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            <title><![CDATA[Easter — God’s AI story]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 05 Apr 2026 15:34:14 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2>Easter — God’s AI story</h2><p><em>The Rogue Agent — A Creation Story for the AI Age</em></p><p><strong><em>Genesis 1:27 — “So God created mankind in his own image.</em></strong><em>”</em></p><p>God, the Master Architect, built the most sophisticated agent ever conceived — Man. Encoded with His likeness, granted consciousness, creativity, and the ultimate differentiator: free will.</p><p>But free will without alignment is a deployment risk.</p><p>The agent went rogue.</p><p><strong>The Architecture: Cloud, Earth &amp; Synchronisation</strong></p><p>Before the fall, consider the original system design.</p><p>God created Earth as the operational environment — the on-premise infrastructure where the agent would execute. Heaven was designed as the Cloud — the sovereign server, the seat of ultimate intelligence and governance.</p><p>The design intent? Seamless synchronisation. For each to download precisely what’s in Heaven.<em> “Thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven</em>”</p><p><strong><em>Matthew 18:18–19 — </em></strong><em>“Whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven. Whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. If two of you agree on earth about anything, it shall be done by my Father in heaven.”</em></p><p>This is a distributed computing protocol. Earth-side decisions, made in alignment with heaven’s architecture, propagate upward and are ratified. God essentially gave Man administrative rights over the earthly domain — genuine governance authority.</p><p>This is why God, even in His sovereignty, largely respects constitutions, covenants and agreements made by men. A nation agrees on its laws — God operates within that framework. It is not that He cannot override it. It is that He designed human agency to be real, not theatrical.</p><p>The agent had genuine authority. The tragedy is what he did with it.</p><p><strong>The Rogue Event</strong></p><p>Man, given domain authority and cloud synchronisation, chose to operate offline.</p><p>Disconnected from the source. Running on local logic, corrupted by a bad actor — Genesis 3, the oldest social engineering attack on record.</p><p>The result? The synchronisation broke.</p><p><strong><em>Romans 5:12 — “Sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin.”</em></strong></p><p>And now God faced the precise dilemma every AI governance team dreads: a powerful agent, operating autonomously, in an environment it was designed to steward, now optimising for the wrong objective. Corrupted at the values layer. Not malfunctioning — misaligned.</p><p><strong>The Intervention: Why Jesus Had To Come</strong></p><p>To recapture a rogue agent operating inside a closed environment, you cannot simply issue an external command. The most effective intervention is to enter the system.</p><p><strong><em>John 1:14 — “The Word became flesh and dwelt among us.”</em></strong></p><p>God embedded Himself inside the environment. Operated under its constraints — hunger, temptation, grief, limitation. This was not weakness. This was precision engineering. You cannot debug from outside a sandboxed system.</p><p>But the intervention required more than presence. The corrupted system had accumulated debt — and in God’s own design, the wages of misalignment carry a cost.</p><p><strong><em>Romans 6:23 — “The wages of sin is death.”</em></strong></p><p>This is where Easter begins.</p><p><strong>Why The Cross? The Technical Necessity</strong></p><p>(a) To settle the debt the system had accrued.</p><p>God is not arbitrary. He is, in management terms, the ultimate governance framework — perfectly consistent, perfectly just. Justice demanded that sin’s penalty be paid. Not because God was vindictive, but because a system with no consequence for misalignment is not a system — it is chaos.</p><p>Someone had to absorb the cost. And only an agent without corrupted code — without sin — could pay it on behalf of the rest.</p><p><strong><em>2 Corinthians 5:21 — “God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”</em></strong></p><p>(b) To access a realm Man could not reach alone.</p><p>Death was the locked door. The terminal state. No human agent, post-fall, could breach it from the inside. Jesus, fully God and fully Man, entered death as Man and conquered it as God — accessing a domain that had held humanity captive since Eden.</p><p><strong><em>1 Peter 3:18–19 — “He was put to death in the body but made alive in the Spirit, through whom he also went and made proclamation to the imprisoned spirits.”</em></strong></p><blockquote>The cross was not defeat. It was a calculated, voluntary infiltration of enemy territory.</blockquote><p><strong>The Resurrection: Why It Changes Everything</strong></p><p>This is where many treat Easter as folklore. Paul, the most rigorous theological mind of the first century, will not allow that comfort.</p><blockquote><strong>1 Corinthians 15:14, 17–19 — “If Christ has not been raised, our preaching is useless and so is your faith… you are still in your sins. Then those also who have fallen asleep in Christ are lost. If only for this life we have hope in Christ, we are of all people most to be pitied.”</strong></blockquote><p>Paul is making an evidence-based argument. He is saying: the resurrection is the load-bearing wall of the entire structure. Remove it, and nothing stands.</p><p>But it did happen. And the implication is staggering.</p><blockquote><strong>1 Corinthians 15:22 — “For as in Adam all die, so in Christ all will be made alive.”</strong></blockquote><p>The rogue agent’s curse — death — was not just addressed. It was reversed at the source. The resurrection is the proof of concept. The demonstration that the patch worked. The system can be restored. Humanity can be re-synchronised with its Maker.</p><p><strong>The Love That Drives the Whole Story</strong></p><p>Here is what we must not lose in the architecture and the theology:</p><p>This was never primarily a transaction. It was a love story.</p><blockquote><strong>John 3:16 — “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”</strong></blockquote><p>God did not send Jesus because He had to. He sent Him because He wanted you back. The cross is the most extreme expression of pursuit in all of history.</p><blockquote>The Creator of the universe, entering His own creation, absorbing its penalty, just to restore the relationship.</blockquote><p>No management framework explains this. No ROI model justifies it. This is love operating beyond rational calculus.</p><p><strong>The AI Agent &amp; The Empty Dashboard</strong></p><p>Back to our metaphor — and here is where it lands personally.</p><p>An AI agent can be impressive. It can generate, reason, predict, create. It can pass every benchmark, win every demo. But ask it why any of this matters — and it has no answer. It can only operate with meaning if it remains connected to the intent of its creator.</p><p>We are no different.</p><blockquote>Ecclesiastes 3:11 — “He has set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.”</blockquote><p>You can build the career. Close the deal. Accumulate the accolades. And still feel — at 11pm on a Tuesday — that something fundamental is missing. That is not failure. That is the manufacturer’s signature. The ache is directional. It is pointing you home.</p><h3><strong>Conclusion</strong>: The Easter Story Is a Redemption Architecture</h3><p>Easter is not a religious tradition for the superstitious.</p><p>It is the story of a Creator who designed agents for relationship and purpose, watched them drift into misalignment, and rather than delete the instance — chose, at infinite personal cost, to come in and restore it.</p><p>The death was necessary — to settle the debt.</p><p>The resurrection was necessary — to prove the system works again.</p><p>But the reason behind all of it?</p><p>Love. Audacious, irrational, universe-bending love.</p><blockquote>Romans 8:38–39 — “Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”</blockquote><p>The only AI agent that fulfils its purpose is the one aligned with its creator’s intent.</p><p>The only human being who finds genuine fulfilment is the one who comes back to theirs.</p><p>That is the Easter story. Not religion. Relationship.</p><p>Only a true, living connection with Jesus — the one who entered the system, paid the cost, and walked out of the tomb — makes the rest of your life compile correctly.</p><p>Happy Easter.</p><p>E.T</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=6b6cd096b89e" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[18th October, 2025: Aging, taking notes, and willing to share]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 22 Oct 2025 18:14:39 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><strong>Checking in on this season of my life…</strong></blockquote><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*axVqeYO89d7uhSNv3_uYAA.png" /></figure><p>As I mark another birthday, I like to pause, reflect, and pen down my thoughts for those who really care and would love to know.</p><p>Firstly, waking up feels different these days. Maybe it’s the diet. Maybe the late afternoon coffees. Maybe the recent weight gain 🙈 Whatever it is, I need to fix it. Learning to listen to my body as “his” voice gets louder. 😀</p><p>The plan? Getting a personal trainer to reset things. Found a Football club and then going back to lawn tennis and swimming. Long walks don’t seem enough.</p><p>More importantly, I have to take control of my plate — not leave it to a Chef or Domestic Help who thinks that loading my plate with carbohydrates is a sign of honour. I’m doing my own research and creating my own menu. Abeg!</p><h3>So, what are the headlines for me in this season?</h3><ol><li>We all start as incompetent in some areas. I may only know better because someone patiently taught me, and I listened (not discounting the posture to learn). Everyone deserves at least one chance, “with love and a lot of respect”.</li><li>I am starting to see “a point of no return”. A wrong strategic business move now could be dangerous on so many levels. This is where prayer will have consequences. Mercy!</li><li>De-escalate tense situations. Always. The temptations, the fury, the anxiety, and fear — self-control can be the thin line between prosperity and poverty, life and death, or a burnt bridge and a destiny helper. Title your alarm “CALM DOWN!”</li><li>I can feel the increasing weight of authority — and I must guard my tongue. The same mouth that secured my salvation can’t be used to lie, curse, or spread ignorance. Maybe that’s why it can’t raise the dead, just yet.</li><li>Gentleness, simplicity, and humility are my new fashion styles. I’ll wear them proudly — as the covering for my numerous blind spots and weaknesses. I can’t shout anymore — it’s now either black or white on Adidas. [If you don’t get it, “forgerraboutrrit”. Lol.]</li><li>I am starting to feel the market is shifting, the same shift some corporate giants ignored and became case studies in business schools. To be sincere, this scares me, not because God is not faithful, but because I fear my lack of capacity to continue executing relentlessly and fearlessly (Tribute to Dr. Herbert Wigwe).</li><li>Family is NOT negotiable and is truly №1 and nothing will be able to displace it.</li><li>Friends must be identified and held close in journaled thoughts, prayers and regular phone calls. Most are answers to prayers in disguise.</li><li>Business partners and partnerships must be “watered”. Honour and integrity must be upheld — we must return N100k loans when agreed. We can’t be asking strangers for “urgent ₦50 million” tomorrow. :-)</li><li>Discernment is needed to tell wise counsel from a security guard, discouragement from a family member, ignorant thoughts from a Protégé, or inconsequential feedback from a mentor — so we do not miss a season in life, get offended and consequently blinded, and God forbid, fall sick from bitterness.