within our femininity. Being feminine is NOT being a pushover, and just allowing people to run over us thats a misconception. Being feminine is about knowing when you have to dig your heels in, and when you need to be flexible. Its about using our intuition to guide us, but we cant be fully into this if we’re trying to wear the male pants. You can be both powerful and feminine. Get in tune to who you really are, and how you really want to show up in the world, and find the power and strength in that to guide your decisions.
3. FEAR WHAT?
The best mindset to have is to Fear ALLAH (swt) alone! period.blank
4.I ONLY COMPETE WITH YESTERDAYS’ ME
Competing with others will guarantee you failure at least sometimes, but when you compete with yourself every small win, or every time you get better at something is a win for you. Only worry about competing with the person you were yesterday, last week, last month and last year. You will be better for it.
5.I CATCH RESULTS NOT FEELINGS
So often we lack consistency in our lives because we do things when we FEEL like it, not when it needs to be done. We will never get results that way. We will never have the body, or life, or family that we want if everything is done when we feel like it only. SO forget your feelings, and do what needs to be done! set your goals, set your steps to take to reach your goals, schedule when those steps need to be taken, and get it done!
6.MY TIME IS PRECIOUS
Your time is precious, so stop waisting it on people, and activities that don’t do you any good. Of course its good to relax and watching mindless hip hop Atlanta (never my cup of tea by the way, but just my opinion) but our time here is limited and precious, and there is so much to learn and do, so spend most of your time doing things that are beneficial to your goals, and the legacy that you want to leave.
7. I ADD VALUE
I think everyone should get into the mindset of “How can I add value to this person” instead of “What can this person do for me” You will become someone that people want to be around when you start thinking in those terms.
8. I CULTIVATE PRESENCE
Nothing will help you enjoy every moment, and feel every moment in your life more than being present in everything. This is not necessarily easy, but then again when was the last time something worthwhile was easy?? anyway.. When you’re at work, really try and BE at work. When you’re at home BE at home and really interacting with children, husband, or yourself! . Talking on the phone.. BE in that conversation being grateful for a friend. The act of presence in your life will allow you to really extract the most out of every second of life.
9. MY HOME IS MY KINGDOM
Our homes are the places where we charge ourselves daily. It should be the most relaxing place we can be. I have always been in love with the idea of making my home a really cozy retreat, so from my bathroom to my kitchen I love adding “Hotel style” touches to those areas. Follow my Pinterest board inspiring home for ideas.
10. MY BODY IS SACRED
You put in junk, you get out junk, and I know this part is hard!! chocolate, and (Extra caramel) caramel macchiato’s, just makes my heart happy lol, but water, green veggies, and protein with some exercise does a body good. I have to tell myself do I want sweets, or to be snatched (Some days its actually a hard choice when the cravings hit) lol but Queens are big girls, and we do whats necessary not what we want RIGHT??
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As-Salaamu Alaikum
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