Do you feel over-responsible for the people around you, do you feel over-responsible for the world around you?

Over-responsibility can be a huge problem for so many of us especially us empaths, sensitives, caregiver archetypes and wounded healers.

It is a wound that runs deep in it’s distortions, even its awareness and over identification with other people’s pain and wounding.

So What Is Over-Responsibility?

Over- responsibility is in many ways the burden of excess responsibility. When you over respond to the world around you, take responsibility for other people’s stuff, situations and even the world around you.

The Root Causes Of Being Over-Responsible

The root cause of over responsibility usually begins in childhood. A time in our life where we set a lot of unhealthy patterns and distortions. Where we form certain belief patterns around certain circumstances and wounding.

The over responsible child is commonly seen in the parentified children who become a main caregiver, helper or even parent to their siblings or even their parents.

And/or a child that takes on extra responsibility for tasks and chores just to feel accepted, to belong or loved.

That is why traits of over-responsibility run high in children of addicts, sick parents, a disabled or chronically ill sibling or in large families.

But it is also highly prevalent in families who put high expectations on their children, teens and even young adults whilst lacking emotional availability.

My Own Challenges Of Over-Responsibility

My own life story was paved with deep patterns and feelings of over-responsibility. A highly a sensitive child and eldest of 9, who felt deeply, a highly sensitive empath who absorbed other people’s pain and wounding.

Even though I had a loving childhood, and in many ways as siblings we worked as a team. I took on certain beliefs, patterns that were expected of an eldest child who was highly empathic.

So much so I became the over rescuer, the over giver, victim, martyr and wounded healer. Who believed other people’s pain and even beliefs around me was my problem, was my responsibility.

This caused me all sorts of problems and for those that I tried to save.

Feeling Over-Responsible In Your Relationships

When we feel over-responsible for the people in our life whether that be our partner, our parents, siblings our friends.

We lose a part of ourselves, even damage ourselves and we stop others from evolving and growing by creating co-dependency patterns that don’t serve anyone.

This is such a big issue with so many empathic women, nurturers and caregivers. Until that over-responsibility becomes just too much.

And you know it is time for others to take self-responsibility and accountability for their actions or inactions.

Over-Responsible Leaders

In many types of leadership roles especially at work and in business there is an expectation and in many ways a required element of over-responsibility.

Especially if you are the Boss, the Manager, the Leader to many, a role that ensures that certain tasks and goals get completed, certain standards are set an maintained to get the job done.

What Cost Has Over Responsibility On Health And Wellbeing

What cost is these over demands to your mental, emotional and physical health.

The weight of over-responsibility can be a huge burden to our health, wellbeing and relationships.

This constant level of stress is a big cause of chronic and long-term stress and a variety of mental and emotional health issues including compassion fatigue and physical burnout.

That is why it is so important for us to look closely at what is external expectations and inner expectations.

For those with over responsible personality traits, those demands are actually internal. And even those that are external have to met or addressed by healing first what is an unhealthy and imbalanced distortion in ourself.

YES we can look at ways to reduce those unhealthy external demands or expectations but if we don’t address those unhealthy patterns within ourselves we will continue to attract, create and reinforce unhealthy patterns of over-responsibility.

About Eileen

Eileen Burns is a highly experienced Soul Empowerment Coach, Healer, Therapist & Soul Led Business Strategist For Empaths, Sensitives & Healers. She has been studying in the holistic and spiritual wellbeing field for over 30 years.

The most empowering thing we can do in our lifetime is become the hero of our own life.

The more empowered we become in a more soul aligned way, the more we lead by example.

We know its not what happens to us that defines us, but how we overcome or face these challenges.

In the hero’s journey the hero goes through a spiritual journey,
different initiations and life lessons.

Many times we keep repeating lessons, until we grow and evolve from them, sometimes we are like the Phoenix who rises out of the ashes.

We all experience different initiations, they shows up in all sorts of ways to test us.

It can be so easy for us to choose the the easier path, instead of the wiser and courageous one;

the road less travelled that leads us to greater spiritual strength and so many riches.

Humanity right now is facing many initiations, deep spiritual lessons on a massive scale.

But the problem is most of humanity is struggling,

struggling to be the hero of their own life.

They are so confused, distracted and overwhelmed,

they cannot see what is truth, what is the right path.

That is why its so important for us all to learn how to detach from the chaos, the distractions and propaganda manufactured to mislead and confuse us.

