Is Modern Dating Broken?

With Social Media and Dating Apps you would think that meeting someone in 2023 would be easy. And I guess it is. But finding a meaningful connection is proving increasingly difficult for many.

Without unpacking the complexities that come along with two individuals coming together, let’s look at the concept of choosing to date a person who you found via a profile picture and little bio.

In principle it sounds reasonable. You look for someone that has the same interests, looks good and lives in your area. So simple… and so flawed.

No one teaches us how to date, what to look for in a partner. We just assume that we’ll meet someone, fall in love and everything will work out. You will have a nice house, children (if you want them), your life will be healed and it will be perfect and you will live happily ever after.

I grew up in the 1980’s a time of male machismo, when sexual harrasment against women was normal and feminism meant wearing a pant suit to the office.

During this time female and male roles were clearly defined and expectations around what was ‘normal’ were fixed. We relied on romantic comedies and tv shows like Moonlight to tell us about dating and falling in love. Male rolemodels were tough and enigmatic, they taught boys that you could win a woman with little effort and she would stay…