Tinder Tips For Men
Hi everyone. Vibecheck team here. We give feedback on over 1,000 dating profiles a week across Reddit, Discord, and on VibeCheck. Here’s what we have learned about dating profiles (psa, VibeCheck is focused on photo reviews, so these insights will be too):
1. Social Proof
This is one of the most important things your profile needs to have. What do your pictures say about you? Are they all bad quality selfies taken in a dark bedroom?
Your pictures should say that you have a social life. Not that you even need to be popular, or out drinking, or anything unimportant like that.
They should say that there are people who care about you because you are worth caring about. Even a pic with a platonic female friend isn’t the worst. Wait, another girl thinks you are fun to be around? And, you value women enough to not just use them for sex and to take on your emotional burdens? This is a good thing to show.
People want to know you exist outside the internet. They want to know that you are safe, trusted by others, and fun to be around. If you only have selies to me this signifies, hey I couldn’t get anyone I know to take pics of me. Or, even worse, hey I didn’t put effort into this because I don’t care.
Now, caution, there is a science to picking the right picture with friends. You want a photo where you are the focus. Don’t get upstaged by your friends in this pic. Like I always say, the eyes of the person viewing the pic should naturally go to you.
2. Personality
Your profile is a recipe. Each photograph is a different ingredient. When looking through photos I want to see at least three different aspects of your personality. This is more important than your bio in my opinion. Showcase a pic where you smile to show your friendly side. Next, put a candid pic where you are doing the hobby you love.
A photo is a thousand words. Use your photos to say more than your bio ever could. Everyone has multiple aspects that make up their larger self. Show them off. Give people more to chew on, and a clearer sense of who you are.
3. Customer Profiles
Dating is a lot like business.
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What kind of person are you trying to attract? If my business is aimed at 40–60 year old rich business owners, I will brand my business way differently than if I’m targeting 18–22 year old college kids.
Same goes for dating. Do you want the hiker girl? The alt skater girl? The career girl? All require different profiles. We recommend you think beforehand about the kind of person you want to attract — aka, build a customer profile.
Tailor your profile accordingly.
A few more tips…
- 1 selfie per profile, no more
- Candid > planned it
- good lighting and a good iphone camera goes a long way
Hope this was helpful. If you guys want to get more reviews from an ever-growing online community, try out VibeCheck. Also, happy to personally review any profiles. You can email me at vibecheck4dating@gmial.com.
Happy swiping.
xoxo,
vibecheck