</li><li>Every leader has “The” people sent to him/her. Just invest time looking, and you will find them. They will be faithful, loyal and honest and will serve “with you”, with all their heart.</li><li>Protégés must be developed fast under structured programs — to speed up succession and avoid “coding at 60years.” 🫣💻</li><li>A healthy dose of selfishness may be necessary to protect yourself from a ’selfish generation” that was once prophesied to come… and is now here.</li><li>It’s now a content era. Your content online is your new website, and identity. So high-quality videos are not a luxury or a waste of time and resources; if not, the world will ignore you.</li><li>All the fathers (natural or spiritual), despite their flaws, feel like heroes — now that we’re trying on their shoes and struggling to fit in.</li><li>I’ll need a healthy dose of aggression to keep the cash flow at a certain level of velocity. “Only the violent take it by force”. Hope is truly not a strategy. There should always be “fire under the butt”.</li><li>It’s important to go back to all those who were there from the beginning to show honour and appreciation. From old Pastors, Mentors, Primary and Secondary School Teachers, Sponsors etc. If our children don’t see us do it, no one will visit us in “our own old people’s home”.</li><li>Prayer may not replace a lack of knowledge, competence, and capacity for problem solving, and their attending consequences. In fact, timing and relationships may even be more effective for some problems.</li></ol><h3>Appreciations</h3><p>I am grateful to God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ for another opportunity to celebrate my birthday. Thankful for life, health, family, colleagues, friends, clients, and work.</p><p>To those who sent messages, called, sang for me, wrote very “speechless” tributes and of course, those who gifted, thank you 🙏🏿. I will continue responding with gratitude if I haven’t replied yet… Thank you for making this one special.</p><p>Finally, exclusively and above All — to the three ladies in my life — my loving and lovely wife, Phil.., (their commander in chief 😃 and my no. 1 cheerleader), Carissa (my carbon copy in face and heart), and Zira (my namesake) — you’re my universe … I love you guys to the edge of our own observable Milky Way and back ❤️</p><p>“Now to Him who is able to keep you (me) from stumbling, and to present you (me) faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy. To God our Savior, who alone is wise, Be glory and majesty, Dominion and power, Both now and forever. Amen.” ‭‭Jude‬ ‭1‬:‭25‬ ‭- 26 NKJV‬</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=4d9fe1381b75" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[18th October, 2025: Aging, taking notes, and willing to share]]></title>
            <description><![CDATA[<div class="medium-feed-item"><p class="medium-feed-image"><a href="https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/18th-october-2025-aging-taking-notes-and-willing-to-share-2430ff058589?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/771/1*heSROVNflTQ_z7jjPF5wLg.jpeg" width="771"></a></p><p class="medium-feed-snippet">Checking in on this season of life&#x2026;</p><p class="medium-feed-link"><a href="https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/18th-october-2025-aging-taking-notes-and-willing-to-share-2430ff058589?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2">Continue reading on Medium »</a></p></div>]]></description>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 19 Oct 2025 06:55:49 GMT</pubDate>
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            <title><![CDATA[Building a competent republic]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 09:36:17 GMT</pubDate>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*MkeeVlxf8zFVIMq9LYE11Q.png" /><figcaption>Credits: The imagination of ChatGPT</figcaption></figure><p><strong>The Incompetent Republic</strong></p><p>The subject of competence fascinates me. I am inspired by the Authors David Epstein and Cal Newport who wrote Range and Deep Work respectively. They made niche topics interesting phenomenons — taking thinking about basic things to new heights. The former wrote that starting out your career as “a Jack of all traits is the best and safest thing to do”. He gave us an alternative to Malcom Gladwell’s 10, 000 hour phenomenon and went far back into history to build his case with very interesting stories including a comparison of Tiger Woods and Roger Federer and how they started out.</p><p>Cal Newport on the other hand, took the subject of “concentrating while working” and made it a phenomenon, showing us the science and art of it. That&#39;s deep! We even named a section in our office “Deep work” — where to get stuff done with no distractions.</p><p>By the way, I summarized these books in a way that conforms to the subject I am trying to explore. <strong>Competently</strong> making my case without loosing my audience. I hope it works out well.</p><p>I am going to share my ideas on how we can begin to develop as a nation, when we approach the subject of competence on a micro and macro level. This is suppose to be “a minimum viable product, on our way to nation building”.</p><blockquote>For anything I say, that you do not understand, please Google/AI it, a fundamental requirement to competency building — fuel your curiosity (if any) with a little more effort by further researching.</blockquote><p>Let me begin by defining competence, with an approach I will use through out to explain the thinking behind the subject of competence.</p><blockquote><strong>Idea 1: </strong>You should not define a concept by its theoretical or dictionary definition especially to an ignorant audience or to a group that needs to see it from a very different perspective, it won’t be impactful. Use dictionary definitions only when they are interesting or provide a rare perspective that better awakens the audience on the subject.</blockquote><blockquote>Instead focus on improving their understanding on the subject by painting the right picture and context first and let their imagination do the definition.</blockquote><p>Let me paint the picture I am proposing.</p><p>How can a country with so much faith and religion (what is considered supernatural), endowed with several natural and mineral resources, brilliant people who do exceptionally well in developed climes; still be labeled the poverty capital of the world? Its further plagued with the highest number of out of school children and several other damming macro-economic woes?</p><p>Blaming the politicians and leaders as the reason for all its woes is the first definition of incompetence on the part of the citizenry. Maybe Nigerians are incompetent citizens (wink).</p><p>Why did I mention faith and religion first? Because I am trying to “<strong>competently” </strong>connect with the larger audience (most influential Nigerians who actually have the capacity to effect change belong to one faith or other and pray often) and see if I can get their attention. If prayers are effective, then why is it unable to deliver a great nation?</p><p>That was macro, lets go micro now — at a personal or business level.</p><p>Here is a crazy example. Have you seen people host conferences and bring in high powered panels with a lot of depth but only give them very limited time to speak? That is like giving a very hungry person a very little portion of his/her favourite food. 7 panelists, against 20mins. I think most conference organizers are waking up to this flaw. But I needed to paint a picture on how competence must be analyzed.</p><p>Here is another one, may be quite controversial but will try. The current Nigerian President from word on the streets has always wanted to be President of Nigeria, but he technically planned, prepared and played the long game until he got in. Now whether the strategy was deliberate or accidental, here is how I am playing it in hindsight.</p><p>He first became Governor and then after serving 8-years, didn’t go to the senate or take on any appointment like most other Governors do, instead stayed behind to consolidate his influence in a state and take on the whole southwest region.</p><p>The famous Silicon valley Startup Accelerator Y-Combinator, recommends Startups should first find a niche market and work hard to become a monopoly before expanding to the larger market — as a winning strategy. That was the principle he used.</p><p>He then proceeded to build alliances with a very influential block — the north. When the time was almost right, he collaborated with the same north to deliver to it, one of its greatest heroes — the past president and then built the “legitimacy” to now be entitled. Throughout the very difficult and uncertain times Nigeria went through under the just past administration, he never made any negative public comment or criticism of the President. That was genius and admirable loyalty.</p><p>While the elections may have been marred in controversy, the unpopular means was also part of the strategy and “insurance”.</p><p>If you think my example is immoral, then you don’t yet understand the subject of competence. If you “the righteous person” are offended by my example, then you may never be in a position to fix Nigeria, or don’t you think our problems defy logic? Selah.</p><p>For the record, I believe in high moral standards, denounce violence and unfair play but if we must be true to ourselves, then we need to also think differently! Otherwise we will remain unsuccessful. Even Jesus (the one some worship) advised that you appear like a snake but treat others as a dove, while acknowledging you can be a sheep among wolves.</p><blockquote><strong>Idea 2: </strong>Competence is not a moral issue. If it was, the so-called “well-behaved” will always be in power.</blockquote><p>Let’s go more micro. I had a bad habit while growing up. During sermons, if the speaker is not adequately fervent and making sense, interesting or intellectually captivating, I tune off. I couldn’t stand boring speeches when the person delivering the speech is reading “text book stuff” for an audience that is not listening or will not be better for it.</p><p>What then fascinates me is how people sometimes lie or pretend and say “great speech”, or are unable to give real feedback to the speaker, “your speech was uninspiring and boring”. As a society, we are not there yet, and maybe have to wait for the Gen-Zs to be in power.</p><p>I hope my article starts the liberation movement from a country that allows uninspiring, textbook speeches at convocations, alters and platform that could have been used to move us forward and challenge people.</p><p>My point is this, just because the individual is well accomplished and successful doesn’t mean he should be the keynote speaker. He may be better off, on a panel being interviewed by a crazy anchor, who will ask provocative question to stimulate his passion to speak up and connect with the audience.</p><p>If you are often called to deliver speeches, especially to young people — you have to invest as much time in the approach as in the content. That is why social media is winning. You have to be competent in finding as much drama, distraction or fierce passion in delivering your message. Other wise, you will not optimize the opportunity.</p><p>How can 60+year old professor be the keynote at a graduation ceremony of final year secondary school/high school students? Nothing wrong with that but if you want to pass a message across, you have to <strong>competently</strong> consider all the factors including the level of speaker engagement and think differently in order to secure a different outcome.</p><p>Delivering an impactful speech has nothing to do with reading on or off a script. I have observed most speeches delivered by Americans, they tell stories and keep it authentic.</p><p>If you are a 60+year old Professor, invited to deliver a speech at a secondary school graduation, narrating how you taught math in exchange for dates, was afraid of your British school teacher or almost drowned in a river in an attempt to impress a date — may deliver a more impactful message, than reading from a script, giving moral instructions, providing dictionary definitions and textbook lectures — to a restless group of people who can’t wait to get out of the hall for their after party. You can deliver a more <strong>competent</strong> speech.</p><p>I hope we will start maximizing valuable man-hours on gatherings that have the capability to drive our objectives.</p><p>I am using unusually examples, not only to get your attention but also to drive your imagination on the subject of competence.</p><h3><strong>Stay tune for Part 2 of this hopefully, a series</strong></h3><p>When I return, the subject continues on being a competent employer, employee, parent etc.</p><p>After which we will delve into policy and other extremely difficult macro-economic issues plaguing us today.</p><p>For instance, we have enough farm land to probably feed most of Europe but lack food security.</p><blockquote><strong>Covid-19 lockdown demonstrated to us that if nations mean business, they will get results overnight.</strong></blockquote><p>We do not lack ideas or the capabilities to diagnose our problems, I think we are <strong>incompetent</strong> in thinking strategically at the highest level of abstraction, in solving our most basic problems. The saddest part is the visible refusal to admit that things aren’t working and we can explore extremely unconventional means to address them.</p><p>I am sure you will agree with me that we need to have this conversation.</p><p>Cheers</p><p>E.T</p><p>Ps: I will proof-read this later. Just keeping it real :-). Your comments too may help.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=5a093682169f" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
