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            <title><![CDATA[Meditation expert : Dem OM]]></title>
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            <category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[meditation]]></category>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 25 May 2022 01:47:19 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3><strong>Meditation expert : Dem OM</strong></h3><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/876/1*9FJnhvkGevUJnqaDqw92Aw.jpeg" /></figure><p>Dev OM is a Himalayan yogi and a compassionate meditation master. He has committed his life to spread the light of meditation around the world, having been directly trained by greats such as the Dalai Lama, Thich-Nhat-Hanh, and Mother Teresa. Dev OM has conducted presentations and training in 36 countries throughout the world. In his 15 years of labor, he has helped thousands of beginners become meditators and has given spiritual guidance to hundreds of people. He is the author of 12 books on meditation, chakras, energies, and spiritual progress, half of which is Amazon’s top sellers.</p><p>Master Developer OM aims to teach meditation all over the world to spread the light of meditation and create a compassionate and supportive soul community to restore world peace, love, and acceptance.</p><p>Few life lessons that he has learned during the course of his journey so far</p><p><strong>1. Define what’s important to you, and stick with it.</strong></p><p>Whatever I do now must be fun, important, and beneficial to others.</p><p>I won’t do anything if it doesn’t match those requirements. This means I’m turning down more opportunities than ever before. I don’t pursue opportunities solely for financial gain. I’m not looking for anything. By remaining true to my ideals, I allow opportunities to present themselves.</p><p>When I was thirty-three and initially entered the workforce, things were very different. I used to work in a store that sold women’s shoes and men’s clothing. My work requirements were straightforward: I needed someone to hire and pay me. It didn’t matter to me if it was meaningful, entertaining, or helpful to others. It was necessary to pay the bills. So I did what needed to be done. But now I just stick to what makes me happy.</p><p><strong>2. Be kind and forgiving to yourself</strong></p><p>Throughout my life, I’ve been hard on myself. Family of origin information is deeply embedded in my DNA. Digging down the layers, reprogramming the operating system, and exorcising the majority of the demons took a lot of effort.</p><p>Negative self-talk, perfectionism, and unattainable standards have all been reduced. Instead of hiding my weaknesses, I’ve confronted them head-on, embracing them and doing everything I can do better. I still stumble now and then, but I’m catching myself sooner.</p><p>I’ve felt better the less harsh I’ve been with myself. Guilt, shame, and embarrassment are reduced. More contentment. More tranquility.</p><p>Perhaps most importantly, the kinder and more loving I am to myself, the kinder and more loving I am to others.</p><p><strong>3. Let the past be in the past</strong></p><p>Guilt is crippling. Acceptance gives you energy.</p><p>If my mind tries to lure me into thinking about how bad of a person I’ve been in the past, I push such ideas away as quickly as possible. If they don’t, I can feel them sucking the life out of me.</p><p>This form of self-torture has no place in my life if I truly want to live a tranquil existence. There are none.</p><p>Carrying remorse for the past is like carrying a huge stone on your back: you’ll be crushed over time. People who stand tall, both literally and metaphorically, do not carry the burdens of the past. They’ve placed it.</p><p>I’ve become lighter and brighter as I’ve made peace with the past.</p><p><strong>4. Appreciate what you have</strong></p><p>We typically appreciate what we have, but we often assess ourselves based on what we lack. Celebrate your new job. Celebrate the birth of a child. Celebrate your capacity to take a vacation.</p><p>But there’s an inner critic lurking beneath the surface, ready to tell us what we don’t have. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t help by bombarding us with messages about what we don’t have but desperately need.</p><p>I’m grateful to still be alive and to be able to appreciate what I have.</p><p>There’s no need for me to get interested in something I don’t have.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=d1f81c20450c" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Ava Healthcare: a Handmade tradition]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Wed, 25 May 2022 00:31:06 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-05-25T00:31:06.932Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*WliaqWtjMHpzI1Ox4---CA.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source : The CEO magazine</figcaption></figure><p>Dr. A.V. Anoop, Managing Director with over 36 years of experience in the soap, pharmaceutical, cosmetics, and food industries, promotes AVA Healthcare. AV Anoop holds a Ph.D. in philosophy from the Medicina Alternativa Institute, which is a branch of The Open International University for Complementary Medicines in Sri Lanka, and is a big fan of Ayurveda. During the 1980s, he joined his uncle’s soap-making company, Medimix, which has since grown to become one of India’s largest Ayurvedic bath soap brands. Medimix was later acquired by the AVA Group of companies, which specializes in a wide range of consumer products, with AV Anoop serving as Managing Director. Aside from its flagship product, Medimix, the company sells a variety of personal care, pharmaceutical, and cosmetic items. Dr. A.V Anoop is a film producer, social worker, and actor in addition to being a doctor.