You are not reading this by accident.

You have to be honest with yourself.
Not only that, but you don’t know enough about your inner beauty and self.

You’re not sure how to discover more about yourself.

You feel a bit lost. I’m specially writing this for you.
Or people that are in the same situation.

You don’t want to feel lost. You want to build better and
meaningful relationships.

Specially with your inner self.

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of living someone else’s life.

Have you ever felt like you were just trying
to change yourself for specific people?

In hopes that they will like you more or trust you more?
You seem to be never good enough for them.

This vicious cycle is a trap of blaming yourself
for putting someone else in front of yourself.

It’s a blaming game that you can’t win.
I used to live in this trap.

Where I didn’t feel connected to my inner self and
was not authentic in any way.

You have this pain of being trapped and
don’t know where to go or what to do.

Almost like you don’t know who you even are.

Because you keep losing your connection to your inner self.

In today’s world, it can be easy to feel disconnected.

We’re constantly surrounded by people, but often feel lonely
and isolated. The truth is, we’re all feeling the same way.

We’re just in our own heads, trying to make sense of our lives.

When you’re in the social mind, you’re living in the world
of other people’s expectations and opinions.

You may feel as if you’re in a constantly changing,
stressful environment where you have to try to be someone
you’re not in order to keep up with the expectations of others.

We all make mistakes.

But when it comes to our mistakes,
we tend to do one of two things:

1. We blame ourselves.
2. We doubt our abilities.

These are both destructive behaviors, and
they don’t help us learn from our mistakes.

They keep us away from moving forward.

You can change this by connecting to your inner self.

So you can be your authentic self at all times.

Be free of blaming. Be free of self-doubt.
Be free from everything that holds you back.

What is your authentic self?

To be and become your authentic self,
you are aligning your actions to
your deepest thoughts.

It begins with being completely honest with
your thoughts, words and actions.

By not being your authentic self,
you may fall into people pleasing.

You start to think you have to do what is expected from you,
based off social and peer pressure.

Being your authentic self has nothing to do with pleasing others.

Being your authentic self means that you
show your true self and how you truly feel.

You are able to share your honest and deepest thoughts.

You are able to share your deepest feelings.

This creates a deeper bonding in your relationships.
Being able to be your authentic self means to stay human.

Are you staying calm, kind and passionate to yourself today?

Your thoughts about yourself are one of the most powerful tools in your life.

Self-Esteem is all about how you think about your worth and how you view yourself. The power of self-esteem has a direct effect on your self-confidence.

This self-confidence is helping you to feel more connected to yourself and turn negative situations into opportunities.

You can have a relationship, a job and friends when you don’t have a healthy self-esteem. But you can never be your true self or feel accepted by others.

Self-esteem and self-confidence is a solid ground for becoming the best version of yourself.

You can build and maintain true and meaningful relationships, by connecting with your inner self.

The 4 types of self-esteem

1. The damaged self-esteem

The damaged self-esteem is very fragile.

It shows connections to coping mechanisms, coping strategies, addictions and mental illnesses.

Perfectionism is a strong sign of a damaged self-esteem.
It comes with high expectations that often play a part in failure.

Through social media, your anxious mind is triggered and starts to compare yourself with others.

Which can feed your self-doubt about your self-worth.

This comes with health issues such as anxiety and depression.

There is proof that social media has been linked to:

• higher levels of loneliness
• envy
• anxiety
• depression
• stress
• declined social skills

Some addictions linked to a damaged self-esteem are

• internet addiction
• drug addiction
• food addiction

2. Low self-esteem

A low self-esteem is caused by:

• genetic factors
• physical appearance
• mental health issues
• peer pressure
• bullying
• social stigma

Individuals with this type of self-esteem tend to be self-critical.

Some of them could measure success in terms of likability.
Only if others accept them then they will succeed, if not they fail.

High self-esteem is also a type of low self-esteem that is masked.
People that seem to have a high self-esteem on the outside,
may have the same issues as people with a low self-esteem.