We need to spend more time in the quite in the stillness.

To make it easier to connect with your inner guidance, your inner compass that helps you access deeper truth.

We all have an inner navigation system that can give us to truth and strength.

God gave us a gift of spiritual discernment, the problem is we invest so much time and energy in things that are not that important.

That we leak power, we fill our minds with false narratives and give our attention to low priorities that keep us asleep, keep us small.

If you would LOVE more help in this area check out Eileen’s free resources, courses and one to one support.

Eileen Burns is a highly dedicated and compassionate Soul Empowerment Coach, Healer & Therapists who is passionate about helping empaths, healers and soul-led entrepreneurs get more soul-aligned and empowered in their life, purpose and work.

What is a Soulful Entrepreneur?

A soulful entrepreneur is a business owner that is more soul-led. The motives of a soul aligned entrepreneur is based on being on fulfilling a higher purpose.

They function at a level of consciousness that motivates them to make the world a better place.

Many soul-entrepreneurs look at their work as more of a vocation than just about making money.

What is a Soul-Aligned Business?

A soul-aligned business is a soul-led business;

In many ways a heart-based business that is based on a deep soul calling.

A soul-led business does it best to function at a high level of integrity, transparency and ethics.

Foundations Of A Soul Aligned Business

The main foundations of a more soul aligned biz include a deep calling that comes from the heart and soul.

Great inner connection and spiritual discernment. Clear alignment with your ethics, values and integrity.

A focused and positive and open mindset.

Top Tips To Create A Soulful Entrepreneur

• Develop A Deeper God And Soul Connection — Nurture a deeper spiritual connection with your heart, soul and god by meditating and praying daily.
• Develop Your Intuition — Learn how to harness your intuitive and spiritual gifts.
• Focus On A Business With The Highest Integrity — Ask for help to always show up in your business from the highest integrity, no matter the cost.
• Set Daily Positive Intentions — Get into the habit of setting positive intentions for your business, your employees, contractors and clients at the beginning of your day.
• Open Your Heart Up To Limitless Possibilities — Open your mind and heart up to miracles, magic and all sorts of gifts from the universe and in divine timing.
• Value And Celebrate Each Employee And Team-Member — Do what you can to celebrate, honour, value and respect each employee and team members. Celebrate achievements, goals and wins.

Examples Of A Soul-Aligned Business

There are so many different types of soul-aligned businesses.

So many people following their inner calling that helps raise the consciousness of humanity and the planet

Meditation and Mindfulness Classes by those who live and breath mindfulness or meditation.

Organic Farms ran by farmers who are passionate about providing toxic free fresh organic produce.

Holistic business owners who want to help encourage and educate others into a more healthy holistic lifestyle.

Local-based businesses that are creating and providing more healthier sustainable solutions.

Charities and support organisations that do what they can to make a difference, align their organisations with the highest levels of integrity and ethics.

Eileen Burns is a soul purpose healer, coach and soul aligned business strategist for holistic, spiritual and soul-led business owners. She runs the Spiritual Marketing Club and Eileen Burns- Soul Empowerment For Success

Are You A Highly Sensitive Person?

According to a wide range of studies 15–20% of the people are regarded as highly sensitive. HSP Expert, Dr Elaine Aaron suggests that many people think they are highly sensitive when they are not.

In recent years research has stated being a highly sensitive person also known as being hypersensitive is not a dis-order or a weakness. Not a person who is emotionally unstable or emotionally immature. In-fact the Highly Sensitive Brain in an FMRI study displayed sensory processing sensitivity in response to others’ feelings. The highly sensitive person shows clear evidence that they are physiologically affected by the environment and the moods that surrounds us.

A clear explanation why many Highly Sensitive People struggle with many aspects of modern day living. Especially the issues around sensory and information overload. Which explains why so many HSP’s are more likely to suffer chronic anxiety, stress, exhaustion and other health related issues.

Being a highly sensitive person isn’t just about struggle, HSP’s have many needed gifts and skills. In many ways society needs the compassion and awareness of the HSP. Especially when so much of society encourages people to deny or suppress their emotions, their fear, pain and sensitivity.

The highly sensitive person often has greater intuition, wisdom, empathy and awareness of the inner world of the people and the world around them. Probaby the main reason many HSP’s are the carers, counsellors, healers, helpers, nurses, therapists …

But could also be the reason why so many in these helping and nurturing careers often suffer from some form of burn out.