<br>As the world rapidly gravitates toward natural and organic products, the most ancient science of medicine and healthcare, Ayurveda, is reliving its glory. The reason for this shift has to be the practice of chemical-based production, which has been the reason for a lot of skin damage for quite some time. On one hand, we have the new trending organic home-grown products and on the other hand, we have a 5000-year-old tradition of holistic natural therapy that has its roots connected to Kerala. One of the world’s oldest healthcare practices, Ayurveda stands for the holistic healing of mind, body, and soul. It brings harmony and a healthy balance of three doshas or life forces of the human body- Vata, Pita, and Kapha.<br>The AVA Group is a multi-faceted conglomerate with interests in Personal Care, Natural Food, Natural Cosmetics, Alternative Wellness, Film Production, E-Commerce, and Organic Farming. Over many decades, the group has established itself as a leader in each industry in which it operates. <br>A V A Cholayil Healthcare is a leading handmade soap maker in the country, with the philosophy of making and selling personal products that are naturally made and not harmful to society. Every year, the 262 employees, spread across two factories in Chennai and one each in Pondicherry and Bangalore, handcraft 10 crore bars of bathing soap without the use of machines or a single unit of electricity. Soap production is mostly automated. Only about 8,000 tonnes of the four lakh tonnes of bathing soap manufactured in India are handmade. AVA Cholayil Health Care, which sells 15 crore Medimix brand soaps in south India each year, is the country’s and possibly the world’s largest handmade soap maker.<br>Even after the world is taken over by machines, Mr. Anoop sticks to the traditional way of making handmade soaps. He considers the method pure and organic and to top it all, the employment generated is a gift for the people rather than just using a machine. While all is well now, Mr. Anoop constantly worries about the future. “I wonder whether we will get workers once this batch retires,” he says. “Innovation has kept us going so far and I am sure we will come up with a solution to remain a handmade soap maker forever.”</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=8bfce4835983" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Two Indias]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2022 22:07:23 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-05-23T22:07:23.933Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/602/1*RvaT5uNw79mTBi3AacQs8w.jpeg" /></figure><p>We all are aware of the fact that there are two India’s and two types of Indians. We just don’t want an Indian to disclose it to the world; because we are intolerant of the truth and hypocritical. Comedian Vir Das recently performed at the Kennedy Center, and at the conclusion of his presentation, he recounted a poem titled “Two Indias,” in which he discussed the two sides of the country in which he resides. The comedian addressed a number of critical subjects and posed questions regarding a number of topics that have recently been discussed. The short speech addressed a wide range of topics, from the PM Cares fund to cricket to women’s safety in India.</p><p>Unfortunately, his forceful address failed to impress the culture he was speaking about. In reality, this stand-up routine has sparked threats, abuse, and outrage on Twitter. It seemed that people were just intolerant of the truth.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/700/1*9qKWwJxufXu2-CuoOev5gA.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source : truescoopnews</figcaption></figure><p>Here are the five most notable quotes from Two India&#39;s:</p><ol><li>“I come from an India where we worship women during the day and gang-rape them at night.”</li><li>“I come from an India where we have the largest working population under 30 on the planet, but still listen to 75-year-old leaders with 150-year-old ideas.”</li><li>“I come from an India where every time we get information, we are always available to care for the PM but we can’t seem to get information on PM CARES.”</li><li>“I come from an India where we take pride in being vegetarians, and yet run over the farmers who grow our vegetables.”</li></ol><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/300/1*sUmQTWi2isCDtkbpvfbr-Q.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source : truescoopnews</figcaption></figure><p>If you’re offended by any of these statements, then you probably belong to the other side of the country. We saw thousands of Twitter trails abusing and threatening him not because he was right or wrong but because it triggered so many people who believe ‘matters of the house should stay inside the four walls.</p><p>But where is the lie?</p><p>It is time to take a small walk down memory lane to a week ago when Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli’s baby girl was sent rape threats because of Kohli’s performance in the T20 World Cup.</p><p>We have normalized rape cases so much that it doesn’t bother us anymore, we just flip that newspaper page like it’s nothing. Probably we are just waiting for another barbaric case to come up to just post about it online and then ignore it till the next one is reported.