Goal Oriented Smooth Life — A Dreadful Mindset
We are always being said to live a goal oriented life.
Aiming to become something is not completely a wrong thing, but ignoring everything coming to your way because you think your goal is the only best thing that would happen to you is!
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In School — I remember teachers asking me what do you want to become? What is your goal? I remember I aimed to become a Computer Engineer when I was in 7th being heard that students who take Science stream are brave and smart. And I was brave as hell okay?
By 10th, I aimed to become a fashion designer. I took classes for a couple of weeks straight after 10th to get into NIFT or alike institutes and that teacher told me that I am meant to do this and I ended up landing in a commerce school. And whooo! There was no sum of Account or Statistics that I couldn’t solve (Almost :P). Now I should become a Chartered Accountant, Yes! Have I mentioned earlier that I was a wonderful dance choreographer ever since I knew about dancing. At least wonderful enough to choreograph my friends at school :P My teachers from commerce school would always advise me to become a choreographer in future without any hesitation. Now I am at a mess after 12th. Fashion Designing was out of my league due to the money it would have cost me. Chartered Accountancy would take my 5 years where there would be only studying for long hours and nothing else? I study with my TV on and a phone in hand. Remove CA from the list right away please! Dance Choreographer? I didn’t know how.
I am not allowed to study BCom for whatever reason and ended up in a Computer Science School for pursuing BSc IT and also earned a certificate in graphic designing whilst aiming to become a web designer. I was doing good here too. During my first year summer vacation in college, I got a call from a dearest friend from 5th year to join him as a performing artist to perform in a government show. I earned a center lead position in my first ever dance show. Now I knew how to become a dance choreographer :D And I continued doing Graphic Designing, College, Dancing simultaneously throughout the second year of college. Ended up quitting dancing as a career for whatever reasons and continued with the other two. I graduated in 2019 with the degree of BSc IT and pursuing MA in Psychology 2021–23 batch from a distant school (not answering why) because I cannot quit my work. I have invested a least amount in all of these things and was already self-employed till I completed my graduation. None of the above things shows my unskilled decision making but how soundful I was about other opportunities coming to my way while I am already so focused on the ongoing tasks.
Moral of the story- If I ever really aimed to become something, I would have lost N number of experiences I earned throughout the journey. When you are dedicated to a particular goal, you lose celebrating milestones you achieve in middle ways. You neglect other opportunities coming your way because you are dedicated to a goal which is going to be completed in X number of years(At Least you think so). But hey! Life is about the present. Our present is only known as life. Past is history. Future is yet to come. Your present decides your destiny. Your focus should be only in the work you do today(from the smallest to major tasks). And when you focus like that, it becomes your irreplaceable quality. Skills can be learnt when you have got access to unlimited resources from the world. Work on the quality you want to give to the society and that’s what gonna make you a successful person in future.
