I have read many self development books and I promised to myself that I will take a break from that kind of books and start acting on what I have learned so far. While I was waiting in the airport for my flight I saw that little book and the title moved me a bit. So this was meant to be my last self development book for now. A book which was delivering wisdom from 235 elders (interviewed by the author and his team) to us, 150 pages full of meaning that some people found in their lives and now they share with everyone.

Starting reading this book one thing became clear to me. We are not capable to understand what makes us happy while we are rushing through life. Its so hard to gain the perspective without being in the right position in life so this book gives you a cheat sheet of what you are eventually going to value when you have the wisdom and experiences of the many years of life.

The 5 Secrets ?

• Be true to yourself.
• Leave no regrets.
• Become love.
• Live the moment.
• Give more than you take.

Okay you will say that you have heard all of these before, they are a bit of cliché. Okay I agree with you but this book makes you understand we everyone is talking about these 5 things. Why we found these in many religions, cultures and communities that are so different to each other.

I hope you the one and only reader of my article :P , will devote some time to read this small book and share your thoughts with me, but I will tell you now

why you have to read this book

The author through out the whole book makes you realize that the 5 secrets are the things you have to focus on your life and you will have a nice happy ride. BUT what I think is very valuable here is the way to apply this wisdom that the author suggests at the end of the book.

Of course goal setting and awareness can be combined for even greater effect, but if I had to suggest only one method to create change in your life, I would begin with the card you carry all day long.

The card trick is very simple, you write down in card what you want to change in your own life (hopefully inspired by the book) and you read that card 10–20 times per day trying to act on it! You will find it amazing that small changes in your life will come up very fast!

I hope at least one person will try that trick and find the power of changing life!

Say you have a difficult test to study, or a demanding project you have to complete fon your job. In the thoughts of failure and the amount of work you have to put on you freeze, and then anxiety passes by to say hi.

You have to stay calm and focus but feels impossible right now. One though to help you calm, or at least helps me calm is the following.

If I try my best, success or failure does not mutter. If I am focused to my goal and leave everything else aside I enjoying my work and decreasing the possibilities of failure.

But why outcome does not matter?

If you failed and you have done everything you can you don’t have to worry about it. You just tried your best you accept the outcome and focus on improving the skills you lack.

If you try your best and failed.. you cannot do something about it you don’t have to think of it negatively you just need to walk forward and keep improving. Don’t overthink something that you cannot change anymore.

P.s. It is almost like a brain hack if you live by it.

Some food for thought for today.

How you spare your time today defines who you are tomorrow. What you do now shapes you next moment. If you read a book now your next thoughts will be about its subject and tomorrow you are the person who read that book and talks about it.

On the other hand, if you watched three seasons of the best series of 2018 you are the person who did that. And that’s OK, but which in which situation you spent your time more productive and more quality.

Saying no to all these distractions that surrounds us these days gives you the power to manage your time and choose who you want to be. Gives you the freedom of choice. And gives you the opportunity to shape your habits and your life.

If you are in a situation where you wake up every morning and the first thought in you mind is “I don’t want to go to my job, I just want to lay down on my bed”, chances are that you have to do something you don’t want to. Also you may live in a situation like this most of your life. And in a way this is great for you.

Living in adversity is the only road you can take if you want to do anything meaningful in you life. You and I know that this is the truth but we cannot live in this for much. We are scared stressed and we feel helpless in this moments.

But.. If living in adversity is the only road for your success. When it’s happening is eventually good for you. And when you are struggling you becoming more and more capable to deal with it. Then you are a step closer to your goals. So adversity is great for us. And if you learn to be comfortable in adversity (yes, you can train your self) you are capable to achieve everything and also have fun doing it.

Every person who cares about self development had already listened about the automatic pilot that drives us through life. We believe we control our lives but we are so vulnerable to the tons of information we are exposed to that makes me believe we aren’t in the driver’s seat.

If you are like me. If you believe your life isn’t in the right path and you live on auto pilot there is one trick for us.

You can ask yourself every time “what am I doing and why?”. If your answers to the above question are not what you want them to be then you have to reevaluate what you are doing.

It sounds easy like every advice you hear in an self improvement article but you really have to love yourself to find the power and change you life.

You just have to filter every activity in your life and of course you have to start small. Find something that haw no meaning for you eliminate and in its place create something new.

Reevaluate everything in your life. Is for the best of you and you will soon experience positive things happening.

I will show you a way to stop boredom and actually make it your friend.

