<![CDATA[Stories by UnaTolkien on Medium]]> https://medium.com/@UnaTolkien?source=rss-69a71b91003d------2 https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/fit/c/150/150/1*R_9f8PDxn5IgWHsiRIjo3g.jpeg Stories by UnaTolkien on Medium https://medium.com/@UnaTolkien?source=rss-69a71b91003d------2 Medium Sat, 14 Nov 2026 23:59:17 GMT <![CDATA[I Tasted Chocolate-Flavored Shit for Three Years]]>

A raw, unforgettable metaphor for the difference between being loved and being stored by a man who was never coming back

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A casual touch at work exposed what I’d spent years refusing to name

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I wanted the confrontation without the consequences — so I manufactured suspicion instead of infidelity

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On swallowing, and the night I finally couldn’t.

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On the smallest lie I’ve told the people I was trying to love — and what it really meant

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The wreckage wasn’t the affair. It was the decade of “just friendship” that made it inevitable — the slow migration of her intimacy to…

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He called our divorce “just on paper.” But the fine print was a blueprint for my erasure — and I didn’t read it because I was the wife.

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]]> https://medium.com/@UnaTolkien/i-signed-it-without-reading-he-took-everything-398b9ba58aa7?source=rss-69a71b91003d------2 https://medium.com/p/398b9ba58aa7 Sun, 08 Nov 2026 21:51:01 GMT 2026-11-08T21:51:01.474Z <![CDATA[His Silence Wasn’t the Problem. My Voice Was.]]>

On the quiet men I loved, and the noise I made trying to drown them out

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]]> https://medium.com/@UnaTolkien/his-silence-wasnt-the-problem-my-voice-was-c630a09ad716?source=rss-69a71b91003d------2 https://medium.com/p/c630a09ad716 Sat, 07 Nov 2026 21:06:01 GMT 2026-11-07T21:06:01.544Z <![CDATA[I Forgave Him at 3 AM. That Was the First Lie.]]>

We confuse surrender with virtue—and call the exhaustion that follows a kind of holiness.

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We’re taught to shrink our competence so men don’t have to feel inadequate — and it’s killing us slowly

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