You deserve better.
Yeah, I do, bitch. I know it.
I’m so tired of men — let’s still call y’all men so your ego can stay intact — saying that shit after everything. Why? Why do you always drop that line? Just say it clearly: “Ugh, sorry, you’re not the one I want.” Be honest for once.
So I met this guy. Let’s call him my one-month ex, lol. He came in hard with the love bombing. I was a little skeptical at first, but my friends were like, “That is love. Love should feel like that.” So I gambled. I went all in.
I told him everything he needed to know — I’m bipolar, the whole messy list. Maybe he just isn’t that smart, or maybe he never even bothered to look up what bipolar actually means. He once mentioned he had depression a while back. Cool. Sick.
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Even if I’m crazy, I’m not stupid. I know relationships take two-way effort. I can’t really compare, but the last guy I was with — even when we weren’t officially dating — was smart enough. He pushed back a little on my medication, but at least he got it.
This one was different, though. Good-looking face, tall, exactly the kind of man that makes me go “fuck.” He wasn’t as sharp as the last one, but he was caring and thoughtful enough. There were plenty of good reasons I stayed, even if it was only for a while.
What makes me furious is the exit lines:
“You deserve better.”
“I’m not into a relationship right now.”
THEN WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK DID YOU DO WITH ME, BITCH?
Never — never — make someone fall in love with you when you’re not ready to carry the responsibility that comes with it. Falling in love is easy. Nurturing it is not. It takes compromises. We grow, feelings shift, but you still have to choose to keep the love alive.
Don’t pull people in just to leave them holding the bag.
