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Erections & Attraction
Why he might not get hard and what you can do about it.
Ask Wendy: Dating, Sex & Relationship Advice for the Bold
Hey Wendy,
I think my boyfriend might be losing interest in me. Last night, his dick was flaccid for the first time ever. I was just really sad and disappointed. We only see each other once a week, so I look forward to the limited time we have. But now that this has happened, I’m starting to wonder if his attraction for me is waning, and I like him more than he likes me. I don’t want to become clingy. How can I turn this around?
Michelle J.
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Hi Michelle,
Good news: A loss of physical attraction is rarely the reason a dick stays flaccid.
So why did it happen? I’m not him, so I can’t tell you why it happened. But I can tell you what many guys have told me throughout my decades of research:
The number-one answer is straight-up biological failure. It just happens. It will likely happen to every man at some point in his life (more than once), and it has nothing to do with the attractiveness of their partner — it’s strictly biology failing him in his time of need.
An erection is caused by blood rushing to the penis. The reason for that not occurring could literally…