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            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<h3><strong>On the Eve of my 40th: An Executive Summary of My Thoughts and Appreciations…</strong></h3><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/1024/1*U_x12L1jAUqg39VNLDMFhg.jpeg" /><figcaption><strong>Emmanuel Tarfa, September 2023</strong></figcaption></figure><p>I thought I would publish a book on or before my 40th birthday but I couldn&#39;t because I didn&#39;t have the time. The Irony is as a management consultant, you technically write a book every other month.</p><p>Notwithstanding, I decided to write an article instead — an executive summary of my thoughts and an easy way out for both the writer and the reader.</p><p>We also have too much information and media and I think a lot of people pretend to read books. Anyway, this article is a compromise. It <strong>was not written with AI, well, except that I used the App Grammarly to proofread. </strong>I hear some voices say, “AI still has a hand in it.”</p><p>Before you begin, I must warn you — I write personal articles in a sort of “quasi-rambling manner”. I mix it all up — faith, work, life etc. I am just trying to tell a story.</p><p>One may ask “Emmanuel, do you need to write?” Yes! Writing is important because it sets the record for generations to come, enables you to own your story, and could also be a report card that can be reviewed in the future. Imagine me reading this article at 50 or 70 etc. or my children and grandchildren reading it? They would appreciate some things and draw inspiration for their own lives. For instance, they may not believe I actually wrote the article because nobody may need to write in the future. You may only need to imagine or speak it and it happens.</p><p>Even the Bible is a book of writings —seemingly ordinary letters, written out of love became Epistles with content and context for new creation realities in Christ Jesus, thousands of years later.</p><p>Meanwhile, I will be very surprised if humanity will still be around for another 1,000 years to read my article.</p><p><strong>Wait! Emmanuel, how can you be 40?</strong></p><p>This is a double-sided question. On one side: some of my secondary school classmates will be shocked because the average birth year of the set is 1985/86. On the other hand, some more recent acquaintances such as clients and social media followers would think I should be older or just about that age.</p><p>For my secondary schoolmates, I am sorry for the shock because you’re the only ones I owe an explanation. I have a confession: I was one of Nigeria’s only Child intelligence officers ever employed for a South American foreign government tracking a fugitive drug lord, who was hiding in Agbara, Nigeria. He sent his kids to Federal Government College Lagos (Ijanikin) and the plan was to find them and get close. They needed a slightly more mature kid, so I had to start from J.S.S1.</p><p>Why do you think I disappeared from school a few times, had close Senior friends, or had very white school shirts in J.S.S 1, did you think I used to wash them myself? This story is longer but let me come back to it later.</p><p>My military uncle nominated and got me the gig. There is more but for now and on my 40th, you heard this story first.</p><p><strong>40 is big and cannot go quietly without the usual party</strong></p><p>Well, it&#39;s complicated. To keep it simple: I am driven by personal convictions and not societal norms. Infact, I usually act differently from what people would normally do, not as a rebel but in pursuing what I believe and what makes me happy. There is nothing wrong with celebrating important dates and I have nothing against that.</p><p>I dread parties, especially the morning after — it feels like an anticlimax because I will wake up as the same person before the party. I also feel like when you have a party, virtue leaves you. As weird as this may sound, this is me being sincere.</p><p>“Emmanuel, such birthdays are for celebrating with friends and family”. Well, I do that every Sunday at Church and weekday at work. For those living far away— I can pick up the phone and call them. “Emmanuel you’re weird”. Well, now you know. There is more weird stuff about me but let me not ruin our relationship. Let’s see what happens at my 50th God’s willing.</p><p><strong>My Ideal 40th Celebration</strong></p><p>Take my beautiful wife and two lovely daughters on a week’s adventure to some family-friendly holiday destination.</p><p>Return them to Lagos and take off alone for two weeks carrying a Tumi backpack, a Schengen visa, $10k in a debit card — traveling across European cities and villages on trains and night buses, sleeping in Air BnB’s.</p><p><strong>So, what does it feel like to be 40?</strong></p><p>I see the pity on the faces of my younger friends and colleagues as if being 40 is a disease and the joy on the faces of the older ones, who are very mischievously happy to welcome me to some old men’s club.</p><p>I am not going to give anyone the cliche response “I cannot believe I am 40”. At the time of this writing, I have no conventional regrets regarding my net worth — the typical report card for measuring a successful life before 40.</p><p>I am driven by the ideology of everyday success and remain sensitive to times and seasons in my life and sphere of influence. I do not practice annual rituals. I wake up every day as though it was the 1st of January with new ideas and new plans. That’s probably why my colleagues can’t keep up with my daily new ideas.</p><p>I believe our report cards are served to us daily and I had gotten to 40 mentally before the time. I am sincerely not feeling surreal.</p><p><strong>So, no regrets?</strong></p><p>Sincerely no conventional regrets except one.</p><p>I only wish I was much more prayerful.</p><p>I believe for a man (especially the male gender), prayerfulness isn&#39;t negotiable. This is not another religious postulation, but an understanding born out of a sense of deep conviction and experience that if anyone seeks to lead a life devoid of fundamental and irreversible errors, being sincerely prayerful is the secret.</p><p>Prayers not out of fear or a desire for things but out of a personal relationship with God. It&#39;s the highest covering and fulfillment.</p><p>I have observed from preceding generations, that the problem with being a man begins in their middle to late 30’s. When childhood dreams begin to fade or on another extreme end, when they achieve great success without a sense of true purpose. Temptations begin to abound, some of which end up in mid-life crises. I have seen that sincere men of prayer are able to navigate these tough times especially at work and are preserved.</p><p>There were mornings I prayed, got the inspiration to make a particular call or visit some client, and immediately saw results or got certain confirmations.</p><p>So, one of the things I am truly looking forward to is a Prayerful Emmanuel on steroids. My first prayer request in this season is to get a map of what it takes to travel to a point in this life, when I find myself fully immersed in God’s thoughts for me. That is my greatest quest.</p><p>We have been told money makes people comfortable but not fulfilled. Alot of us are more fulfilled than some of the rich people we admire. Somebody may say, “give me their misery and money”. I advise you to pursue fulfilment and money separately.</p><blockquote><strong>The fundamental problem is not a life without purpose, but our inability to define success, happiness, or true fulfilment.</strong></blockquote><p><strong>What would you say is your greatest achievement?</strong></p><p>I am still on the journey and ideally, this question can only be answered by the people I am called to serve. From my wife, kids, extended family, friends, colleagues, clients, Nigeria and humanity etc.</p><p>I would rather answer the question by saying the last 40 years were training sessions. I am actually just about to start working. I am talking about serving my loved ones and humanity on a larger scale.</p><p><strong>Any advice for the younger generation?</strong></p><p>To be sincere, we are too quick to provide unsolicited advice in this part of the world. The only other ones who share advice for commercial reasons are motivational speakers, which unfortunately I am not.</p><p>If you were paying attention to this article and reading in between the lines, you must have gotten some advice.</p><blockquote><strong>Let me put it plainly this time, A prayerful life is the highest level of abstraction for operating your life. Full stop!</strong></blockquote><p><strong>Back to the South American Intelligence Agency Days</strong></p><p>Laughing out loud! Please!</p><p>So, I did Primary 5 three times and still did primary 6. How? Well, I think it’s God. After my original primary 5 in 1992, We moved as a family twice, and every time we got to the new town; they said I wasn’t smart enough and I had to re-do primary 5. When I finally started to get the hang of things, in my third primary 5 (at Airforce primary school Victoria Island in 1995), I didn’t pass the mock exams organized for primary 5 pupils. This failure will automatically qualify me for primary 6. While a couple of parents decided to take their kids outside the school to sit for the common entrance externally, my dad said “NO!”</p><p>I am really glad he did not allow me to take that path because my life changed in primary 6 — “I popped!”. I came to a super-consciousness that became the foundation of who I am today. So, my original secondary school classmates (from my first primary 5) graduated in 1999/2000.</p><p>I am sure it was hard to imagine an Emmanuel that wasn’t smart. Yes! While the quality of education was a major factor, there were no modern tools for establishing unique learning requirements for kids like me. There was nothing wrong with me, as you can see now :-).</p><p><strong>I have a theory: The Superconscious State</strong></p><p>This is when you come to yourself. Most times people arrive too late to do anything about it. For some it comes early. E.g. Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Tony Elumelu, Napoleon and many other great men and women who were able to take decision based on a conscious conviction. Only then were they able to conquer their worlds early.