Is Your BHAG Lame?

I received an email from someone considering my new program, Design Your Dream Life and she raised a great question. I thought I’d share my response with you this week because I have a sneaking suspicion you might be thinking along the same lines.

She wrote: “My BHAG (big, hairy, audacious goal) is to add an in-law apartment on my house and move my mother in. She doesn’t want to live alone anymore and I don’t want her to. Not very sexy is it? What kind of ‘trailblazer’ am I?” she asked. My response: “Um, a rockstar, kick-ass trailblazer,” I replied to her. “Here’s the thing — there is no measurement you must reach to be a trailblazer.

There’s no ‘You must be *this high* to ride this ride.’

A trailblazer is someone who works to get clarity on what she wants and goes after it. Along the way, she comes upon blocks, obstacles and debris and she bushwhacks the shit out of them.

Whatever the BHAG is that you’re working toward is entirely up to you.

Having a vision of your mother living with you in her own independent apartment but close enough so you can help her is pretty badass.

It’s badass because it brings you joy.

It’s badass because caring for your mother in this way lights you up.