Common Traits Of A Highly Sensitive Person

Highly Compassionate And Caring — most highly sensitive people care for others deeply. They are extremely compassionate it naturally oozes out of them. They are often so giving self care is often last on their list.

Highly Emotional — a highly sensitive person tends to appear more emotional, they cry more easily in situations, things and events not affected by others.

Highly Empathic -a highly sensitive person is usually highly empathic, easily affected by other people’s emotional and mental pain, fear or negativity

Highly Intuitive And Psychic — highly sensitive people tend to be more intuitive and psychic. Although many block their psychic abilities from a young age because of their own fear and other’s lack of understanding. They tend to have a strong inner knowing, especially about people they meet and situations around them.

Highly Spiritual — they are usually naturally attracted to various aspects of spirituality.

Many HSP’s Freeze Or Shutdown– Many HSP ’s shut down emotionally as children especially those that are empaths. Some life experiences and transitions can be quite traumatic. Many become very ungrounded, uncentred and not fully in their energetic body. They can demonstrate symptoms of high anxiety from very young.

Need More Time Out- Most HSP’s tends to need more time to swich off, unplug, relax, even sleep. Many HSP’s need more time of isolation to recover from information or sensory processing overload.

Struggle With Violence And Strong Negativity — The hypersensitive person often has a strong aversion to violent or negative media such as the news and tv.

Struggle To Function in Busy Environments — Many hsp can struggle to function or work in busy or noisey environments like call centres, busy office, factory even at school, college. Time away from their desk, owork environment, others to become re-focused and re-energised may be necessary.

So How Can A HSP Become More Resilient To Modern Day Life?

The Highly Sensitive Person usually has to work at being more boundaried and resilient. They often need to live a more simpler, stress free life. And learn how to balance their sensitive gifts with the harsher extremes of modern day living. So it is vital that HSP’s learns effective anxiety and stress management skills.

HSP’s need to learn how to become more ground and centred on a daily basis. The highly sensitive person is often more in their heart and spiritual realms or upper chakras than in their lower chakras. Their energy fields tends to be a lot more scattered as they easily absorb the energies around them.

I know as a HSP from as long as I can remember, how much more aware, intuitive and sensitive I was to my surroundings. And how greatly this impacted my life. Thankfully the most powerful skill I began using 25 years ago was meditation. As a trainer/ teacher in stress management for 18 years who has a very large tool box of tools and techniques. I still believe teaching someone how to access stillness in any moment of their every day life. Is the most powerful gift you can give anyone. Especially HSP’s who tends to take on other’s emotional thoughts, feelings and physical symptoms far too easily. The right style of meditation can help a HSP become more centred within their own energetic space. And be more aware of what energy, emotions belongs to those around them.

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Originally published at sensitivesoulscoach.com on May 26, 2018.

We all want the best for our children, but how do you really empower your child. We know how poor self-esteem andlack of self-confidence impacts the way we approach and live our life.

Parenting can be tough, you read so much about what you shouldn’t do but what about what you should do. So how do you empower our child who may be sensitive, sensory challenged, shy, disabled or ill?

Here is a five powerful yet simple ways you can empower your child for life!

5 Simple, Powerful Ways You Can Empower Your Child Today!

• Help Them Recognise They Are Enough: We live in a society and culture that in many ways has everyone believing they are lacking, they need to have or be more to be loved, accepted, valued, respected, successful. When this is so not true. This is such a huge distortion. We can help a child open up and live their greatest potential. But helping them recognise they are enough right now, at this moment is the most powerful thing you can.
• Celebrate Your Child’s Unique And Quirky Traits: Helping your child celebrate those quirky, unique and challenging traits they may have is about helping them recognise they are so much more than enough. And that they are here with their own unique traits, for a particular purpose. There are somethings a child grows out of but it is so important to love and accept them just as they are.
• Open Up Your Child’s Perception And Potential: Help your child see out of the box, look past limitations even your own. Open them up to the rich tapestry of life, other ideas, other skills, let them try things. Often parents unawaringly or well meaningly limit their child’s dreams, they can squash down their ” Joie de vivre” Joy of Living. Or they do the opposite and fill in all sorts of activities into their child’s schedule without enough downtime. Sadly over 18 years as a Stress Therapist I have seen many children with depression and anxiety. And some children who developed suicidal tendencies exacberated by this sort of pressure from parents.
• Empower Yourself: When you empower yourself, you empower your child, children are energetic sponges, so they can easily take on other’s anxiety, stress and depression. Especially children who are extremely sensitive who find it difficult to identify what is their energy and emotions and others.
• Teach Your Child How To Meditate: When you teach your child the right type of meditation, your child can access calm and peace whenever they want. Now I am not talking about guided meditations, they can help your child to relax and help build self-worth, confidence … I am talking about meditation skills that with daily practise will eventually let them access instant stillness. So whatever life challenges or stress come along, your child will have the tools to deal with them more effectively. The right meditation and mindful skills can also help your child become more accepting, compassionate about themself and those around them. Their less likley to have chronic anxiety, depression or chronic stress because they are not as lost in negative thinking.