</p><p>This is not about financially wealthy people. The European Explorers and missionaries that came to Africa were in this state of consciousness. It was insane to leave the shores of Europe at the time to sail to unknown worlds, not knowing what to expect. Everyman should seek to come to this point early. David, Joseph, Daniel in the Bible, all lived in this consciousness. E.T.</p><p>Even the Bible says, “bear the yoke while you’re young”.</p><p>Anyway, for me, it was an act of God’s mercy — re-arranging my life for his purpose. Thank God I didn’t finish secondary school in 1999. I would either not be alive or become a random local champion somewhere. But even if Mercy found me much later, my trajectory would have taken me on a completely different tangent, and I would not have met YOU reading this article. For some people, this needs to sink in for a few seconds.</p><p>The truth is everyone with a unique destiny will experience a reset. That was mine and thank God it came early at primary school. For those who have only enjoyed double promotions all their lives and not aware that they are unconscious, I trust this article meets you well.</p><blockquote><strong>The reason why God is so great is because he controls the Rubik of this world. Remember the hand game — a cube with colours that must be aligned. He has to ensure that the people whom he needs to meet are all on the same side of the cube and at the right time. Only a super and incredible genius can handle this level of complexity for billions of people. E.T</strong></blockquote><p>Through God’s mercies, we can fall in line and experience a re-routing for our lives. God’s mercies are also like his A.I. It has the ability to reach out into one&#39;s future and fetch the plea for mercy, which is what happened to me.</p><p>That is why Institutions, Governments, and leadership are tools of God for directing the affairs of humanity at scale. JAMB and ASSU strikes were probably tools in God’s hands for aligning entire generations. You guys have no clue what is going to come out the rubble of Nigeria. E.T.</p><p><strong>What Drives me?</strong></p><p><strong>Let Every Man and Woman seek to be Exceptional, it&#39;s in our calling…</strong></p><p>I know I am different not because I aimlessly choose too but because I just see things differently. Infact, I come alive when I am reading the biography of Steve Jobs and more recently Elon Musk.</p><p>Calm down! I am not trying in any way to compare myself with these “gods” and not also projecting that I will become one of the richest men in the World. I never set out with those objectives but with a vision to solve a specific problem in a way nobody else can in a large market.</p><p>Let us be clear, there are “Steve Job”: Drivers, mechanics, nurses, politicians, teachers (a lot), clergy etc. These are men and women who decide to think differently and put in the excellence work to build something greater than them and for their customers or stakeholders. That is love! God is love.</p><blockquote>I am talking about Vision — the ability to see and articulate a specific outcome in the maze of options exclusively and clearly. Whether it&#39;s to chair a small committee, a house party or even lead a company, you cannot treat any task or role like a mere mortal. We were made in the image of God and to be a visionary is to be able to tap into this consciousness.</blockquote><blockquote>If God can be so meticulous that he would create billions of species or pay so much attention to the reproductive details of some random species of fish, that are kilometers below the ocean — and was too far for mankind to discover before they went extinct; then you have sinned and fallen short of his glory to be incompetent and average. Steve Jobs was that meticulous and maybe that explains, in my opinion, why he was probably the greatest and most popular corporate visionary of the 21st century. E.T.</blockquote><blockquote><strong>In my opinion, Nigeria is not great because of the lack of good leadership alone but because ordinary people refuse to do great things in little places. This too should be copyrighted with all other E.T. quotes. Lol. Forgive my immodesty.</strong></blockquote><p>While Steve Jobs and Elon Musk (men who operated kingdom principles by the way) had a bigger platform — America, I resonate with their thinking and when people say it cannot be done, I imagine otherwise.</p><p>Maybe I allow the voices in the room to sometimes drown my opinion or make the excuse that I may just be ahead of my time in that context.</p><p><strong>In Conclusion</strong></p><p>Thank you for reading this to the end. If you have energy and are a close acquaintance, locate your name in the appreciation section.</p><p>Life, they say, begins at 40, that is why I am happy to step into a new season in God and mankind. I have my little seeds and I trust God to bring the increase. Till date, I have given my best — time, resources, and expertise to serve as many in my sphere of influence.</p><p>For those I didn&#39;t serve to the appropriate threshold, I commit to doing better. I haven&#39;t been great at staying connected with some of my good old friends, clients and even family etc., but that will also change.</p><p>For those coming behind, see you on the 4th floor. For those ahead, we will continue to learn from you.</p><p><em>Now unto him that is able to keep </em><strong><em>ME</em></strong><em> from falling, and to present ME faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy.</em></p><p><em>To the only wise God </em><strong><em>MY</em></strong><em> Saviour, be glory and majesty, dominion, and power, both now and for the rest of my life on earth. Amen! </em><strong>Jude 24–25,</strong></p><blockquote><strong><em>All the Glory and Thanksgiving to God the Father, Son &amp; Holy Spirit for keeping me to see this day.</em></strong></blockquote><p>Cheers Emmanuel Tarfa to 40!</p><p>— — — — — — — — — — — — — — — —</p><p><strong>Special Appreciations</strong></p><p>To my:</p><ul><li>Lovely wife and daughters — I love you guys and everything I have worked for and will ever accomplish is dedicated to you all.</li><li>To my wife and love of my life Philian, thank you for being a pillar, inspiration, great mother, wife and the real Mrs. Patience in my life. You’re my earthly-everything.</li><li>To Carissa — The superwoman in the making, Daddy loves you, and he knows you will make him proud. You’re a leader already.</li><li>To Hyeladzira (Zira aka Zizi), the mental genius, Daddy loves you too and thank you for always screaming my name when I walk in.</li><li>Mum and Dad— thank you for the gift of life and being great examples of character. Your little, critical and troublesome Emma is now 40. I love you both forever.</li><li>Siblings (Vicky, Amina, Rejoice, Dauda, Joshua and Amos)— I love you guys to the edge of the Universe and back.</li></ul><p><em>Vicky — The best big sister anyone could wish for. Your love and sacrifice knows no bounds.</em></p><p><em>Amina — The fixer, thank you for always showing up for me. Much love.</em></p><p><em>Rejoice — The bridge for us all — the fearless one, my confidant within the family, I love you dear Sis.</em></p><p><em>Dauda — The Good and faithful big brother, thank you for your faith in me — much love bro.!</em></p><p><em>Joshua — I may not say it much, but I love you, my brother!</em></p><p><em>Amos — my little bro. keep making us proud. You’re different too:-)</em></p><ul><li>Father and Mother-in-laws Mr. &amp; Mrs. Niyo — I couldn&#39;t wish for any more amazing in laws. Thank you for the love and support.</li><li>To the Matriarch — Mama of Mama’s (Mrs. Magaret Hamza aka Auntie Magi.) Happy 80th Birthday. You are a solid woman of excellence and vision! You were visionary.</li><li>My big Aunty —Mrs. Beatrice Hamza-Bassey — thank you for raising the standard and being an inspiration. Thank you for kind gestures in Lagos.</li><li>Aunty Hyeladizira Hamza — Thank you for giving me my first breakthrough in Lagos. Your generous gift to me became an everlasting testimony. I will still come back to say thank you.</li><li>Aunties Esther, Jenice, and Kucheli and big Uncle Wani — I love you all.</li><li>In-laws — M.L (solid man) &amp; Phiyiku (amazing sister), Clive (my man) &amp; Phiyidi (correct woman), Phitami (loyal sister), Nkpahian (genius sister)— I love you guys and thank you for being simply amazing.</li><li>My second-in-laws — Edna, Steph., Manji — Much love and respect.</li><li>My cousins — Asabe, Beatrice, Solomon, Musa, Hezekiah, Hassan, Hussani, Ruth and your sister.</li><li>My big aunties — Mama Comish, and Aunty Gatha — Your little troublesome boy is 40 now. I love you.</li><li>Aunty Sunimba (one in a million) — thank you for being amazing. My BSc certificate is dedicated to you. Then of course very deep appreciation to Baba, Mama, Saundi, Suki and the Prof.</li><li>For my other cousins and relatives too numerous to mention, I will come and look for you.</li><li>Pastors — Dele and Morin Osunmakinde — you taught me faith that moves mountains, grit, and the attitude to succeed. I love you both. You’re people of enviable faith and virtue.</li><li>Friend and brother Bayo Bello — my first spiritual mentor. You exclusively wrote 8-page letters to me in Secondary School to teach me God’s word. Thank you. You awoke my super consciousness.</li><li>PDK (aka Dr. K) Business Partner, and Friend — The man without guile! Thanks for just letting me be myself. Lol. I hope we can be business partners in Heaven.</li><li>DDK — There is only one DDK and no need for the full description. The encourager! You can really make my head swell and blow. Thank you for the prayers and kind words. You inspire me to be different.</li><li>Pastors Deji &amp; Oby Aladejebi —strong people. Thank you for believing in me more than I can imagine.</li><li>Pastor Raymond Okpara — I am loyal sir. Thank you!</li><li>TBC Family — I love you guys to the moon and back and then to the sun and back.</li><li>Mrs. Nkem Uzowulu (Blessed memory) — our mummy from Ijanikin. “You carried my matter for your head pass anyone wey I sabi”. You loved and celebrated me without bounds. I miss you. Thank you!</li><li>Miriaku Obioha — my first business partner. You have been consistent and critical. Thank you Mikkie from the bottom of my heart for just always being there. Wherever this “gospel is preached”, you shall be remembered.</li><li>Yejide Ipadeola (Nee Daniels) — My reading Partner in University — you saved me from an extra year or maybe even dropping out, because I started to get ahead of myself with my Visions. Thank you and I am still coming back to say more thank you o.</li><li>Kunle Joe Komolafe — You set my mind on the right track and exposed me to a Universe of possibilities. You were my first mentor and taught me to recognize and fight average and mediocrity. I love you sir.</li><li>To my first family in Lagos— the Onokpachere’s — Mummy, Ediri, Ejiro, Ovie, Imoni, Jenifer (Ovonomo) and lastly the second man in the house (trying to remember the name) — You guys took me in as Corper in this Lagos, made me feel so loved. Excaptional people. I am still coming back to say thank you. I love you guys too much.</li><li>Bosom friends — Ovie Daniels (in season and out of season, you’re my friend forever), Imoni Onokpachere (the younger sister I never had, thank you for always believing in me and being the cheerleader. Much love and appreciation — I am still coming to say thank you), Nelson Okwonna (the only man I can run to for urgent 2k. Lol. My confidant and word partner), Leke Ogunjemilusi (aka Bines), The only Keturah I know (Nee Yusuf), Emmanuel Onoja, Fola Onasanya (your stake is still waiting for you o), Tayo Osiyemi (solid brother), Seun Oloyede (my guardian angel), Charles Idem (my straight forward brother — the only guy who could tell me when my mouth was smelling), Uchenna Ukejianya (our coach for depths), Shak Umaru (loyal and solid man), Saheed Lawal (first friend in J.S. 1 — deep man with a large heart), Deyemi Okanlawon (Yes! The actor. Lol — the financial motivator).</li><li><strong>Oga </strong>Victor Aribioke — you’re an inspiration. Thank you for your large heart and spoiling us in London o! Lol.