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/300/1*H8d4psZQ-aTTD73LqdR8JA.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source : truescoopnews</figcaption></figure><p>At the conclusion of the video, Vir Das encouraged the sold-out audience to give the country a standing ovation. “I take pride in my country, and I carry that pride across the world. To me, a room full of people anywhere in the world, giving India an ovation is pure love, the video is a satire on the dichotomy of two very distinct Indias that do very different things. Light and dark, good and evil, exist in every nation. Nothing here is a secret. The film encourages us to never forget our greatness. Never lose sight of what makes us great. It all comes to a head with a massive patriotic round of applause for a country that we all love, believe in, and are proud of. That there is a deeper beauty to our country than the headlines. That is the video’s point and the reason for the standing ovation.” he added.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=f49bba8b39b8" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Down the memory lane: Agra]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 23 May 2022 20:16:12 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-05-23T20:16:12.696Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/563/1*SJMr8SqL814q14YaWsnrDw.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source: El Souviner</figcaption></figure><p>When people think of Agra, they think of India’s most famous monument: the Taj Mahal, often recognized as the world’s most magnificent structure. The city of Agra, on the other hand, is nowhere as lovely or calm as the Taj Mahal, but it is nevertheless a vital stop on any Indian tour and a part of the famous Golden Triangle.</p><p>I got through the maze of touts and souvenir sellers at the station and in the narrow streets outside the Taj Mahal relatively unscathed, and I didn’t find Agra to be as filthy or smelly as people had warned us, but perhaps I was just lucky because my friend had personal connections who made the trip easy. We managed to get the passes without standing in those never-ending lines and the guide also helped us to jump the cue for a quick entry.</p><p>As soon as I saw the Taj Mahal, I gasped. It was beautiful and unreal. The Taj Mahal is often regarded as one of the most stunning structures ever constructed. The magnificent marble structure in Agra, India, is a mausoleum, a lasting memorial to a husband’s love for his beloved wife. It’s also a lasting tribute to a powerful empire’s artistic and technological achievements.</p><p>The next day we visited a restaurant called Hichkee for some delicious food and drinks, the ambiance was to die for, soft music, rooftop seating with a view of the taj mahal, what more can a tourist ask for?</p><p>Many tourists conclude their Agra trip just after the Taj Mahal and a few of the other tombs, but it can’t be the testimony to the fact that Agra is more than that.</p><p>Later we planned to visit Vrindavan and Mathura to witness the essence of Hindu culture. Prem Mandir is the perfect example of beautiful architecture and rich history. It was built with beautiful white marble with color-changing lighting. There were moving sculptures all around the place, depicting the story of Lord Krishna from one to the other.</p><p>Mathura is certainly a once-in-a-lifetime experience. Krishna and Radha’s love story began in the Mathura outskirts and grew from there. The villagers were very generous towards the tourists. The food and snacks that were served at Mathura local market were just delicious and mouth-watering.</p><p><strong>Where to stay?</strong></p><p><strong>Zostel</strong></p><p>It is in an ideal location for touring, being only a 10-minute walk from the Taj Mahal’s east gate. It also has a huge, outdoor garden space. A little cafe/restaurant at the front of the building serves amazing masala chais and excellent palak paneer. The kind employees and the almost-as-friendly hostel cat are, nevertheless, the highlights for me.</p><p><strong>Price:</strong> 250–300 INR for dorms and 1500 INR for private rooms per night.</p><p><strong>Gostops</strong></p><p>GoStops, another renowned hostel brand in India, is a little more modern and roomy than Zostel, with cleaner and brighter rooms. The private rooms, however, are significantly more expensive than Zostel, and the trek to the Taj Mahal is slightly longer.</p><p><strong>Price:</strong> 300 INR for dorm rooms and 2000 INR for private rooms.</p><p><strong>Where to eat?</strong></p><p><strong>Hichkee</strong></p><p>As mentioned before, it’s a beautiful rooftop restaurant with amazing food and ambiance. With an excellent view of the entire city on one side and the taj mahal on the other side, it is a must-visit.</p><p><strong>Sheroes Hangout</strong></p><p>Sheroes Hangout isn’t just another cafe. It is a symbol of bravery and a fight against discrimination and stigma. This initiative by the Stop Acid Attacks campaign, led by five acid attack victims — Rupa, Neetu, Ritu, Geeta, and Chanchal — gives women who have been disfigured in heinous attacks a chance to recover from the debilitating blows to their self-esteem by integrating and being in public rather than living a life of obscurity.