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Originally published at eileenburns.co.uk on February 28, 2018.

But with modern day living, many children are becoming addicted to technology, sugar and other unhealthy habits from a very young age. Unhealthy patterns that can seriously impact the quality and potential of their adult life. Meditation and mindfulness for children can actually reduce many of these habits. Meditation can support a child in many ways, in-fact in many ways meditation can be your child’s best friend.

Here are a few reasons meditation and mindfulness for children is a highly beneficial life skill.

Meditation And Mindfulness Can Help Reduce Anxiety, Stress And Depression– Sadly more and more children are struggling emotionally and mentally through over-stimulation, chronic anxiety and depression. Meditation and mindful activities encourage the body off the stress response into the calm response. A reason why mindfulness for children has became the latest skill in many schools.

Meditation and Mindfulness Calms The Monkey Mind– Children now have an amazing ability to grasp new tasks and activities. But are struggling to concentrate or just be. Look how toddlers quickly grasp how to use your mobile phone or ipad. Like adults these devices become too addictive and distracting. Their minds get used to darting to different things and lead to poor concentration, a verylow attention span. Young children are forgetting how to be care-free, relaxed and content. This is not healthy, this is what causes anxiety, stress and over-stimulation. Mindful activites and meditation techniques loosen the attachment to the monkey mind. And in many ways re-teaches the mind and body back into balance. That is why mindfulness and meditation is a popular self help tool for kids with adhd, autism and aspergers .

Mindful Activities And Meditation Encourages Confidence– Lack of self-esteem, self-worth and confidence are all triggered and caused by our mental beliefs, by over-thinking. When a child learns to let go of these self-destructive tendencies they become more calm and confident. Your child recognises they are enough, they are not their thoughts. When we access a place of deep peace regularly we are more at peace with ourselves. I have witnessed many children with various disabilities and challenges completely change in attitude, confidence and ability through learning meditation. You would be surpised how powerful these skills can be when encouraged in a child’s daily life and way of being.

Mindfulness And Meditation For Emotional Resilience – We all have different life challenges and emotional pain to varied degrees. But how we view and approach these life challenges is what makes us struggle or suffer. The right mindful and meditation tools can teach your child how to accept their pain, accept their emotions without judgement. When we allow our pain to arise and flow in acceptance, we reduce reaction, fear, destruction and denial. An emotionally healthy child is a happy child, a child who creates happier and healthier communication skills and positive relationships.That is why the right meditation course builds emotional resilience.

Daily Meditation Encourages Healthier Sleep Routines– It is much easier for any adult or to mentally, emotionally and physically switch off when they have been calm. Many parents are so focused on physically tiring their child out to get them to bed and off to sleep. But there is a huge difference between physical tiredness and mental tiredness. Mental tiredness is often mental stimulation and one of the biggest reasons children and teenagers don’t want to go to bed. With so much information and technology overload, many kid’s natural circardian rythm is out of sync. Daily meditation and mindful activities naturally encourage the mental and physical body back into its natural circardian state.

As a meditator for 25 years who has taught meditation to all ages including children for over 16 years. I have witnessed how much meditation can change the way a person approaches and lives their life.

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Originally published at eileenburns.co.uk on February 13, 2018.

More recent medical research is starting to recognise the unique traits of a highly sensitive child or highly sensitive person. Especially with raised awareness and education on HSC with sensory processing challenges, those on the autism or aspergers spectrum.

