Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Husband and wife alone

Husband : Dearest wife, i need to talk about something that happened in office today 😫

Wife : Ah but you must do things like this(gives a full corrective solution) 😇

Husband : ☹️

DNW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband with WIFE

Husband: You never listen to me ! 😠

WHY ?

Both people unhappy !

Are they bad people ?

Why cant people just get along !

Is there a possible alternative ?

Yes, with some tools it may be possible to keep people happy.

Communication tools

One tool to be used in scenes coming next

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DW

Does work (DW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everybody happy

DW Scene 1 — Husband and wife alone

Husband : Dearest wife, i need to talk about something that happened in office today 😫

Wife : Ok let me hear you 😊

Husband : I think … (goes on to describe things that worry him) 😧

Wife : Hmmm 🤔

DW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband with WIFE

Husband: Thank you for always hearing me out ! 😃♥️♥️

Fun Quiz — What made them happy

Which DW scene used this tools

Listen to understand

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Mom and Son alone

Mom : Dearest son, you know how much I have suffered in life. Please do know your wife is bad at X(something)😫

Husband : Really ! I didn’t think she was doing so many things wrong, I’ll correct her 😠

DNW Scene 2 (that every evening)– Husband with WIFE

Husband: My Mom said you are bad at X, better try and correct yourself !😠

Wife: Ok, I will try 😰

Husband: Cool thanks !😐

DNW Scene 3 (after a few days)– Husband with friends

Husband: My wife is acting strange, do not know what is wrong with her ! 😢

DNW Scene 4 (after a few days)– Wife with friends

Wife: My husband doesn't love me, maybe it is all due to his mom ! 😢

DNW Scene 5(after a few days)– Mom with friends

Mom: My son is nice but now with his wife, he is so very strange ! 😢

WHY ?

All 3 people unhappy !

Are they bad people ?

Why cant people just get along !

Is there a possible alternative ?

Yes, with some tools it may be possible to keep people happy.

Communication tools

Three tools to be used in scenes coming next

Listen to understand

Praise sandwich(praise-suggest-praise)

Glorify Back instead of Back Biting

DW

Does work (DW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everybody happy

DW Scene 1 — Mom and Son alone

Mom : Dearest son, you know how much I have suffered in life. Please do know your wife is bad at X(something)😫

Husband : I understand how you feel. But do listen, more that anything, I would like to thank you, for all that you have done for me, you are the best mom in the world for me. 😇♥️

Mom: Aww! Thank you. 😃♥️

Husband: Mom, knowing the good person that you are, please know she is also a good person and trying so very hard at Y and Z(clear examples) 😃♥️

DW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband and Wife alone

Husband: Wife dearest, you are so very nice, I love you. (goes on to praise her for something specific in the recent past) 😇♥️

Wife: Thank you, I love you too. 😃♥️

Husband: Could I possibly ask you about X, could we improve in any way🤔

Wife: I think we could improve X by… 🤔

Husband: That is so thoughtful of you, I am sure my mom would also appreciate that. 😃♥️

usband: Cool thanks !😐

DW Scene 3 (after a few days)– Husband with friends

Husband: My wife is so nice !😃♥️

DW Scene 4 (after a few days)– Wife with friends

Wife: My husband loves me so much ! 😃♥️

DW Scene 5(after a few days)– Mom with friends

Mom: My son and his wife are so very kind ! 😃♥️

Note

Men need to know that ladies are very perceptive.

They are equal partners who must be respected and appreciated.

When ladies are happy, we can not even imagine, how much they can achieve !

That why in certain ancient cultures they are called “Goddesses”

Fun Quiz — What made all 3 people happy

Which DW scene used one or more of these three tools

Listen to understand

Praise sandwich(praise-suggest-praise)

Glorify Back instead of Back Biting

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Wife says yes to Husband

Husband : Can we do a dinner date Friday at 7 pm 😊♥️

Wife : Yes of course 😊♥️

Husband : Cool

DNW Scene 2— Wife says yes to Friend

Friend1 : Can you help me with my son’s Math on Friday at 7 pm, i am so worried 😢

Wife : Yes of course 😇😊

Friend1 : Cool

DNW Scene 2 (On Friday)– Wife confused

Friend1: It is 7 pm Are you coming 🙏

Husband : It is 7 pm let us go ! 😠

Wife : 😨😱

WHY ?

Wife thinks saying no to anyone is rude.

But then she ends up in a situation where she has to choose between romance and helping someone.

Communication tools

It is ok to say no !

When you do not learn to say no, then you will end up in a situation where no one will trust you in the future.