</p><p><strong>Other things to do in Agra</strong></p><ol><li>Itimad-ud-Daulah</li><li>Agra Fort</li><li>Mehtab Bagh</li><li>Kinari Bazaar</li><li>Boat ride on the Yamuna river</li><li>Taj nature walk</li></ol><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=6c5dee729b85" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[An undefined crime: Marital rape]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 19 May 2022 06:19:42 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-05-19T06:19:42.503Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the light of the recent split verdict on the criminalization of marital rape by the Delhi high court.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*-ibSoiaEyYS1k7wVXcV7NQ.jpeg" /><figcaption>Source: <a href="https://www.dw.com/en/india-is-it-time-to-declare-marital-rape-a-crime/a-61825953">https://www.dw.com/en/india-is-it-time-to-declare-marital-rape-a-crime/a-61825953</a></figcaption></figure><p><em>Night after night, the muffled cries of a woman were heard from the room of a newly married couple. The cries reeked of torture, anguish, and unbearable pain.</em></p><p><em>The woman, only in her twenties, married at such a young age, could not comprehend if this was the reality of marital bliss. Every night she would face verbal and physical abuse, and when she finally gained courage and complained about it to her mother, she got informed that it was the duty of a woman to keep her husband happy and that she must abide.</em></p><p>That is the plight of the majority of women in our country.</p><p>Rape is defined in Section 375 of the Indian Penal Code as “sexual intercourse with a woman against her will, without her consent, by coercion, misrepresentation, or fraud, or when she is intoxicated or duped or is of unsound mental health, and in any case if she is under the age of 18.” The Indian statute, on the other hand, makes no mention of marital rape. The exception 2 to Section 375, also known as the marital rape exception, is even more problematic, stating that “sexual intercourse by a man with his wife is not raped unless the wife is under the age of 15.”</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/719/1*elBsK5XtoEWbx0HozbQoMg.png" /><figcaption>Source : The quint</figcaption></figure><p>In simple terms, “marital rape” refers to sexual intercourse between a married couple without the wife’s consent, obtained through the use or threat of force or fear of danger to her or any other person she cares about.</p><p>The Supreme Court in a landmark judgment in 2017, in <a href="https://privacylibrary.ccgnlud.org/case/independent-thought-vs-union-of-india-and-ors#:~:text=In%202013%2C%20a%20child%20rights,of%2015%20and%2018%20years."><strong>Independent Thought vs Union of India</strong></a>, held that the marital rape exception will not hold if the wife is below 18 years of age. It read exception 2 of Section 375 as “<strong>sexual intercourse or sexual acts by a man with his wife, the wife not being under 18 of age, is not rape</strong>”. This exception gives immunity to men who sexually abuse their spouses and thus, legitimizes this kind of violence against women, making it a prominent human rights issue.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/718/1*PiEDknsmo16DGt6_AfOeZA.png" /><figcaption>Source : The Quint</figcaption></figure><p>Several writ petitions have been filed recently in the Delhi HC to criminalize marital rape, and rightfully so. While defenders of equal rights have lauded the petitions, some men have called on a “marriage strike” to protest the possible criminalization of marital rape.</p><p>The fight against marital rape is not a new one. It dates back decades but gained momentum in 2012 after the Nirbhaya rape case petrified the nation and alarmed to make rape laws more stringent.</p><p>Some reforms did abound as a result. For instance, a wider definition of what constitutes rape, longer prison sentences for convicts, and the addition of Nirbhaya brigades of female officers by police departments across India. However, marital or spousal rape was left out of the reform package even though data indicates that many women experience sexual violence within their marriages.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/717/1*NgsSpoL2hnUe5pYgSj6-sQ.png" /><figcaption>Source : The Quint</figcaption></figure><p>Data from the latest round of the National Family Health Survey suggest that about 30% of Indian women aged 18–49 reported becoming a victim of violence at home. Since marital rape has not been recognized in the Indian statute, there is no data on it, but “violence experienced at home” would likely include violence committed by husbands. In terms of sexual violence, the average Indian woman is 17 times more likely to face sexual violence from her husband than from anyone else, according to a survey of 724,115 women.</p><p>So, why has not this situation prompted an acknowledgment of marital rape even after the <a href="https://www.mha.gov.in/MHA1/Par2017/pdfs/par2020-pdfs/rs-11032020/1959.pdf">Justice JS Verma Committee</a> formed in the aftermath of the Nirbhaya rape case said that marriage or any intimate relationship between a man and woman is not a valid defense against sexual crimes like rape?</p><p>Apart from violating the fundamental rights of women, the fact that marital rape does not form a ground for divorce implies that women are forced to stay with their rapists leaving them in agony for the rest of their lives.