Anyone who has been around me lately knows I will annoyingly and passionately talk your ear off about “reclaiming the fierce feminine paradigm.” I am the first to say, I don’t have this figured out, but am incessantly asking myself and others questions. I navigate and lead from my own healing process of reintegration. I have been on both sides: infantilization of my own femininity and over idealization of my masculinity.

I think the below Ted X talk has some good insight on why it is important for us, regardless of gender, to “reclaim the feminine” individually and collectively.

I am not referring to “feminism,” that is a separate conversation around gender equality, based on rights.

The speaker/author, Nicole Schwab, describes the feminine as, “the voice of intuition, the one that speaks in the dark. Wild, powerful, ever changing, fluid. It allows us to bring life into existence.”

Her basic conclusion in regards to our masculinity and femininity is, “It’s not about favoring one and dismissing the other, It’s understanding we have two arms and two legs, not just one.”

I love the masculine parts of myself. I get shit done. I am highly goal oriented, ambitious, value responsibility, order, critical thinking, and I really love to fight.

I also celebrate the feminine parts of myself with equal ferocity. I’m wildly creative, comfortable in realms of mystery, chaos, destruction and not-knowing. I’m unafraid to be vulnerable, circular, and trust my intuition. (some may say rather “witchy.”)

I think it is necessary to address and debate external issues, especially those involving abuse of power, but without doing our own internal work in the process, the conversation can become, “us and them.”

This leaves our feminine voices out, because they do not operate in black and white realms. (aka democracy) The feminine voice speaks not out of reactivity but with creative solutions. We need both. We need balance.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on the TedX video. Do you think masculinity and femininity are gender based?

https://youtu.be/d6VQj7SUWUY