One vision and mission is a must [Dua Hati Biru]
Everything needs to be equal in a relationship.
After I watched “Dua Hati Biru” I realized that having an equal partner is a must. Not only about financial but also for seeing the future. The day after marriage everything needs to be one. If there’s a different perspective, communicate, don’t be silent. Your partner is also your place to tell everything.
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Seeing the way Dara and Bima in their marriage live I am aware that their communication is not good enough to articulate their needs and wants. Their ego against each other. Both Bima and Dara, every act that they took is the right. They are never trying to understand each other even for a small thing. They often assume everything silently without giving one to the other—keeping in their own self. Until the day of Adam’s birthday they are at the highest level of anger, they are fighting until the birthday is destroyed. Dara wanted to go back to Korea again and Bima thought it was not a good idea after she left himself and Adam for four years.
Both of them are facing the silence and loneliness to recall their own memory. Until the day they realized their behavior. They are learning to communicate everything, forgiving each other, continuing to study how to be a good parent for their child.
Therefore, I conclude how crucial the conversation is to maintain the relationship. Communication is about two directions, the communicator and the receiver. If only one direction, it will ruin the essential of communication. I am also learning from the previous experience when I was having a relationship. Our communication was not really good, it seemed that only me who loved and was excited to communicate. Nevertheless, I am never upset about being someone who always tries to maintain a good one. Now, I am learning about how to have good communication with myself first before I start to fall in love again. It's just to protect myself from falling harder for someone who never loves me as much as I love him.
Right now, everything I will start to myself. My tank of love is not enough for giving to others cause I haven't been full yet.
I need to be full of love first so I can give the other love.