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/715/1*uo908D2awo5kw8aHDchegA.png" /><figcaption>Source : The Quint</figcaption></figure><p>India is one of the thirty-six countries which has still not criminalized marital rape. India’s failure to recognize marital rape as a criminal offense breaches CEDAW-Convention on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women and various international human rights documents such as the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR), Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), Beijing Declaration and Declaration on the Elimination of Violence against Women (DEVAW).</p><p>The argument that rape is rape, whatever the identity of the rapist must be, should be acknowledged and marital rape criminalized so that women have an avenue in case their rights are violated.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=6e726fa2bae4" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Still a Damsel in distress?]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 12 May 2022 11:59:58 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-05-12T12:03:56.911Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/517/1*ncaXd_NWGPi2qUlyPBIQtQ.png" /><figcaption>(Source: Youthkiawaz.com)</figcaption></figure><p>“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our <br>heroes and she-roes!” -Maya Angelou</p><p>Bollywood has been known for its entertainment industry for as long as one can remember but it’s 2022 and the stereotypes still don’t seem to vanish. We still have movies where women are always portrayed as damsels in distress waiting for their prince to save them from misery. Even though one can argue that a woman’s character has a great significance in the plot of the movie, the stereotyping has no end.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/725/1*g0U4yHGon0UR0ckNgNZ8eg.jpeg" /><figcaption>Translate: For a married woman her husband is the temple and is the god. (Source: Youthkiawaz.com)</figcaption></figure><p>With RRR breaking box office records every day in terms of collection and public response, dancing for the men and just supporting the cause indirectly has been the major role of the female leads in the film.</p><p>Movies like Thappad, Gangubai Kathiawadi, Dil dhadakne do, and many more give importance to women characters and highlight the issues that prevail in society in terms of gender. Gangubai’s dialogue sends a shiver down everyone’s spine when she comments on a dead girl and how even the dead body is unsafe.</p><p>Movies like Kabir singh are the epitome of sexism. Amidst all the hooting and howling during the introductory scene where the character is forcing the woman to strip her clothes by pointing his knife, everyone fails to realize the depth of it and fails to understand what impact it leaves on the youth. Indian industry is no longer Indian, it’s global now we produce more than 1000 movies per year, but is this how we want the world to perceive our cinema? A sample survey showed that Indian films have largely depicted women in sexualized roles. Objectifying women on screen has been a prominent issue that Indian films have been battling.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/725/1*KZsrwkQpWCaMT11ym8t_UQ.jpeg" /><figcaption>Translate: If a woman is raped she loses her identity. (Source: Youthkiawaz.com)</figcaption></figure><p>A few stereotypical roles that were and are still existing in Indian cinema are of the Mother, the bad girl, the vamp/trouble maker, and the one in distress and to top this up all these women had no individuality. The characters of these women were only in a supporting manner, they never led, they followed.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/725/1*mVdSvoI-FH0ditM6c6I0rg.jpeg" /><figcaption>Translate: All women are melodramatic despite their age. (Source: Youthkiawaz.com)</figcaption></figure><p>Slowly and gradually we are witnessing movies that recite the tale of females and their battles. Movies like English Vinglish, Pink, Piku, Thappad, Chappak, Queen, and many more strongly put forward the struggles and the battles that women fight and how beautifully they conquer their lives. Thappad speaks of domestic violence, Pink about women consent for sex, English Vinglish about starting life again from scratch and Queen about a happy ever after with or without the prince charming, because it was about the women all along.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=85661162e785" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Leisure is a luxury]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@20pdj018/leisure-is-a-luxury-6387a8cbd66b?source=rss-5c2dd6299ec2------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[womens-health]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[leisure-time]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[casual-sexism]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[relaxing]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 26 Apr 2022 22:27:42 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-04-26T22:27:42.143Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/900/1*xjGbfEMlGg3sfmtEjEO3nA.png" /><figcaption><a href="https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/">https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/</a></figcaption></figure><p>How often do we see our mothers rambling around the house idly? A woman at leisure is a rare sight, like they say ‘a soldier is never off duty’ likewise a woman is never off duty, but do we consider household chores heroic? The idea of women at leisure is looked down upon, not only by the men but women who ridicule other women who are seen as idle. The deep-rooted sexism and the ‘duty’ of the women are to be blamed.