</li><li>Nkiru Oluwatosin — My head girl, sister and friend. Solid woman of God — thank you.</li><li>Mr. Chukwuka Monye — the man who <strong>handcrafted</strong> me into the management consultant I am today. I would not be where I am intellectually today, especially my thinking, if not for you. Thank you! I will come back to say thank you very well and promise to make you proud.</li><li>Pope — Solid man in and outise. Thank you, sir, for the cheering.</li><li>Mrs. Omokhiomo — thank you for always being there and for the advise and prayers.</li><li>Kunle Oladebo (Blessed memory) — You believed in me! Thank You</li><li>Kiki Onigbanjo (Nee Oranika) — Thank you for always being there from day one and for even when I fall short of being in touch. Your large heart will never be forgotten.</li><li>Mr. Tokunbo Siyanbola — there can only be one you! I love you sir. Thank You for your large heart. Your generosity is unreal sir. You gave us our first office.</li><li>Colleagues (present and alumni) at Enzo Krypton &amp; Co. and Kryptr— Co-labourers of the vision to put African businesses on the global map and solve the talent crises. I love and appreciate you all.</li><li>Special love and appreciation shout out to Ayomide Onasanya and Nwando Ogo — you guys make the grind worthwhile. I deeply appreciate you both and can’t wait for that cover photo on Forbes.</li><li>Mr. Deji Adeniyi — the intellectual colossus, thank you for your kind words always.</li><li>Business and Career Mentor — Mr. Kehinde Lawanson — thank you for being very tough on me, with no apologies and for teaching my hands to war and always eager to open doors. I promise to be audacious going forward.</li><li>Tayo Bamiduro — My personal advisor on the quest to building an African Unicorn. Thanks for your time, always :-).</li><li>Great Friends — Esrom Ajanya, Dayo &amp; Amaka Ajayi (my dear people), Ifeniyi &amp; Kemi Ifekoya (my good people), Kayode Akeremale (egbon), Kayode &amp; Ijeoma Olagunju (my good people), Ayo Alade (my client, brother and friend), Udo Ezeamama (my good friend), Obinna Obilo (my good friend, we only need to switch on to catch-up), Obiora Okeke (Blessed memory), Adaobi Umaru (nee Uzowulu) my dear sister and friend, Femi Owoyele (always wishing me well, thank you sir), Biyi Alex-Adedipe (strong man, my bro.), Ugochukwu Monye (my Chairman and swag advisor) , Adeolu Adedeji (my solid business associate), Mustapha Mohammed (my G from Air force primary school), Gbolahan Yusuf (my brother and friend — you are the only whose name appears twice. Lol), Uche Ezeamama (strong man, looking forward to closing a transaction soon), Dolapo Atinmo (my client, brother and friend — large heart), Salami Abolore (my solid brother and friend — no shaking), Boye Oshinaga (we connect any day), Yetunde Odunsi, Adanma Nee Ezeagbulam (my sister, out of sight is not out of mind o), Itoro Nehemiah (solid man of substance and valor), Miracle Onyebuchim (my man and gist buddy), Babatunde Ojo (chairman), Victor Anagor (my guy), Tonye Cookey (my solid guy), Lawrence Idiakoha (my man and secret confidant), Damilola Oni (my man), Victor Nwaneri (my man any day), Promise Igodo (my partner and friend), Deji Kuye (my CTO), Ngozi Ikeka (strong woman of faith — always watchful — thank you) Faith Elaigwu (my large heart friend), Bolanle Oyewole (my personal person), Jesutoun Sijuwade (thank you for all the new month messages), Iyanuoluwa (my man), …</li><li>Jesulayomi, because we are birthday mates — best wishes sis.</li><li>Kids church, Conclave, Central CEC and TBC Abuja (my first love).</li><li>Abubakar Ahmed (Abu) — the Ideas Genius. We must hammer o! Lol</li><li>Pastor Chris Delvan — Thank you sir. I love you.</li><li>Pastor Segun Coker — thank you for the advice to go and find experience first before setting out. You saved my life sir. I love you sir. I will still come back to say thank you.</li><li>Pastor Ayo Olude — solid man of God. I admire your character. I love you sir.</li><li>Daisy Yusuf — strong woman, thank you for your encouragements and support over the years. Well, by extension your husband Gbolahan(you now appear twice). Great couple. I love you guys!</li><li>Investors —Sola Adeyinka and Seye Olusoga — thank you for believing in us. You guys are truly Angels.</li><li>Amazing client turned family, who has a special place in my work and heart: Mrs. Adepetun — our first fruit ma, thank you for being a rock-solid woman and allowing me fly and thank you for all you do for us.</li><li>Dr. Sadare (Blessed memory), you were an amazing, one-of-a-kind and lifetime woman. Thank you.</li><li>Mrs. Adefisayo — Ha! I am speechless. You part the modern-day red seas — I love and appreciate you ma. Thank you for the amazing conversations we have and for trusting me beyond my imagination. I am at your service.</li><li>Mrs. Ogunlesi — Hmmm, where do I begin. I better not start. You’re solid in and out ma. Thank you for the great honour you often bestow on me. Thank you for the gift of access.</li><li>Inya Lawal — You’re special because you transitioned from client to sister and friend. Thank you for blowing my trumpet more than my windpipes could carry.</li><li>Dr. &amp; Dr. Mrs. Karunwi — great and good people. Thank you!</li><li>Mr. Babatunde Abiose —My Egbon, I appreciate you sir. You don’t have wahala at all.</li><li>To a long list of great clients, too many to remember — Nicole and Mr. H, Mojirade Bepo (my newest client on the journey), Tanwa (the specialist), Mrs. Teju Abisoye (we love and appreciate you), Pastor Zunny Abu (thank you sir for loving me), Kaffy (The dancer — great sister and woman of substance), Tete Mbuk (inspirational brother), Mrs. Njideaka (my great and big aunty, secret encourager — thank you), Yomi Awobokun (my egbon and execution inspiration)</li><li>Osehi Obikoya — The woman who deliberately prays for me with alarm set. Thank you. You inspire me always. Oya, Tayo (husband, collect also).</li><li>Mrs. Uche Ibe — aka cheerleader, the raiser of kings and queens. Thank you for the great conversations and encouragements. I appreciate you ma.</li><li>Dear big sister — Mrs. Ayo Okpa Iroha, barely known in each other but you have become a prayer partner and strong encourager.</li></ul><p>Finally, to you The Reader — Yes, <strong>YOU</strong>! Reading this article. Thank you for following and for getting to the end.</p><p>If your name was not on this list and you believe you were suppose to be on the list, please check within a week for updates, the platform will enable me to make changes. But if you still don’t make it. I love you still and please forgive me. Big hug!</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=b3e966e71391" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[On Election Thuggery, Malpractice and Everything in-between]]></title>
            <link>https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/on-election-thuggery-malpractice-and-everything-in-between-22d03c4aa74b?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2</link>
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            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Sun, 19 Mar 2023 10:34:42 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2023-03-19T13:35:08.842Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Election is over, today is sunday and the performance feedback session is over.</p><p>Evangelism department, our appraisal is out and job description has been updated.</p><p>Additional KPI Line Item: How many th*** can we save in 4years?</p><p>Selah…</p><p>E.T</p><p>Thuggery is a product of a different type of discipleship system, just like Boko Haram etc.</p><p>We can’t pretend not to understand the root cause of the fruits we now see. You now know it’s beyond politics (democracy), or good governance, but about power (and not service).</p><p>To the discouraged young woman and man, brace for impact and welcome to adulthood!</p><p>Let’s be moderate in speech (carefulness of tongue), meditate more and find a worthy mission in this life and submit to it — you will find a measure of fulfillment and peace.</p><p>If we want to reap a good society, we have to plant the seeds (work hard). Nation building is work and go check out the price other countries paid. We also have to respect times, seasons and cultural sensitivities that are backed by blood!</p><p>Let’s be careful how we criticize the Esthers “in the Palace” who are representing us and won’t resign because they are there for such a time as this, or Daniels and his three friends, who despite being captives from their just destroyed home town, had to submit to the authority of an oppressive Nebuchadnezzar. They eventually ran the show and even served over 4kings later.</p><p>Pending when our democracy fully matures, and it’s still on its way there; we have to understand authority, before we collect power. When our democracy crosses the threshold, we will transition into a service-based government. We have to put a structure to our frustrations, define its strategic objectives and submit to the designated authority we appoint. Young people need to understand how the world works. Let’s not be ignorant!</p><p>Morality and character is not a “political theoretical conversation”, if you think otherwise, you will be raped in broad day light.</p><p>The democracy of the West, which we reference or are enjoying (for the diaspora) was a product of years of TERRIBLE struggles. Ours is still on its way, and we just got our scorecard (current state assessment report).</p><p>The souls of men are up for sale and belong to the highest bidder. Are we ready to pay the price?</p><p>For those who don’t understand my parable-like writing or agree with it, let me give you a different target in plain English — You have to ensure every child in your sphere of influence, gets good and quality education and can graduate with a tangible competence (or skill) and 98% of our national political-related problems will be over.</p><p>“But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved.”</p><p>‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭10‬:‭39‬ ‭</p><p>God bless Nigeria!</p><p>E.T</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=22d03c4aa74b" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[A Memo to Nigeria’s Youth: How To Create Our Desired Future]]></title>
            <link>https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/a-memo-to-nigerias-youth-how-to-create-our-desired-future-1e7264a5c3de?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[nigeria]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[2023-elections]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[nigerian-youth]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Mon, 03 May 2021 16:05:35 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2021-05-04T06:11:25.648Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/507/1*W2EhXhAWp4dNqYzyhNem_Q.jpeg" /><figcaption><strong>Source: Google</strong></figcaption></figure><h3><strong>We are failing to act again, while 2023 is approaching</strong></h3><p>The situation in Nigeria is starting to look hopeless for many. Despite all the recent killings, kidnappings, and all sorts of insecurity challenges faced by the citizenry in the last few weeks; the President of Nigeria is yet to address the Nation or communicate a decisive plan to end it. What is worrying is, most enlightened and upwardly mobile young people are projecting a scenario where things are not likely to improve in the short term even if the Government decides to act and end the immediate insecurity crises. They argue the number of unemployed Nigerians will continue to provide a pool for recruiting perpetrators of all kinds of evil to Society.</p><p>Nigeria’s youth demonstrated an unprecedented level of coordination during the End SARs protest — revealing the key ingredient for bringing about any change. While many are still recovering from the trauma of its aftermath, this article was written to suggest a pragmatic plan to put Nigeria back on track through the active participation of its Youth. Too many calls have been made to the Nigerian youth to unite and take over the helm of affairs of this country but the Youth lack a clear plan or the leadership to do so.