Both low and high self-esteem are bad for our well-being.

If you want to know which type is the best for our health, skip to the fourth type.

Examples of low self-esteem characteristic :

• Hypersensitivity to criticism, feeling resentment against
  critics and feeling attacked by them.
• Chronic indecision and extreme fear of mistakes.
• Being a Perfectionist, leading to frustration if not achieved.
• Dwelling on past mistakes all the time.
• Being irritated without any specific reason.
• Seeing failures only as setbacks.

Chronic low self-esteem can be linked to psychotic symptoms.
It causes you to lose touch with reality.

It could lead to hallucinations and delusions.

You may even notice warning signs like trouble to think clear, and concentrate. You may feel unease around others and start to lack self-care or hygiene.

Not only that, but you may stop showing your emotions and
not taking care of yourself.

These are potential warning signs that you should not ignore.

Most of these symptoms are also linked to mental illness.

3. Defensive Self-Esteem & Secure self-esteem

The defensive self-esteem is mainly affected by
external factors and evaluations from other people.

Self-esteem levels are greatly influenced from the outside.

Individuals with a defensive self-esteem are highly
concerned about the opinions of those around them.

They try to maintain a high self-esteem at all costs.

They can’t handle critic well and always need positive feedback to sustain their high self-esteem. This can be associated with arrogant behavior.

Sometimes they can even show aggression and
bitter feelings toward anyone who questions the individual’s self-worth.

A person with a secure self-esteem doesn’t need the approval or feedback of others.

They tend to have a steady self-view and self-evaluation.

4. Healthy self-esteem

Your goal is to have and maintain a healthy self-esteem.

A healthy self-esteem improves the quality of your life.
It makes it easier for you to reach your goals.

To have better relationships and be the best version of yourself.

• You believe in certain values and principles.
• You can be your true self at anytime with no expectations.
• You act according to what you think is the best choice for you.
• You trust your own judgement and don’t feel guilty if others don’t like your choice.
• You learn from the past and plan for the future.
• You have deep inner trust to yourself.
• Collaborating and working with others.
• Accepting and appreciating your own internal feelings and drives. The positive and negative ones.
• Relentlessly working on being the best version and working toward solutions and goals.

Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-esteem

Why a healthy self-esteem improves the quality of your life

I lived a life without realizing that I am not being authentic with myself.

“You should do this!”

“You’re not good in this!”

“Stay safe, don’t do it.”

…is all I was getting as advices from my environment
when I was trying out something new.

It didn’t matter if I asked for an advice or not.

No matter what I did or where I was, I did not feel accepted.
Feeling out of place and never understood crushed my self-esteem
and self-confidence.

Self-doubt stopped me from trying new things,
meeting new people, or even going for a walk outside.

Your life starts to get out of balance.

You view yourself as a person who is not capable of anything.

This all feels like you’re stuck in a hole.
A hole that you fell into and can’t seem to get out.

As I was thinking and trying to imagine how it would feel
if I take a walk outside, I felt ashamed.

I was ashamed and scared of what would people think about me or what looks they would give me.

My anxiety got me so far that I could not get food.

Because I felt like I was getting panic attacks and
could not speak or move when someone would look or talk to me.

I kept getting stuck in this hole in my imagination that
I made up and nobody truly knew about.

My biggest “hole” that I had in my mind was the financial part in my life at that moment.

I couldn’t figure out what my passion was or what I want to work, so I can earn money and be financially independent.

This problem was where my solution started to show up.

Once I found where I lacked self-esteem and self-confidence,
I started to connect to my inner self again.

I created awareness of where I was and where my issue and self-doubt were rooting from.

By asking the right questions that increased my self-esteem,
I discovered my own potential and what I was capable of doing.

I acknowledged my irrational fears and thoughts about myself.
I started talking and writing about them.

Your potential is limitless.

Imagine you can rely on yourself.
Be the person you truly are 24/7.

And never having to act like you are someone you are not.
You are so comfortable in your own skin and in everything you decide for yourself.

