Dealing with insecure roommates
Hello Traveller!
You probably ended up here after not knowing what to do with your insecure dorm mate. In most cases, insecurity arises when you are both in the same major. Roommates can be your best friends for life or the worst person you’ve ever met(there is no in-between). I, too, had to deal with an insecure roommate. Let me take you through my experience and suggest you ideas to cope with your current roommate.
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It all started when I had to move out of town for University. I personally dislike the concept of dorm — like, you are expected to live in a small space with a stranger after 8 hours of lecture. When I first moved in, I was paired up with a girl pursuing a different major. Things were going well until she started getting too comfortable around me. She didn’t mind me being in the room and started talking on the phone all the time. And believe me, she was LOUD. She was always on her phone and didn’t realize that I was being affected by her. Other than that, she was kind, helpful, listened to my rants, and shared her everyday lore. But her calls were really overwhelming for me, and I decided to move out. However, I wasn’t allowed to stay in a single room until my final year (Ugh — I dislike the concept of dorms).
This is when I actually fell into the trap myself. I decided to move in with a girl pursuing the same major as me. Her old roommate — let’s call her Soup— moved to a single room (She was allowed a single room for reasons which I don’t want to disclose here). Now that I think of it, Soup gave me hints about her insecurities — coated with a thick layer of sugar — before moving out. I should’ve taken those hints. Now my current roommate — let’s call her Fork — was the sweetest person. If I had not shared a room with her, I might’ve liked her. But insecurities make you a completely different person, just like hunger. Everything was cool for a semester. Then I started getting a different vibe from her. I noticed her trying to copy me in many ways — my sleep cycle(in which she was unsuccessful. She was never able to wake up early), exercise in the morning, studying time, and the worst one is cracking the knuckles. Then she started becoming more obnoxious, and since she was not able to follow my schedule, she started staying late up in the night and tapping her laptop keys(YES! Literally just tapping her keys). It almost felt like she wanted me to know that she, too, was studying. And then my loath for her grew stronger by the minute. I don’t think I’ve ever hated a person as much as her. (I hoped that she would die — Trust me this isn’t me, I never want anyone dead).
Enough with my story, let’s discuss how to deal with your rotten roomie:
MOVE OUT!
Yeah, you heard me right. Move out of the room. It is the only way to deal with insecure people.
