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            <title><![CDATA[Pen and paper can make you find your way]]></title>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Nadia Arfani]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Thu, 31 Aug 2017 22:30:02 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/700/1*PJOSwf_vL9pEDQK_-uaL6w.png" /></figure><p>Are you struggling with a painful issue in your life? Feeling overwhelmed by numerous questions? Or just feeling stuck in your current career?</p><p>I know this could seem crazy, but… <strong><em>what if your answers lie in pen and paper?</em></strong></p><p>Difficult to believe, right? Well, this is my story…</p><p>4 years ago, stuck in my engineering career, I decided to take a break and enrolled in an MBA degree. I finished first place in my class and that reminded me my early age victories, when I was collecting successive <em>‘first class’</em> certifications, school awards and parents’ pride…</p><p>However, this time, <em>success</em> had not the same taste. Nor did it entail the same relief. It was only the first step of a seemingly long and uncertain career transition. I was aware of it.</p><p>I knew the road I have taken will not be straightforward, and I knew that I still had <em>sooo</em> many things to do before I could claim any success.</p><p><strong>« But WHAT? » : That was the obsessing and depressing question…</strong></p><p>Obviously, I was willing to experiment new things but not to fail…</p><p>I was repeatedly asking myself what to do next, as if the answer was hidden somewhere in me. Or, as if both my mind and my heart — that made me take the crazy decision to escape my steady dead-end job — had all answers, and that I just needed to urge them to get a hint of light!</p><h3>Pain and Dreams: the invisible link…</h3><p>The truth is: I was actually blocking myself, obsessing about an immediate solution — the myth that our next career move would be just there, around the corner, waiting for us to catch it! — in stead of concretely looking for sustainable answers.</p><p>At that time, I had in mind no more ambitious output than reintegrating the big corporations world, hoping for a more dynamic and prestigious position. So I jumped at the first seemingly promising<em> </em>opportunity, and quickly, figured out that it was another failure…</p><blockquote>« There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure. » — Paulo Coelho</blockquote><p>When we evoke the word ‘<em>failure</em>’, we commonly evoke pain. No-one wants to be in pain!</p><p>But if we look at how scientists define pain, we will read: <em>‘Pain is an unpleasant feeling, a warning signal that something is damaged and needs to be protected and recovered.’ (</em><a href="http://theconversation.com/explainer-what-is-pain-and-what-is-happening-when-we-feel-it-49040"><em>More reading here</em></a><em>)</em></p><p><em>More than an unpleasant feeling, pain is a guiding signal toward recovery.</em></p><p>It points its noise in our life whenever something is wrong, and promises to stay there unless we do something about it.</p><p>Viewed this way, pain could serve us: it could be a trigger for taking action. However, the <em>right amount</em> of it <em>is</em> the key to taking the <em>right</em> action; that is the one that connects us with our truest dreams.</p><h3>Your truest dream lies in pen and paper</h3><p>Few of us really know and use the power of pen and paper.</p><p>They are politicians, artists, influencers, and successful entrepreneurs.</p><p>Yet, all of us know how difficult it could be when it comes to writing down our true feelings, fears, struggles, desires and failures.</p><p>There is a profound sense of self-connection and commitment in the act of writing on paper.</p><p>We tend to feel obliged to put something true and accurate.</p><p>It is no strange that in our daily life we require contracts and evidence to be written, and even signed, to look reliable.</p><p>3 years ago, if someone had asked me to write down anything that crosses my mind in order to figure out my true calling, I would have politely pretended having something urgent to do and would have left the conversation illico presto!</p><p>Of course it is hard to believe in such advice, especially when we are urged by that sticky ‘<em>what to do next?</em>’ question, and eager to close the painful <em>career move</em> case.</p><p>It took me almost 2 years — some travels, some losses, few encounters and few books — to consider the unexpected possibilities that a daily writing could reveal.</p><p>I started doubtful, dedicating no more than 20 minutes of daily morning writing. Useless to say how much it was difficult to commit or to put anything of interest. And for a long time, I had resisted bringing back painful memories or examining my early conditioning.</p><blockquote>« Courage isn’t having the strength to go on — it is going on when you don’t have strength. » — Napoleon</blockquote><p>I missed many days of writing. But the more I forced myself to go back to it, the more I raised uncomfortable questions, released negative feelings and revealed buried dreams.</p><p>It was not a linear process. Nevertheless, a progressive clarity started to emerge: A long time ago, I have dreamed of being a writer… How could I have been so blind?</p><p>Since that self-awareness moment, I committed to the <em>daily pen and paper writing </em>and decided to share a part of it loudly on <a href="http://www.liberateyourpen.com/"><strong>my blog</strong></a> created early this year.</p><p>It is known that buried dreams lead to deep pain… But through writing, I discovered that deep pain could also lead us to unbury our greatest dreams…</p><p><strong><em>Are you convinced to give it a try?</em></strong></p><p><em>— Originally published at </em><a href="http://www.liberateyourpen.com/"><strong><em>LiberateYourPen.com</em></strong></a><em> on July 12, 2017.</em></p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/522/1*bFZtMEgHPs2M5LUAI1Q2cQ.png" /><figcaption><a href="http://www.liberateyourpen.com/">LiberateYourPen Blog</a></figcaption></figure><p><strong><em>If you like this article, support me! </em></strong><a href="http://www.liberateyourpen.com/"><strong><em>Subscribe to my free newsletter</em></strong></a><strong><em> to receive more ideas and tips!</em></strong></p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=d4ae08c31e48" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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