</p><p>A photo-based project, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/">Basanti: Women at Leisure</a>, is a page on Instagram by Surabhi Yadav where she accumulates the pictures of women at leisure and glorifies them the way they should be. The page is about the majority of the women who aren’t wealthy enough to book a spa or massage for themselves. Women confine themselves to four walls and oscillate between the same tasks over and over again.</p><p>Bollywood movies always have a scene where we see either the father or grandfather reading a newspaper with tea that is prepared by the woman in the family, but how often do we see women in the movie doing anything that ain’t work? Sadly Bollywood is real when it comes to this. Women are snatched between rest and responsibility. They are brought up in a patriarchal setup where they are trained to work for the family 24*7. Women deserve more than just hospitality and management skills.</p><p>Bawari Basanti is a page that celebrates women at leisure and normalizes women seen doing other than household chores. On the page we can see women resting out in the sun with book-covered faces, painting their toenails, posing for a candid picture, or simply letting down their hair while plonked up on a tree.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/750/1*-92RYYFncQb2XeLKuhNdvA.jpeg" /><figcaption><a href="https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/">https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/</a></figcaption></figure><p>The freedom that men enjoy is looked down upon if practiced by women. Safety is also another major issue why women do not go out often. Men at leisure are threatening for women anywhere, to avoid mishappenings and exasperation women avoid stepping out. Most of the public spaces are occupied by men, they have been predominant for a long time. The group pictures on the page are evidence that women do not feel safe visiting places alone.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/750/1*E-U4st4qIKRMfu5S4PihXg.jpeg" /><figcaption><a href="https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/">https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/</a></figcaption></figure><p>Leisure is different for different women, some worship, others indulge in online Zumba sessions; some paint, some prepare seasonal pickles, others sew and knit. Women enjoy all this along with chit-chatting with their family and friends. Women who are working at home and in offices have no time for themselves and leisure, they are churned between work and responsibilities making their lives stressful and mundane.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/730/1*hJdAmwd-uG7IDw8myrF27A.jpeg" /><figcaption><a href="https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/">https://www.instagram.com/women_at_leisure/</a></figcaption></figure><p>This page is an ode to women, to their undying love and spirit for selves. These women are now working towards creating spaces for themselves and inspiring other women to create space for themselves and change the power dynamics. The pictures posted are beautiful and celebrate life, they are rare and admirable.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=6387a8cbd66b" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Jugaad + Technology can make a difference]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@20pdj018/jugaad-technology-can-make-a-difference-a15f3815a2ae?source=rss-5c2dd6299ec2------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[mobility-solutions]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[jugaad-india]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[jugaad-innovation]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Tue, 26 Apr 2022 20:25:08 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-04-26T20:30:05.848Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*uz_d1PCNx9ElPpzcnnJF8g.jpeg" /><figcaption>Photography — Robinson</figcaption></figure><p>Jugaad mindset fused with technology and a thoughtful approach to help the disabled move around freely was the idea behind the execution of Yali mobility. IIT Madras incubated company has hulked an affordable solution for people with locomotor disabilities. They have hybridized the idea of a bike and a wheelchair together. Yali has the speed of a bike and the space for a wheelchair. The bike design makes the control and navigation easy and hassle-free.</p><p>The idea behind the innovation was the complete independence for the people with disabilities who every now and then relied on other people to move around. The cost of transportation was another topic to debate on. A person with a disability who wanted to move around couldn’t do it without help and without burning a huge hole in their pockets, the absence of any of the two would completely restrict and diminish their day-to-day movement.</p><p>Keeping this in mind the team of Yali mobility has come up with an electrically powered three-wheeler that would do its magic. It is best supported for wheelchair users, a person with locomotor disabilities, and the elderly. The bike is constructed like a cocoon with a dual docking system to promise safety and assurance. Yali promises a comfortable and completely independent commute with no geographical limits. This will encourage its users and the billions of people with disabilities to move around anywhere anytime without assistance and with freedom.