The world we live in is the most interesting place you could ever be. For me to be really interested with something is the opposite of boredom. Let me tell you why.

1. You are surrounded by fascinating people and their fascinating lives. Amazing people like you and me have brought to life amazing creations. From books movies and songs through science and technology miracles. There is an endless source of great things for you to discover and learn about them. Be smarter and kill boredom by learning about new things.
2. Nature itself is amazing. Earth beauty is infinite and if you are not amused by what is here just look under a microscope (physics and its domains) or look in the sky (astrophysics astronomy and space things)
3. Be a creator your self. Try to express your self in an article. Write a poem. Draw something. Develop an app. Compose a song. Just create. (Just do it)
4. Be open to the beauty around you. Learn to love life and everything that it provides you with.

You are surrounded by amazing things. Love them.

I just finished watching justice league. And I am very disappointed. After Batman vs Superman was in the same mood as I am now. Wonderwoman made me very excited and raised my hopes and then justice league crashed me.

I will express my opinion with some questions.

1. Why the plot is so simple that a 5-year-old can write it? With so many characters in your hands, you have to write something more interesting and complex. An evil guy not so powerful that Superman beats him in a fucking minute.
2. How strong is Superman? Is he so strong that makes all other heroes irrelevant? He can beat the bad guy and save the world alone .
3. Why flash has to be so stupid? They trying to make him funny but they failed.
4. Is it just another movie to set the plot for the rest? And witch plot is this ?

P.s Make Wonderwoman and Batman the main characters.

In fact learn how to convert then to wisdom.

We have to understand and then believe that every event, every situation in our lives is neutral. By neutral I mean that by default there are no positive or negative experiences. Everything is interpreted by our mind and it’s in our hand to take the responsibility and gain the most out of every negative event.

If you fight with an old good friend you have the opportunity to see for yourself what caused the fight and change it. If you broke up with your girlfriend you can find out something about yourself that will save your future relationships and improve your inner world.

You can gain wisdom that will make you feel better. You can push forward and learn through pain. And then you can convert everything “bad” to “good”.

Is everything so simple?

Of course not.

But you can make it simple. Sit down and analyze your thoughts. Find out what is bothering you what is making you feel like shit and see the roots of it. Then change consciously the old bad thoughts with new better.

With the above attitude against all bad events, you will become a more improved version of yourself every time you encounter one. And eventually, you will be even grateful for them.

The person who is grateful for adversity is living a much happier life than the other who is always afraid of them.

How many times have you encounter an adversity and been broken for months or maybe years after that?

How many times you feel like you are in a loop. You experience something bad, you feel like shit, finally, time heals your woods and you say I will never let myself be in that position again. But every time you live the same loop.

I am only 25 and I am tired of this loop. So I decided to sit down and figure out what was the “problem” with me.

I started documenting my thoughts and feelings when I was encountering an adversity. And I came up with the following table.

Action. Thoughts created by this action. Feelings created by the thoughts.

In this way, you can learn more about your self. You will find what thought triggered a bad feeling and after you can sit down and work that thought. You will be amazed by how many thoughts that run automatically in your brain are wrong. They are not based on facts and maybe they are based on a previous version of yourself.

Let me explain with an example. You walking down the street and you meet Anna from work. You wave at her but she doesn’t wave back. In fact, she pretends that she didn’t see you. You then feel bad about that because you thought that she doesn’t like you. This thought that you are not good for her maybe is based on a different relationship of your life and is stacked on your head or maybe is based on your difficulty to find friends in school. Either way, you are controlled by a thought that is not based on something true. Now you know that next time you will stop this thought and you will replace it with something more positive or maybe even don’t bother to care about Anna.

It’s in your hand to see the world around you with different eyes and then change your thoughts. But you have to document these thoughts and then attack them.

I love super hero movies. I love super heros. And I envy them.

I am 25 years old and it’s the first time that I feel like a super hero my self. I can not fly. I can not lift cars. I can not run faster than the light.

I understand what perspective means. This is my super power.

I understand that whatever happens in my life doesn’t matter at all. If I can change the circumstances I will. But if I can’t I will make the best of it.

I have a mechanism that helps me change the “now” and interpret it for my own good.

Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

Viktor E. Frank

I believe that in every bad situation you have the choice to gain something good.

Even in the worst, meaningless situation you gain experience on how to cope with these kind of things. You became wiser. And the next time you encounter the “worst” you will be more prepared.

In conclusion, we have to understand that our only mission is to become the best version of ourselves and strive for it every day.

And our superpower is a valuable weapon for this goal.