Keep Yourself Private-It’s a Blessing..
Keeping ourself private and unaccessable is actually blessing in this hiterogenic world, where people are duplicitous. What is in their mind?, how they see you? how they feel about you? how they wanna go with you? are actually different then what they say infront of you.
Like this, there are many things- unpredictable when it comes to the people we used to live with. W hen we get comfortable with people, we overshare ourselves with them without knowing their intentions. And when they use the information you shared with them, against you then people like you and me get puzzled.
Do not tell everyone, what you do? how you feel? what you have? what makes you happy? what you ar egoing to build or what you are already building? how do you percieve things? because people in your surroundings are not always the same or they way they look like.
There is a specific thing in human nature that i have observed all these years of my life, that except your true blood relations like your Mom and Dad, no body else feels happy when you grow. People always feel insecure when they see others growing. I feel, it is a human nature that competition and insecurities are within them. You migh be thinking that no in all people! Yeah not in all people but in majority of them.
There is another thing in Us-Human beings that, we used to see people the way we see ourselves, or the way we think we are. we should behave good with others without expecting something in return. we should make people feel good, we should help them in difficulties and so on. However, there must be one thing in life that help people, be goos to them but do not give them so much space in your life. This is what harms us without expecting it out of the blue. And then we are left with shocks, confusion and puzzles.
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One thing, that happend to me almost everytime in my life is- I usually do not get comfortable around the people. I am a bit socially selective person, despite this, I have been oin hot waters multiple time. when i get comfortable with those i live, I overshare, over joy and every act used to be a little more that eventually has troubled me because i thought if I am having good intentions for my friends, roommates, or my collegues, they would also have the same way. But reality was opposite — they were never the same way I thoguht, they eventually leave when I need, they eventually dig at personal things, they try too belittle and always try to subjugate me.
After experiencing these harsh realitites we mostly neglect I got to know that, every person we used to live isn't the same he/she look like. And the truth open to you when you get hit hard by them.
The fact that, I found, why people eventaully hit you, or they react the way we have never thought, are the inabilities within them which push them to hurt others.
Actually, people act the way we have never thought of, because when they are incapable toi do anything, when they cannot have innovative mind set, when they do not have the confidence you wear, when they do not belive in themselves and when their only choice goes with traditional systems.
These inabilities within them, lead them to insecurities, which act like a slow poison that affects their mind, their thoughts, their actions and everything they are affliated to, hence they start to have negative intuitions, bad intentions and try to harm those capable people through every way, by all means and beyound limits.
That’s why, I said, keeping ourself private is a blessing — Because it protects us from others negative aura, negative energy and bad intentions. in addition, privacy brings peace in our life
So there is no need to share everything with others — as we are unaware of when they will strategies such things against us.