So what are some common signs of a highly sensitive child or highly sensitive person

• A Highly Emotional Child is often a highly sensitive child. Highly sensitive kids are highly empathic and are more likely to put other’s emotional needs before them-self. The sensitive child will often over-identify and/or take on other’s emotional pain. Especially as a HSP find’s it difficult to set healthy boundaries. This can seriously impact their mental, emotional and physical well-being.
• The Easily Over-Stimulated Child is often a HSP. Highly sensitive children are more easily stimulated; noise, visuals, smells, touch, movement and taste. For some HSP’S sensory sensitivity can be extremely disabling, seriously impacting their life. Some can find specific noises extremely painful or uncomfortable or find the slightest touch intolerable.
• The Child Who Is Seriously Disturbed Aggression, Violence. Many highly sensitive children will find even the slightest violence quite disturbing. So can be seriously upset or traumatised by horror movies or any violence on the TV.
• A Child Who Suffers Irrational or Irrelevant Guilt is a common trait of the over sensitive child. Due to their highly empathic nature a HSC often finds it difficulty to identify their own emotions or challenges with others.
• The People Pleasing Child - Highly sensitive people generally are people pleasers, often to their own detriment. Many HSP’s will go out of their way to be kind, please others as they don’t want to hurt others or cause conflict.
• The Child Who Wants To Spend Time Alone - The sensitive child will usually need more time out and alone. Highly sensitive kids and teenagers need far more time away from other people and time to unplug from technology. Even if your child appears sociable and talkative. They may get over stimulated and burn-out very easily. This can sometimes appear as hyper or fun to be around, but is often over-stimulation or over-excitement.
• The Child Who Is Highly Intuitive- HSP’s are usually very intuitive and are good judge of character. But because of deep compassion and empathy will often let their heart rule their head. It is important they learn to trust and be guided by their inner guidance.

Powerful Yet Simple Life Tools You Can Teach A Highly Sensitive Child

Highly sensitive children need calm and respite from the over stimulation and information over load of modern life. As a meditation teacher and stress expert I have witnessed for many years, the huge benefits highly sensitive children would get from the right meditation skills and the right relaxation techniques. As the right type of meditation helps one access inner calm and peace no matter what is happening around them.

My worked involved working many with children, teenagers with autism, aspergers and their parents. It is just as important that the highly sensitive child’s family learn to relax and manage their stress as the highly sensitive teenager or highly sensitive kid. FREE Guided Meditation for kids and Free Traditional Breath Meditation

Originally published at eileenburns.co.uk on December 29, 2017.

Commercialisation has played a huge part in the mass cultural pressure of what is perceived as the perfect Christmas. Coca-Cola’s reinvention of a more jolly Santa in 1931 began to open the floodgates for commercial businesses to manipulate consumers into emotional buying.

And sadly today that has evolved into massive debt in 9 out of 10 people. In-fact that consumers in the UK were said to have spent £11 billion in deb to fund Christmas in 2016. And as we all know debt not only can affect your security, but your day to day life, home and relationships. Debt is one of the biggest reasons for a great deal of anxiety and stress and the reason why so many people play the lottery at this time of year, hoping and praying for a debt free Christmas or New Year.

But the truth is Christmas doesn’t have to be as expensive as we have come to believe it to be. We simply get caught up in the perception, the conditioning and sometimes peer and family pressure.

So how can you achieve a more healthy debt free Christmas?

Especially when you haven’t saved or simply don’t have the income to stretch past the bills.