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=a15f3815a2ae" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[‘Pigs can’t fly’]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@20pdj018/pigs-cant-fly-f1bb619d7c23?source=rss-5c2dd6299ec2------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[nonbinaryvoices]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[toxic-masculinity]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[nonbinary-identity]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[patriarchy]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 25 Apr 2022 15:17:37 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-04-25T15:18:17.434Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*se2vIlWwavkew7oBy8oK6g.png" /><figcaption>forbes.com</figcaption></figure><p>Funny Boy by Shyam Selvadurai is a masterpiece, to be honest. It is one of the few books that touched my heart and changed my perspective on the life of kids who are different from what is normal for society. The novel is about a six-year boy Arjie who gradually discovers his sexuality and how he is treated in a joint family and then the story takes another dramatic turn in the end when there is a major civil war that breaks out in Sri Lanka between the Tamils and the Sinhalese that happened in 1983.</p><p>The novel covers different themes throughout, it talks about the vague picture of masculinity and queerness, and how queerness is looked down upon. It is safe to say that the novel is about justice, nationality, and moral awakening. The protagonist of the novel faces bullying and name-calling at a very young age. He is called ‘funny’ because of his game choices. When boys of his age would play cricket Arjie would love to play inside the house with other girls he loved to dress up as a bride and he loved watching his mother putting on makeup.</p><p>The novel introduces the rigid patriarchal set-up of Sri Lankan Tamil society where there are very well-defined spaces and activities for young girls and boys, for example, Bride-bride is a game that is played inside the house in the domestic space by the girls, and cricket is a sport for boys who are expected to go out and play regardless of their choice.</p><p>“Because the sky is so high and pigs can’t fly, that’s why.” This response from Arjie’s family where they compare him to pigs is just a prevailing stance for most people who do not fit in the idea of masculine and feminine. The very comparison between Arjie and a pig is absurd. Arjie is alienated from his family and faces the harsh realities of life while growing up. Bullying and name-calling at home and at school were normal for him and this very acceptance of harassment and torture is disheartening.</p><p>‘Pigs can’t fly’ also signifies that Arjie cannot achieve what he wishes to and will always be compelled to do what society expects of him.</p><p>The way a 6-year-old is harassed and bullied for not being what society calls ‘masculine’ is also a sad reality of people around the world who do not understand the world of gender binaries exists and that there are more than just two genders and different types of sexualities.</p><p>The way the novel unfolds the struggles of a gay schoolboy breaks my heart. It’s hard to imagine how people just have a sadistic side and how heartless they can be. Not only the people who are outsiders but Arjie’s own father and grandmother bully him and treat him indifferently. After being caught playing the game of bride- bride Arjie is told that “the sky is so high-and the pigs can’t fly” which directly reflects the conventional standards of the society and people who do not meet such conventions unlike Arjie are considered pigs and are intimidated that they cannot fly and survive in this world.</p><p>The novel also shows the harsh reality of the absurd idea of nationalism that prevails in the world which provokes the people to practice inhumanity. Arjie’s family loses members because of their nationality and they have to relocate themselves to another country in order to survive.</p><p>In the last few pages, Arjie goes back to his hometown, and witnessing his burnt house overwhelms and gives a moment of catharsis to the readers. It leaves them wondering about the cruelties that exist and how it destroys everything.</p><p>This novel is a wholesome piece that invokes so many thoughts in the readers. It is a bildungsroman of<strong> </strong>a six-year boy into a grown-up man. The novel is a journey of emotions and rationality.</p><p>Book title: Funny Boy</p><p>Author: Shyam Selvadurai</p><p>Genre: Fiction</p><p>Rating: 5/5</p><p>Publisher: Penguin</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=f1bb619d7c23" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[10 Step k-skin care : The Trendsetter]]></title>
            <link>https://medium.com/@20pdj018/10-step-k-skin-care-the-trendsetter-8950bf676686?source=rss-5c2dd6299ec2------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[skin-care-tips]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[healthy-skin]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[korean-skin-care-products]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Aishwarya Singh]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 11 Apr 2022 15:36:02 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2022-04-11T15:36:02.626Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3><strong>10 Step k-skin care : The Trendsetter</strong></h3><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/735/1*vZyLQOzhBwfOMF-5hoBNNA.jpeg" /><figcaption>bestofkorea.com</figcaption></figure><p>Fashion, make-up, and skincare have been a very extensive industry for as long as we can remember. This industry is not only fast-paced but it is also wavering in nature. For decades we have witnessed different trends from botox to acids to ayurvedic and home remedies in the same industry. Moving on over time people have now become obsessed with everything ‘Korean’, be it their music or their fashion statement. One thing that stands out is their magnificent and radiating skin. South Korea’s beauty industry was estimated to be worth just over $13 billion, according to retail researchers Mintel. They are not only innovative with their make-up and skincare products but the industry also breaks the stereotype of only women being obsessed with their looks, as they have Unisex products and have contemporary solutions for men.