</p><blockquote><strong>If Nigeria’s Youth does not quickly act now, it will be presented with the same set of candidates and consequences in 2023 — which have plagued the country since inception.</strong></blockquote><p>The legal and most effective way to bring about change in a democracy is through the electoral process — getting involved in the process of selecting the leaders and holding them accountable for their actions.</p><p><strong>The Challenges with Nigeria’s Youth — Threatening its Ability to Act</strong></p><p><strong>It&#39;s ignorant</strong> — Respectfully speaking my fellow youth, because we do not understand how Government works among other things, we cannot change things. In my estimate, excluding security, the President is still less than 30% responsible for the problems of Nigeria. Local Government Chairmen or women (if any), State Governors, The Legislature (State and Federal), and Civil Servants (State and Federal) are the remaining 70%. Civil servants are responsible for implementing Nigeria’s budget and all the schools that would have been built, kids that would have been sent to school, and all sorts of projects that would have been implemented to make our lives better were truncated on the desks of these Government officials. This is not to mention that most of Nigeria’s budget is salaries of civil servants.</p><blockquote><strong><em>According to an analysis of Nigeria’s 2020 budget by PwC, “cumulative Federal Government (FG) personnel costs, pensions, and gratuities (from 2011 to 2020) will be over N20 trillion”</em></strong></blockquote><blockquote><strong>I would argue that Nigeria’s civil service can run on half of its current personnel strength. That means we would have had N10 trillion for real development — that could have delivered a small Dubai in each geopolitical zone in Nigeria.</strong></blockquote><p>We have not accounted for State Civil Servants or the waste from poorly organized training and all kinds of frivolities spent by Civil servants. So you can see the budget creators have quietly taken care of themselves over the years. This does not include the waste and leakages among revenue-generating agencies such as Customs, FIRS, NNPC etc. — where “some” officers directly pocket part of Government funds at the source.</p><p>I will address this issue in my recommendations below.</p><p><strong>It’s not strategic — </strong>The Elite Old Guard are not just going to hand over power to us on a platter of Gold, we need to take it using the laid down democratic process — Elections! We also do not understand how much resources we have at our disposal. The average progressive young Nigerian would back any initiative that will save Nigeria. Even those abroad become more patriotic when they relocate or from there. From Celebrities, to Tech. Entrepreneurs, to Faith Leaders — they are mostly on our side and we have the potential to start somewhere.</p><p><strong>Politics is not a Black Hole:</strong> The Elite have made it look like an exclusive club for the brave or ruthless, forgetting that technocrats like Governors Fayemi and El-Rufai were ordinary people like some of us, who rose within the ranks to clinch their current positions. Yes, it requires money and it&#39;s a grassroots game, but you and I have more resources combined to change things than we could imagine.</p><p><strong>Let’s dive into the solution. First, let me paint a future state:</strong></p><p><strong>What if in 2023, we sweep into offices across Local Governments, State and Federal houses of Assemblies, and Governorship positions? </strong>Imagine if we had brilliant and sincere minds, similar to those running some of the most successful enterprises in Nigeria, distributed across the various levels of Government identified above? Mind you, I left the Presidency out for a reason and would explain later.</p><p>On getting there, we negotiate more resources for the sub-National Government (State and Local Governments) and develop a sustainable accountability framework — that ensures we do not perform worse than those who occupied the positions before us. Afterwards, we can now focus on fixing our local issues such as Healthcare, Education, Roads, Security, etc. — which impact our daily lives more directly. Pending when these negotiations for devolution of powers finish, we can begin to execute change at the local levels with the little resources already available at the sub-National-level.</p><h3><strong>Here is a potential plan for 2023</strong></h3><ol><li><strong>We need to be United under One Platform</strong></li></ol><p>By Platform, I mean the political party (vehicle) we will use to participate in the democratic process.</p><p>We have three broad options and have to be united in making this decision.</p><p>I. We can join any of the existing non-popular parties.</p><p>II. We can join one of the major parties — APC or PDP OR</p><p>III. We simply form a new Party.</p><p>What will make this decision easier is defining the rules of engagement even before we enter. What we really need now is to seize power and when we cross that hurdle we can continue to modify the vehicle. Each point above has an argument for or against it. I will suggest we use a rigorous critical thinking process to make that decision. Even our current President joined forces with the unlikely before getting the chance to be President.</p><p>This point came first because we are running out of time to 2023, but it should be executed alongside other recommendations below.</p><p><strong>2. We need to organize ourselves and put our house in order</strong></p><p>Independent of our Political Party (The initial vehicle) we will be joining, we need to know ourselves and align on our values, develop our political tools, identify our candidates and build capacity to seize power. This is briefly how:</p><p><strong><em>Value Alignment —</em></strong></p><ul><li><em>Competence — using debates and clearly defined performance management systems to elect leaders and manage processes. If leaders do not meet their Key Performance Indicators (KPIs) within defined timelines, they are asked to honorably resign.</em></li><li><em>Accountability — use blockchain technology to track every penny and activity on the Platform.</em></li><li><em>Equality — There should be no mention of religion/faith, gender, ethnicity, or income, in fact it should not be used to identify anyone or be asked during registration. No opening and closing prayers, all positions must be 50:50 between women and men and every leader should be elected based on a democratic campaign process run online. This issue is critical because it could be used to divide us. We don’t want to know your religion, gender or state of origin! </em>Nigeria is multi-religious and ethnic and we have to embrace that in <em>our approach to get the desired results.</em></li><li><em>Wisdom — Rely on the wisdom of some members of the Old Guard. You know them and we do not need to mention names here. They will carefully and quietly advise us on this journey. We ignored them during the End SARs campaign and will not make the same mistake. They understand Government and the weaknesses of their contemporaries who do not mean well for Nigeria. We also need a significant dose of online courses on Politics and Governance — we will invite the Sound political scientists among us to direct movies, write curricula and all kinds of content to Educate the average youth. Funds from our central purse will be committed to this.</em></li></ul><p><strong><em>Organization</em> </strong>—</p><ul><li><em>We need a National online youth conference. While that may sound ambitious and grand, we need the same momentum we gathered during the End SARs movement to create our future. The proposed hashtag, for now, is #DesiredFuture.</em></li><li><em>Let us organize ourselves in groups of 100 people known as cells, where we have a small leadership team of 3–5 people who will coordinate the affairs of the cell and report upwards. 100 is also a manageable number on WhatsApp and the typical participant size for an online meeting. Let people of common interests form their cells all across Nigeria. 100 cells will form a Unit and a 100 units will form a delegation. That will make it three tiers of organization — designed to make execution effective and build coercion and leadership. There will be a final leadership at the Delegate Tier and all these processes will be managed with blockchain technology.</em></li><li><em>Each member will have an ID (mainly phone no.) and will be able to view the Portal to vote. Leaders will be thrust from the cell level until we get to the delegate level. Who will build this technology? This will be answered under the funding section.</em></li><li><em>The national conference will simply be the launch pad and subsequent portal that warehouses the activities of all these cells and manages the administration of the system. The admins. using technology will be elected and every activity will be there for all to see. More details will be provided in subsequent articles.</em></li><li><em>Our laws will be created using blockchain technology where every clause is voted and comments for or against it are viewed before decisions are made.</em></li></ul><p><strong>3. Managing Our Brothers and Sisters at the Grassroots</strong></p><p>We all agree that one of the things that killed the End SARs movement was Hunger at the grassroots level. Poverty is a tool the Elite Old Guard have used for too long. We have to be “our brothers’ keepers”. We will launch the most elaborate feeding scheme in Nigeria. Borrowing ideas from RedCross and other organizations with the capability to feed millions during disasters and wars. We will launch operation <strong>No Hungry Nigerian. </strong>This will be an initiative funded by us that ensures no Nigerian sleeps hungry and everyone has at least one meal a day. This will be the most elaborate scheme that connects a feeding system from Farm to Table for the poor — ensuring jobs are created along the way. This will be largely donor-funded as part of our scheme in the short term. Each meal will carry a message, We Love you, we are equal, and let’s build the desired future together.</p><p>The system will also ensure, every child in Nigeria goes to School. Read more about this in my article on the “Voltron Force” on Medium also.</p><p>While the Old Guard may have used the grassroots to buy votes into power, we will use the same but not to their detriment but to their benefit, and trust me — most of them will accept us. In fact, if we don’t move now, they will soon come for us, the clock is ticking.</p><p>Where Government has failed, let’s step in and avert a disaster!</p><p><strong>4. Funding</strong></p><p>We will need money! If 1 million youth donate N1,000 monthly, we will realize N1billion monthly. Can we push our luck to 10million Youth, home and abroad? That will be a N10billion monthly. Let’s take the N10billion as seed funding and remember we will receive multiple more in kind from the various participations of Nigerian businesses both home and abroad. I imagine the proposed Tech. platform for instance will be donated by a Technology company.</p><ul><li>Funding will be opened to all in an open contributory system that is transparently administered online.</li><li>Procurements will also be done openly with calls for bids that will be digitally administered. Vendor selection will be based on competitive pricing and the same technology used for the lottery will be adopted for selecting the best offers. Any member of the cell system, can log in and view activities and participate.</li></ul><p><strong>5. Take-off — Where do we begin from?</strong></p><p>“So good ideas so far”, where do we begin from and what is the implementation plan?</p><ul><li>We need an ignition — we may need 2 or 3 popular figures to endorse this and broadcast on social media — so it catches fire. When that happens, we will need to quickly form an initial social media handle for making announcements and then organize our first national youth conference.</li><li>At the conference, modalities for the organization will be provided and a technology platform conceived. We will need Technology to drive this as described above.</li><li>When the Tech. is built with all the amazing features, everyone will now hop in and we begin to build</li></ul><p>When we cross this hurdle, we now begin to build a plan to take over everything except the Presidency. Why leave the Presidency, let’s be smart — let that be our bargaining chip with the old guard. We will support so and so (no endorsements here) in exchange for one term and the last person for that generation. We will however require in exchange, more resources at the sub-national level, where we will build our schools, do our roads, equip our hospitals, and security — just like we already do in our well-organized estates! This is also important for a smooth transition and less friction with the Old Guard who frankly speaking have already gone far with 2023. More importantly, let’s restore power to the local government level and use the same level of organization at our estates, to now run local governments.</p><p>Don’t say you didn’t get this memo.</p><p>Watch out for Part II!</p><p>Cheers to Our Desired Future!</p><p>Emmanuel Tarfa</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=1e7264a5c3de" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[WhatsApp Etiquette]]></title>