• Prioritise — Remind yourself what Christmas is really about, it is actually about generosity of heart not generosity of money. Being there and spending time with the people is far more important. Focus on who and what is important like the kids first. If you have kids, are on an extremely low budget and have a very low budget shop around, check out second hand shops, online facebook groups- you would be shocked what people give away or sell that has been rarely used or never opened. My sisters have kids at all different ages, and so many of them who had really young kids, would put away Christmas gifts that were never opened and forgot about. It is worth remembering that really young children don’t need a lot and have no perceived conception around what they should or shouldn’t get. One of my sisters actively buy’s recycled goods like bicycles both her and her husband have good jobs, he is a lawyer but they choose to support a more healthier environmental way to shop. And their kids love it, especially when they highlight how much buying a specific item has helped reduce carbon footprints etc
• Set A Budget– always have a budget for gifts, shopping and things like taxis, night’s out. Christmas can be a tempting time just to join in in every party, night-out or to get carried away but have a budget and stick to it. If you are tempted to spend more than you have but can access the money as cash without any interest. It can be worth making a deal you only spend what you have in cash but I would suggest for bigger gifts that you want to buy that you want some extra insurance on use your credit card.
• Make Your Gifts– I know that sounds so old fashioned but this is actually so in and so much more appreciated, also it can be great fun especially with the kids. As a single person who spent a large time being very ill unable to work and belonging to a large family, I had to be resourceful. I would watch out for bargains throughout the year but I have made all sorts of gifts through the years from bath bombs, aromatherapy massage blends, ginger wine, homemade chocolates, my own cards, scarves…This year I am making bath bombs and large bath salts in large plastic sweetie jars with some of my nieces n nephew.
• Focus On Having Fun Not Expense — Focus on gifts that will bring the greatest fun, not keeping up with the Jones’s but something they will not get bored with after a few days. Belonging to a huge family, a lot of us when strapped for cash, would choose gifts that are in-expensive but so much fun. This is a great ideal if you have been asked to someone’s for dinner or Christmas. It is amazing what you can pick up in shops like B&M, Poundland, craft or hardware shops when finances are seriously stretched, the fun these gifts bring seriously take the heat off any perceived un-comfortableness with gift sharing. But always remember Christmas is never about how much you spend not matter what other’s around you believe. And just because someone spends a certain amount certainly doesn’t mean you have to do the same.
• Finance– if you feel or believe you have no choice to get a loan or credit card, make a wise choice- choose an interest free card when you can, there are so many options. Check out the Money Saving Expert for this and other ideas to save money. Please be very very careful whom and where you borrow money and always check out the APR if your not great with numbers or money. It can be a good ideal to get a friend to check the fine print out for you or help work out repayments. But remember your well-being is far more important than any Christmas gift .

If you struggle with anxiety or stress at this time year. Myself and my good friend David Rabone, The Soul Healer are running a special Christmas advent of stress free tips and words of wisdom delivered to your inbox from 1st Dec -25th Dec you can join in anytime. We will be giving away some amazing FREE Gifts with a chance to win a one to one session with both of us.

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Originally published at stress-coach.co.uk on December 3, 2017.

Over the last few years the life coaching industry has went a bit crazy. With coaching being the latest fad in self-employment. More than ever we have many seriously unskilled coaches trying to grow their business as so called experts. Many with little more than a few days fast track training from coaching and therapy schools only interested in profit not adequate professional training.

With such an explosion in the market we are seeing both new and experienced life coaches and business coaches frazzled, frustrated and fed up. Hoping, praying for more, desperately disappointed their coaching business isn’t bringing them the balance and success they dreamed of.

Clients Need A Calm Confident Coach

The reality is that clients want and need a coach that is calm, confident and balanced. Clients deserve more than a struggling, stressed out coach. So if your showing up as more desperate than in demand, more exhausted and anxious than confident, your not in the best space for clients.

Clients want to desperately feel a calm, confident energy from their coach. After all you are the one that is there to support them. And if you aren’t coming from that calm clear space where transformation begins. Or aren’t looking after and supporting you. How can you support and really help your clients effectively?

Sadly there are more and more coaches trying to fake it until they make it and it doesn’t last very long. Even if they do attract a few clients, things start to crumble because they haven’t got the basic foundations in place. Especially with so many coaches trying to sell their self as experts with very little experience or skills. Expertise comes with years, decades not after a few months.

Are You Resonating Calm, Confidence & Clarity In Your Coaching?

5 Signs Your Not A Calm Confident Coach

1. Constantly Rushing — Your rushing between clients, rushing tasks, rushing aspects of your life and business.
2. Focusing On Next Clients -Your constantly focusing on the next client or always on more clients. Instead of giving your full undivided attention to your present clients.
3. Creating Not Selling — Your continually creating more and more programs but not actually selling. And putting quantity before quality.
4. Constantly Doubt Yourself — You continually question yourself if you actually are an effective coach.
5. Constantly Compare Yourself — You constantly compare yourself to other coaches.

5 Ways You Can Become A More Calm Confident Coach

1. Be In The Moment- Focus on the present moment, not in the past or future but be fully here with whatever client or task you are doing.
2. STOP- Take time out to stop especially between tasks and clients, Make sure you give yourself at least 5 minutes between clients to detach and let go energetically and mentally.
3. START Sessions From A Calm Space– Do whatever you need to before a session or at the beginning of a session to help hold a calm, safe supportive space for yourself and your client.
4. COACH on Areas of Expertise -don’t try to coach in everything and anything, be a master and expert in one area, not a jack of all trades.
5. FOCUS on Your Uniqueness- Focus and recognise your own abilities, your own skill set.

