Don’t worry about events that haven’t happen, live for the moment instead. Trying my best to keep my anger and frustration in control but sometimes I let it out, I’m still human after all. Sometimes letting loose my emotion, is a way to release my unhappiness. But I am learning not to let my unhappiness affects others.

There are always be people who don’t like you or me, we are all different individuals with a different upbringing, a different culture with different experiences. We may not feel comfortable being around each other but that’s okay, just be with people that you or I am comfortable with is good enough. We do not need to hate each other, making malicious comments about each other.

There is a saying if you want to be successful, don’t hang out with people who are negative, hang out with people who are better than you so you can be better. I agree that positive/negative energy can influence people around you but why not influence the negative people around you to make them more positive and strive together?

Spreading my love and happiness to the people around me is my goal.

#dontworrybehappy

When I was in my teens, I always wish I was that cool kid, that person who dress effortlessly but still look freaking good or that person who dress stylishly and they are always surrounded with good looking people.

And I started trying to dress like them, hoping other people will also see me as someone cool. I’m not afraid of trying different style and bought tons of clothes in order to be a fashionista. I didn’t allow myself to wear the same clothes if I was meeting the same group of people. I spent a lot on clothes, bags, shoes, accessories…etc all just because I wanted to be that cool, stylish kid.

Even when I was in my twenties, I was still trying, trying to keep up with the image I had set up for myself, someone with lots of clothes and style. Spend a lot of time in front of the mirror to make sure I have the perfect hair before I head out. When I travel I made sure I brought all the nicest clothes and shoes with me in order to take nice pictures and post on social media, I didn’t care if the shoes are uncomfortable for walking as long I look good with it.

But when I reached my thirties, I start to get lazy or rather I stop trying so hard knowing I can never be that cool kid, it’s just not me. I stop buying so much clothes and prefer to dress more casually. I don’t like attention as much as I was in my teens. In fact, I wish I’m an invisible person that nobody can see me when I’m on the street.

And I realised this is the time I feel most comfortable with myself, I feel happier. I stop hating every part of myself, and I starts to love who I am. Occasionally I still love dressing up a little, but definitely doesn’t spend that much time doing it. I guess this is all part of growing up.

So my advice to those younger people, be comfortable in your own skin, stop trying so hard to be that cool kid, it’s nothing wrong to be someone normal like the rest. Most importantly, be happy and enjoy good company. People love you for who you are inside and not outside.

Finding purpose in life.

Some time ago, a friend of mine asks me about her purpose in life. Many people believe and still searching for their purpose which they think they should have one. Well, for me, I don’t really believe we are born to have a purpose in life. And rather than searching for your purpose, I think what we should really do is creating meaning in your life.

Why think about why are you here in this world? Wasting time thinking why am I here, is just silly to me.

Since we are already here in this world, we should embrace it and make use of the time we have in this world and create a meaningful life. I think that’s more important.

So go do something that makes you feel proud, something that can make a change in someone’s life. Or simply just enjoy every moment of your life and one day when you finally close your eyes for the last time, you feel you have lived. That’s all matter.