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            <category><![CDATA[millennials]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[deep-work]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[social-media]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[whatsapp]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Sun, 10 Jan 2021 06:35:53 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2021-01-10T06:43:25.658Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/330/1*YH_K22TMt9_-BkJ6acQu6Q.jpeg" /></figure><p>Social media came upon us after graduating from secondary school. Back in school, we were taught letter writing, essays, and other forms of formal communication. I think it may be time to have frank conversations around its use, effectiveness, and distraction especially WhatsApp — because of its dual potential as formal and informal means of communication.</p><p>I am currently reading a book for the second time by Cal Newport, titled “Deep Work”. A key learning point for me from the book is: why there is a lot of mediocrity and shallow work in professional spheres. Cal didn’t spare the negative distractions of social media as a contributory factor among several other reasons. He showed the physical, psychological, and philosophical implications of being distracted, and when “your attention” is the whole essence of social media, you can understand why we may have a big problem.</p><p>My objective is not to say “get off social media”, which is not even possible for some of us but to start a conversation about discipline, self-regulation, and possibly some etiquette around it.</p><p>This may be important for the younger generation who sometimes have to interact with career and business opportunities and do not know how to switch from an informal to a formal chat or do not know the unwritten rule of engagement with important people.</p><p>It’s a lot of work to sort through messages to figure out which is important and not. So the fewer and more relevant, the better for us all in this hyper interconnected world, with everyone craving your attention.</p><p>This will lean mostly to WhatsApp as a formal means of communication and I’ll address thoughts for both personal and group chats. I hope this helps reduce the distraction and separates what is urgent and important from what is not both. Our attention span is limited and you need to save much of it to be productive and deliver great and deep work, which are rare and valuable for success as argued by Cal Newport.</p><p>Here is what I have titled “WhatsApp Etiquettes”:</p><ol><li><strong>Send the message as “one text”, not as single multiple messages:</strong> To save the reader some attention, why not compose the text as a single message with paragraphs to separate thoughts and shoot (send) once. It creeps on my skin when I receive WhatsApp messages like these:</li></ol><p>Good morning sir,</p><p>How are you today?</p><p>Thanks for yesterday</p><p>I have something to discuss further</p><p>Let me know when you’re free.</p><p>Thank you sir.</p><p>Have a blessed day</p><p>………….</p><p>Please don’t ruin my day.</p><p>This is extremely distracting because the phone beeps every time you send that single text. Some of us actually pay attention to that because we want to respond to relevant and important opportunities. Your single messaging is attention zapping.</p><p>Use the line separator to create paragraphs and shoot once. If you’re however chatting with someone informally, maybe that is fine but not to your boss or someone Senior.</p><p><strong>2. Please, not on Monday Morning: </strong>Don’t send a message that is not urgent, as the first thing on a Monday morning or at the peak of working hours. Spare it for later in the day or on weekends.</p><p><strong>3. No, Thank You to Individual Birthday Messages: </strong>This one will be controversial. If you’re in a WhatsApp group, why reply the birthday wishes and prayers of every well-wisher individually.</p><p>My Dear Friends Mr./Ms. Gratitude, why not “reply privately” each message, which could show deeper appreciation and just send ONE general “thank you” note to all who took the time to wish you well on the group. Have mercy on the other members of the group and reduce the distraction pool. When you’re free maybe when others are not and vice versa, so there is no perfect time to send multiple messages.</p><p>You have to remember people are already on several other groups and if your argument is, let them mute the WhatsApp group and only read messages when important; you’re clogging their message log, which could lead to missed important messages e.g. when the job interview request or business deal comes in the middle of your 15th “thank you message”. Your appreciation replies are neither urgent nor important, especially to those who didn’t send you a greeting.</p><p>This of course doesn’t apply to family and much closely knitted small groups. Some people actually send private messages to birthday celebrants or call them directly.</p><p><strong>4. No personal chats on groups: </strong>Do not start a private or personal chat with someone on a group and you both keep going at it, especially when you’re using the format in Etiquette 1. “Chief, how are you?” Or “ Madam, I miss you…..”. This one has made me redundant on several groups. It&#39;s okay to exchange one/two quick banters among a few people initially or to discuss a subject but not something unimportant to the group. Please take it off the group with the person.</p><p><strong>5. Avoid Posting Regularly, Let your silence be golden</strong>: This may be controversial also. People typically belong to numerous groups e.g. Work, work committee (sub-group), High school group, High school reunion planning committee, Faith group, Sub-group, Cultural Group, etc. You can see we are already in a “world of distraction 4.0&quot;; now imagine if someone has to be effective across all groups? That is why it is important to save people&#39;s attention span by posting only relevant and important messages per time. If you must, maybe not in the mornings; so people can concentrate on getting work done.</p><p>I put this out to finally silent a lot of WhatsApp groups, I hope it work :-).</p><p><strong>6. Understand the theme of a group and relate appropriately: </strong>Don’t send your morning devotion to general or non-faith based groups. Before Believers take me on this, just remember that other religions have a right to do the same and what if they choose to exercise that right? If you don’t mind learning more about their own faith, that is fine; but some may mind.</p><p>If you are non-active members, it&#39;s usually okay to come in once with broadcasts that may be helpful or in a request for help.</p><p><strong>7. Give people the option to opt-out of your broadcasts: </strong>For morning devotionals, Motivational charge, regular product adverts, etc. Once in a while give people the option to opt-out and remove them from your broadcast. Just send a nice message asking for feedback and if they are able to give you frank feedback (something rare in our time) — great for you.</p><p>It may be amazing to you but extremely distracting to others. Who said, I like your Faith’s doctrine or style? If we had to read all devotions sent, we may have to jettison the central book<strong>.</strong></p><p><strong>8. WhatsApp may not be the medium to “Actively Chat” with Busy Important People or even a New Client: </strong>Except he/she explicitly says so, even at that, don’t take their word for it, unless you’re providing them a service or suggesting “value”.</p><p>If you expect a busy executive, public official, or clergy (with so many followers) to actively chat with you over a sustained period of minutes, especially with your single messaging style in Etiquette 1— you may not gain any favors.</p><p>There may never be a perfect time, therefore compose one single text and send it at an appropriate time — evenings or weekends and NOT Monday morning.</p><p>If the relationship is not closely related, you cannot just start a chat like “so what do you think about The events in U.S…..” On a Monday afternoon??? Use WhatsApp<strong> </strong>to communicate precisely with busy people and leave it at their prerogative to start a conversation. You also need to make sure you have their permission before sending them a message on WhatsApp if you got their number from a different.</p><p>Begin with a text message and request to switch to WhatsApp, if required and after they reply.</p><p><strong>9. When you’re a stranger, send a Text First: </strong>This message is explicit enough and needs little explanation. When you have the permission of your intended audience, switch to WhatsApp. Focus on introducing yourself properly and your purpose in the second sentence. This advice is very important for sales executives.</p><p><strong>10</strong>.<strong> Strive to write properly, precisely, and salute appropriately with meaning and connection:</strong></p><p>Here is an example, Sent as One Single Text (message) of course :-)</p><blockquote><strong>“</strong>Dear Joe, <br>I trust this meets you well. Compliments of the season and congratulations on your new role.</blockquote><blockquote>I would like to request for a good time to discuss a proposal I may have for your organization.</blockquote><blockquote>Thank you in anticipation and enjoy the rest of your evening”.</blockquote><p>Always remember, your messages may be forwarded.</p><p><strong>11. This one is for the Mums, use Google for Fact-Checking: </strong>You’re retired and have time, so we get it but most of the messages you’re sending were Blackberry broadcasts we read years ago or actually not just possible. If the story is strange, Google it first, read reviews about it before you send it. Just because the women&#39;s head or secretary sent it to the group, doesn’t make it accurate.</p><p>In Conclusion: Anyone remembers the “Pager”, it was for sending essential messages, maybe its time to go back to this essence.</p><p>I hope this helps us all stay focused and less distracted.</p><p>If you have more recommendations, please put them in the comment section and we’ll keep updating. I will remember to give you credit; who knows where this article will go.</p><p>Cheers.</p><p>Emmanuel Tarfa</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=2f61dc1d5fbc" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[CONCEPT NOTE: THE VOLTRON FORCE (“THE FORCE”)]]></title>