When you apply these principles you not only become a more calmer coach but you are so natural you are authentic. When you are authentic you attract more soul clients. If you would love to be more calm, confident and successful check out my FREE Download & Video- 10 Successful Steps -Become Calm Confident Coach

by Eileen Burns, owner of Stress Coach Training & Spiritual Marketing Club

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Originally published at spiritualmarketingclub.com on May 2, 2017.

Businesses have to move with society, with their clients, needs and wants, that is a basic element of business.

In the holistic, spiritual and self development journey our business has to evolve with us as we develop and grow in our awareness, understanding, education and even wisdom.

If you are a healer or coach who doesn’t invest in your own self enquiry, awareness or development, your journey; you and your business can get stuck. One of the reasons that the most powerful healers constantly invest in them self, they want to wake up and grow, moving with the flow with the times and truly live their life’s purpose.

If you want your business to grow you have to

1. Wake Up; Don’t get stuck into one way of thinking, one modality, one teaching; Reiki was my first modality and although I still cherish this journey deeply, it was simply the door to my journey. I was very fortunate enough to have came across many teachers who didn’t proclaim to know everything. They didn’t fall into the ego of believing they were true masters but students even those who dedicated most of their life to one type of healing discipline our modality, as each of us evolve in many ways. The most powerful healers and teachers encouraged different thoughts about what specific teachings may have pointed at knowing they were only scratching the surface, whilst never watering down the teachings or simply adding their own slant for the same of it. You can only fully wake up when you open up and allow other insights, ideas, new learning and wisdom to come in. So many coaches and healers don’t grow in their self or business as they think they know best, many with very little experience or insight while there is a whole world of healing and spiritual teachings out there that could really open or even shatter their limited perspective.
2. Don’t Hide Your Head In The Sand; If things aren’t working they way they used to, face the situation head on, inspect why something may not be working. is it what your offering, is it really what clients want and need? Is it where or the way you are promoting, selling your products or services; when everyone is offering the same product you have to show what is different, unique, relevant or special compared to everyone else and that is you. Maybe it’s just time that you stepped up and simply do what your really here to do, maybe your being nudged by the universe for another more important role or do you seriously need to look at your motivating factors.
3. Smell The Roses; Sometimes you have to actually see what you already have. The energy of gratitude helps you resonate at a higher vibration and it is also helps you see with greater appreciation all the gifts, experience, wisdom you actually have. Helping you see other ways you can offering and share your gifts.
4. One Step At A Time; Trying to tackle the end of the problem, the end of the goal or story never works, you need to start at the beginning and take one step at a time. In a time of instant gratification everyone wants everything now, so many coaches and therapists try to take the shortest way to earning money or building a business. They may get an initial boost but they often fall flat on their feet as they haven’t built a strong foundation or took the time to develop their skills.
5. Build A Strong Foundation; Always build your business on your biggest strengths, biggest experiences not those things you haven’t yet mastered or don’t really fully understand. Start with your strongest skills even if that is your personality, your life experience build that into your business, make that your focus for example maybe you are a great nurturer who helps people feel safe, cared for build your business around that, maybe you have always been an alchemist who can help transform change in someone with a simple few words build your business around that. Enquire about your greatest spiritual and healing gifts.
6. Choose Your Teachers Wisely; Although everyone we meet is a teacher, when we are actually investing in training and skills, choose very wisely, never simply go with what that teacher or it’s training school tells you, do your homework. They are never going to give you the reasons why you shouldn’t go with them. Now more than ever we have businesses promoting them self as training school’s who are not worth the paper they are written. Owned and run by people who aren’t even fully qualified or experienced them-self never mind experienced to teach anyone else. I see more and more coaches and healers investing in thousands to tens of thousands of pounds in training that is not worth the paper it is written on and it isn’t till later down the line they realise in more ways than one that they aren’t as skilled or qualified as they thought.
7. Do What You Love; My personal and professional opinion in the holistic and spiritual industry is only do what you love, not what you think it will bring you. When you you love what you do you it in such a natural state it oozes out of you, when you do it for money, stature, respect or what you think it will give you, you are in a constant battle with your ego, you will constantly struggle to prove your worth, your value.

It’s quite remarkable the changes I have witnessed and been involved in this industry over the last 25 years and it will continue to change.

We have to allow life’s journey to take us to the beauty and magic of the unknown.

We may face many fears as we go along that journey but with each fear, you can take solice that each part of the journey increases our wisdom and strength for others along the path.