It’s the sense of deep inner trust in yourself that brings out this potential.

You stop wasting your time with negative thinking or procrastination. You start to find positive things in bad situations and circumstances.

As soon as I got aware where the problem was and where to start, I improved so fast that I forgot I ever lacked self-esteem!

I found a job in a short period of time. And I also found new things I loved to do.

I started to give myself time to accept my own being.

When I had low self-esteem I avoided events, parties or meeting with people.

All the things that could bring so many opportunities, and happiness. I missed out on them. With my new healthy self-esteem, I took the decision to do things I’ve never done.

This opened so many doors and perspectives.

It led my potential to shine through all the doubts and fears I had within me.

Starting with small decisions and small steps, made it possible to take bigger decisions.

Big decisions that make me feel fulfilled and be my authentic myself.

It felt like my inner potential was never lost, and I ignored it or never took time to listen to my inner self.

How come so many of us forget what great potential lies within us?

We all lack a healthy self-esteem, and most important, maintaining a healthy self-esteem.

A healthy self-esteem that keeps us in balance.

To have an accurate view of ourselves and stay true to our being.

Self-esteem affects every area in your life.

If you start losing self-esteem in one area in your life, it spreads like a virus on a computer.

Jumping from one folder to another, it spreads in every other area of your life.

It starts with one small self-doubt in your mind that will destroy your self-trust. Until it will destroy your self-esteem piece by piece.

This process takes a lot of energy.

You have a choice where you could spend your time,
effort, money and energy on.

Is your choice to doubt and criticize yourself?
Or take time to become aware and acknowledge yourself?

My small decisions made the process of starting possible.

Being aware of your being and your limitless potential will lead you to a healthy self-esteem. Which will improve your life.

How to build a healthy self-esteem

It’s time to take action and be the change you need. Identify where you lack self-esteem!

This won’t be easy or quick — it might even be a tough process.

But it will open up your inner potential and
make you feel fulfilled in life like never before.

3 Tips how to build a healthy self-esteem

Tip 1) Identify where you lack confidence and take responsibility

Remember when I felt like I was in a hole and couldn’t get out?

There is nothing harder than admitting yourself you need to get out of the situation,
and that you want it now.

Being aware and acknowledging it will help you identify where you lack confidence.

This will bring you responsibility to build your self-esteem.

Some indicators could be:

• You might find yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough to do that.” or “I have no energy and time for that.”
• You might have negative beliefs about yourself, even though they are not true!

For example, I mentioned, I had the negative belief that I could not get a job.

I had the false belief, “I’m not good enough for anything.”

But I didn’t even try anything before thinking negative and doubting myself.

I realized I can change my situation.
Because I can change from the inside.

If you don’t know where you lack confidence, try out this tool:

The new Life Balance Tool 2022

Tip 2) Don’t be too hard on yourself.

BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

If you find yourself being self-critical, stop for a moment.
Take a deep breath and reflect on how many good things
you have accomplished until now.

You can try being grateful for today.

Start a Gratitude Journal!

If you managed to get up today and made your bed
or drank your glass of water for you, give yourself a treat.

Take yourself out or start writing yourself a note
on how thankful you are for how far you have come!

Tip 3) Improve your mindset and the questions
you are asking yourself

Become aware of your own patterns.

Use your awareness to build a healthy mindset and a healthy self-esteem.

Find out which questions build your self-esteem.
Get to know who you are and find out why you are the way you are.

Another technique, you can use is written affirmations, like writing your goals down.

You can start to accept yourself and be free to make your own decisions.

Conclusion

Are you starting to get a clearer view
on your real worth and unlimited potential?

Now you have an overview of the 4 types of self-esteem.
You know why a healthy self-esteem can increase your quality of life.

You can identify what signs show up when you need self-esteem most,
and how to build and maintain it.

This gives you the chance and opportunity to
recognize what powers you have inside your mind.

Use your unlimited potential as soon as you become aware of your state of mind.

Are you ready to start?

Get your life in balance and become more confident.