</p><p>Here goes the 10 steps to the Korean skincare routine!</p><ol><li><strong>Cleansing</strong></li></ol><p>The first step is to cleanse your skin with Oil cleansers. This oil-based cleanser is used for cleaning out the dirt, pollution, make-up, SPF, and other oil-based impurities that are on the skin. It is very important to remove your make-up at the end of the day, it helps your skin feel lighter.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/0*0cCzGrxr2oxFtBfh" /><figcaption>Via : Elle</figcaption></figure><p><strong>2. Water-based cleanser</strong></p><p>Korean skincare includes double cleanse, once you’re done with oil-based cleansing it is important to cleanse again with a water-based cleanser so that you remove the oil-based cleanser off your skin. The water-based cleanser also helps in removing impurities that cause pimples and acne.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/564/0*yjuoGvFJQvELpf99" /><figcaption>Via: allure.com</figcaption></figure><p><strong>3. Exfoliate</strong></p><p>Exfoliating the skin helps in opening up the pores and removing the dead skin cells that make the skin visibly bright and smooth. Unlike cleansing you don’t have to exfoliate your skin every day, once or twice a week is more than enough. If you have sensitive skin, it’s suggested to exfoliate only once a week.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/0*Vms1_8Zi7fzkNBXQ" /><figcaption>Via: <a href="https://www.womenshealthmag.com/beauty/a19775624/how-to-exfoliate-face/">https://www.womenshealthmag.com/beauty/a19775624/how-to-exfoliate-face/</a></figcaption></figure><p><strong>4.Toner</strong></p><p>The next step is using a toner on the face. Korean toners are milder and are gentle on the skin. They provide the first layer of hydration after cleansing and exfoliating and help in maintaining the pH level. You can either use a cotton pad to apply it or directly apple it with your fingers by patting it.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1019/0*aMNYpa7-Zq6U_dGY" /><figcaption>Via: beautytap</figcaption></figure><p><strong>5.Essence</strong></p><p>This is a very unique step in the Korean skincare regime. It basically floods the skin with hydration. It acts like a toner and a serum. It aids in cell repair and helps in reducing skin aging. It is really easy to apply, just a few drops on the face mixed and pat with hands.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/640/0*Gz-g-CkPvtagO-Ll" /><figcaption>Via: Femina</figcaption></figure><p><strong>6. Serum</strong></p><p>The serum is magic, and it works best after essence. Serum heals the skin and targets the skin issues such as dark spots, wrinkles, skin pigmentations, wrinkles, and dullness. It makes the skin glow.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/0*t1FFNGc4eMWYpETy" /><figcaption>Via: Forbes</figcaption></figure><p><strong>7. Sheet mask</strong></p><p>This floods the skin with ample hydration and creates a barrier to protect it and help the other products to work better. This can be done daily if your skin is dry and twice a week if normal. Sheet masks help brighten, control acne and hydrate your skin.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/0*wa1ZzvadnLqABK5p" /><figcaption>Via: freekamaal.com</figcaption></figure><p><strong>8. Eye cream</strong><br>Eye creams have active ingredients that target the sensitive areas near the eyes and treat them. Regular use of eye cream helps in reducing signs of aging and wrinkles along with puffiness and dark circles.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/610/0*R4uCs8HqP7oumJZn" /><figcaption>Via: tarte cosmetics</figcaption></figure><p><strong>9. Moisturizer</strong></p><p>This is a very important step in the skincare regime. It is done after all the steps because it creates a layer of oil over the skin that helps in trapping the hydration under your skin that protects the hydration from evaporating. This makes the skin plump and soft. It must be massaged on the skin for almost 10–15 mins to work its magic.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/0*EaMK_ZTvznfB_QPl" /><figcaption>Via: the skincare edit</figcaption></figure><p><strong>10. SPF</strong></p><p>SPF is a must every day even if you’re not heading outside. It protects the skin from aging and harmful UV rays. You can use a night cream for your night care routine but for mornings this is a must as it repels the UV rays and protects your skin against the sun.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/724/0*XTCkdQ3fOb-j51kl" /><figcaption>Via: cosmetics design europe</figcaption></figure><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=8950bf676686" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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