Tip

Keep a small diary of appointments if that would help.

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Wife with friends

Wife : My husband is so funny, he brushes his teeth like this … 😬😂

Friend1 : 😂😂😂

Friend1 tells Friend2 tells Friend3 ….tells Friend-n

DNW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband with Friend-n

Friend-N: You brush your teeth so funny, your wife told us.. 😂😂

Husband : Ok 😠☹️😫

WHY ?

What seemed like a good joke at the time, is taken by the husband as a betrayal.

Communication tools

Never gossip or make fun of spouse behind their back

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Husband with friends

Husband : A man is either happy or married… 😂😂😂

Friend1 : 😂😂😂

Friend1 tells Friend2 tells Friend3 ….tells Friend-n

DNW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Wife with Friend-n

Friend-N: You husband cracked this joke”. Either you are happy or married”, is he happy with you 😂😂

Wife: I guess he is so unhappy with me? 😠☹️😫, why is he telling this to so many people and not communicating with me ?

WHY ?

What seemed like a good joke at the time, is taken by the wife as a betrayal.

Communication tools

Never gossip or make fun of spouse behind their back

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Husband and wife alone

Wife : Dearest husband, i need your advice on XYZ 😫

Husband : Ah! 🙄😴[goes to sleep]

Wife : ☹️

DNW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband with WIFE

Wife: You do not listen to me !😠

WHY ?

Both people unhappy !

Are they bad people ?

Why cant people just get along !

Is there a possible alternative ?

Yes, with some tools it may be possible to keep people happy.

Communication tools

One tool to be used in scenes coming next

Listen to understand

DW

Does work (DW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everybody happy

DW Scene 1 — Husband and wife alone

Wife : Dearest husband, i need your advice on X 😫

Husband : Ok let me hear you 😊

Wife : I think … (goes on to describe things that worry her) 😧

Husband : Hmmm 🤔

DW Scene 2 (after a few days)– Husband with WIFE

Wife: Thanks for being there for me when I need you ! 😃♥️

Fun Quiz — What made them happy

Which DW scene used this tools

Listen to understand

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

DNW Scene 1 — Husband with 10 friends, in a park

Husband : My wife is a great cook♥️😊, She cooks whatever i want !

Friend1 : Yes of course, and we are all hungry now 😬

Husband : Ok, lets go to my home, wife will fix something for us.😇

DNW Scene 2 (10 friends and husband)– Wife unhappy

Husband: You are so nice, can you please cook for all of us 🙏

Wife : 😨😱😠 Thinks to herself, “I am not well, have just come back from work and now this, why would he not, at the very least, confirm with me !”

WHY ?

Husband is right is praising wife in front of others, however why take her for granted ? Why not ask her before brining 10 friends over ?

Cooking for 10+ people is no joke. She feels taken for granted and thus heart broken.

Communication tools

Husband could have discussed with wife and thus could have arranged this party with consent from wife at a future date.

Right now he could have maybe gone to a hotel with his friends, instead of coming home.

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

Husband with wife at a parking lot

Wife : I have a back ache ☹️

Husband : You drive 😐

Husband just goes and sits next to the driver’s seat and is deeply engrossed on the phone !

Wife :😖

WHY ?

It seems like the husband is completely ignoring the wife.

However the wife should know that there is something on the husband’s mind and hence he is either worried or maybe even sad.

Communication tools

Give the husband, a little benefit of doubt and help him emotionally if needed.

There is a reason for all behaviour.

Does not work(DNW) scenes!

Scenes that will make everyone unhappy 😢

WIFE with Husband in a mall

Wife : Which ice-cream should we buy ?

Husband : 🤔Maybe This one

Wife goes and gets a completely different one from another ilse, No discussion why and goes to the checkout till.

Husband :😖

WHY ?

It seems like the wife is completely ignoring the husband.

However the husband should know that there is something on the wife’s mind and hence she is either worried or maybe even sad.

Communication tools

Give the wife, a little benefit of doubt and help her emotionally if needed.

There is a reason for all behaviour.

He is in the ambulance being taken home. He is alone.

The hospital has failed to inform the two ambulance people of this back situation.

Hence the ambulance people drive very fast to get to his home.

He is in a lot of pain and tries to tell them to slow down.

However both the driver and the ward boy are in the front seat.

They cannot listen to him as they have closed the glass window.

He arrives home and is then taken up the stairs to his flat as fast as they can.

As a result of all this, his stitches have come off and needs to be taken back to the hospital the very next day.

He hopes the ride back home is not the same again.