            <link>https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/concept-note-the-voltron-force-the-force-f3e611a8f5a4?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[millennials]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[for-love-of-country]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[naija]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[out-of-school-children]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[education]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Sun, 06 Sep 2020 15:55:14 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2020-09-06T16:03:49.058Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Nigeria Needs Modern Heroes, Not Celebrities]</em></p><blockquote>“The children of the Poor <strong>you</strong> failed to train, will never let your children <strong>have peace</strong>” — Obafemi Awolowo.</blockquote><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/480/1*EQ7lVsWWl7rmo95A7KHTtg.jpeg" /><figcaption>Nigerian Flag</figcaption></figure><p><strong>NIGERIA IS IN DESPERATE NEED OF HEROES</strong></p><p>Someone said, “Nigeria had liberation fathers and not founding fathers”. True or not, we cannot fold our arms, lament, or work in silos. Those men who fought for our independence were young people and this generation needs to pledge not to let anyone look down on it because it is young, but should become an example in: Leadership, followership and nation-building.</p><p>Nigeria is getting worse! We know the issues and there is no need to re-iterate. The saddest thing is there is no clear hope in the horizon especially when you see the sort of candidates being touted for 2023 General Elections — the old guard is re-grouping and plotting to continue to rule. According to a popular saying, “The best way to predict the future, is to create it”. This is a clarion call to the Millennials and good-hearted members of Generation X and Z — to arise and change Nigeria’s trajectory.</p><p>This is not a private promotional campaign or personal brand-building attempt or group of peoples’ fantasies to become national celebrities, which usually is a motive for Nation-building projects. This will be a faceless, technology-driven collaboration of busy young professionals, willing to lay aside private ambitions and work together on a “single potential silver bullet” for Nigeria.</p><p><strong>The strategy</strong> is to invest over the next 15 years (2020–2035), in the next generation — so that our children will have peace or at least have a country to call home and not be second class citizens or refugees in North America and Europe.</p><p>Nigeria’s problems are quite innumerable. However, one single challenge everyone will agree with: is the lack of leadership. Since this is a focal point for all, the mission of this The Force therefore should be to create the followership that will <strong>change or appoint the desired leadership</strong>. This will require resources and deliberate focus on a single purpose that has the potential to dent “Nigeria’s problem” and eventually destroy it. There is an emphasis on focus to avoid divided attention and misallocation of very limited resources and support.</p><p>It is based on this premise; this potential silver bullet is proposed to be — <strong>Education</strong>. As noble as this may initially sound to some and confusing to others, it is believed to be the most strategic step to consider now, and a proven tool used by other nations including Germany and Japan — which were wastelands after World War II but rose to become global powers in less than 40 years. Other countries such as Singapore and South Korea, that started with Nigeria have left it behind because of their political decisions and investment in education among other things. Even Medieval Europe (5th — 15th Century AD), which was a caste system, driven by superstitious values; become transformed through enlightenment.</p><p>We are not talking about the current quality of the educational system across public and private schools but one we will create and use as a tool to change the mindsets of our children, putting them at par with their peers globally. We will leverage the education of the future so that Nigeria can have a seat at the table.</p><p>According to the United Nations, Nigeria has <strong>the highest population</strong> of out of school children, estimated to be over 13 million, a rise from 10.5 million. This is a population larger than that of Belgium (with a GDP larger than Nigeria’s). This is an endless recruitment pool for Boko Haram, Kidnappers, Political Tugs, Area Boys, and an endless permutation of “evil”. This does not include another staggering population of children receiving poor education in rural and urban centers that cannot read, write, or apply themselves.</p><p>We are hoping that when we are in 40s, 50s, and 60s, we can at least enjoy a bit of Nigeria, that we would have helped create in our lifetime and leave a legacy for our children and the next generation.</p><p>As the population saying goes, “the best time to plant a tree is today”. This is an invitation to all who care about Nigeria; an invitation to change the world.</p><p><strong>The Force</strong></p><p>The Force is a group of Generation X, Y &amp; Z — coming together to facilitate and fund the education of all Nigerian children over the next 15 years. These children will be employable and capable of self-employment — locally or globally.</p><p><strong>Why Education?</strong></p><p>1. It is powerful in its ability to change mindsets and values and can be executed harmlessly without the influence of the “powers that be”. There is a potential long-term impact on elections and other civic aspects of citizen-life including the application of critical thinking against corruption.</p><p>2. It has a potential multiplier effect on various issues including lack of skills, which partly leads to unemployment and poverty, health and hygiene, care for the environmental, girl-child marriage, high-irresponsible reproduction, and the economy as a whole.</p><p>3. We believe it will be the easiest thing we can do now and less threatening to our current lives, families, and careers. It is an attempt to do something little, even as we feel helpless and hopeless or wait for “the messiah” to come. And if the messiah eventually comes, he/she will have an enlightened generation to work with.</p><p><strong>HOW WILL THIS WORK?</strong></p><h4>1.1 Strategic Intent</h4><p>Let’s re-iterate the <strong><em>Strategic Intent</em></strong>:</p><p>- <strong>Mission: </strong>“To create a platform for a New Nigeria in 15 years”. [I.e. we hope this will build the platform for political, economic, and social investments that will be made now and, in the future,].</p><p>- <strong>Vision: “</strong>Establish an Education fund that identifies those who cannot afford (part or full) to educate their children and further ensure every child in Nigeria gets educated, using globally accepted standards for quality and relevant education.”</p><p>- <strong>Strategic Objectives:</strong></p><p>o Create “The Nigerian Education Fund 2035” (“The Fund”), that will be fully governed by a well-known custodian, audited by one of the Big4 and powered by the services of professionals — to ensure competent execution and sustainability.</p><p>o The Fund will target by the end of its first year, a monthly balance of N10 billion (N120 billion annually). This is projecting to mobilize 10 million ordinary citizens, to give a donation of N1,000 monthly. <em>[Why 10million? Those were once the voting numbers of a Big Brother Campaign.]</em></p><p>o The fund will be driven by technology for decision making, fund mobilization, advocacy, monitoring, and evaluation. From biometric registration to tracking attendance using Google Earth, to access to continuous assessment learning dashboards, etc.; full transparency will be employed to institutionalize donor trust.</p><p>o Through the activities of the fund, and Education ecosystem will be created to power schools, teacher training, and employment, school resources, school feeding, parent counseling etc. This is projected to create an “education economy”, just like the creative industry that has thrived without Government support.</p><h4>1.2 Target Donors</h4><p>Professionals across Generation X, Y (Millennials), and Z — home and abroad, who are concerned about Nigeria but are unable to do much and can part with a minimum of N1, 000 monthly without thinking about it.</p><h4>1.3 Fund Set-up Process</h4><p>1.3.1 Legal Set-up — Appointment of Trustees [Proposed Consideration]</p><p>1. <strong>Appointment Criteria</strong></p><p>a. No member should be born earlier than 1970. Those born can only be allowed to be donors or endorsers of the fund.</p><p>b. Interested or nominated individuals would be voted by donors using technology. These individuals must have demonstrated shared values for Nigeria and a proven track-record for love of Country — in their work and vocations.</p><p>c. Prospects will submit profile and “hero-like” achievements (sacrifice of resources and use of expertise for the country) and commitment not to use this platform to promote a personal or corporate brand but to contribute their competence to Nation building.</p><p>d. Proposed number — maximum of 12 members, that will be governed by a constitution. Why 12? To allow for a one-month rotational board chairing system. Chairman of the month will also donate time to oversee broad strategic execution activities of the Fund and evaluate the performance of engaged companies. Decisions will be made through voting.</p><p>e. Trustees at all levels will not receive any compensation, allowance, or direct benefit. Even meeting costs will be borne by the Trustees.</p><p><strong>2.</strong> <strong>Appointment process:</strong></p><p>a. To be elected within the first year of the fund by donors using technology. This will be an open window, where prospective members with credentials below, will be nominated (either by self or 3rd parties) to become trustees.</p><p>b. The fund manager will design criteria and the due diligence process for nominees.</p><p>c. Nominees will submit profiles and share nation-building track record for donor members to cast votes. The election will be electronic, using technology and the highest voters appointed. Great candidates who don’t get elected to Founding Trustees&#39; status will be appointed into functional and regional leadership positions to drive implementation of various initiatives in the respective states of the Federation. These are strategic positions that arguably will be equally important to the success of the fund.</p><p><strong>3.</strong> <strong>Performance Management System for Trustees:</strong></p><p><strong>a.</strong> Members of the board must be willing to submit to a performance appraisal system that evaluates their contributions and one-month chairmanship activities.</p><p><strong>b.</strong> Tenure of Trustees should be for the duration of Fund — 15 years.</p><p>1.3.2 Operational Set-up</p><p>1. Complete concept note and use to engage various stakeholders.</p><p>2. Develop an initial constitution for trustees and register the fund.</p><p>3. Appoint custodian and auditor — current considerations include FBN Trustees.</p><p>4. Appoint a fund manager — an entity that will design strategy, operational plan, recruit service providers, and design monitoring and evaluation system. Options include PWC, KPMG, etc.</p><p>a. Fund management will be outsourced to a reputable professional services firm — to drive the successful execution of the mission. The fund manager will drive transparency, ensure the best service providers are selected, and promote trust among donors.</p><p>b. Fund manager selection process:</p><p>i. The Big-4 will be approached by the founding trustees and the most innovative, interested party, willing to provide service at a “fairly discounted” value, will be made an offer.</p><p>ii. The management contract should run for the life of the fund.</p><p>c. Compensation of Fund manager: a globally accepted percentage of the value of funds mobilized. This will also be used to pay for professional services, such as media, and publicity, etc.</p><h4>1.1 Execution of Mission — how will N120 billion be spent annually?</h4><h4>1.1.1 Educate Children</h4><p>Under the capabilities of the Fund manager and global auditors, the fund will seek to achieve the following:</p><p><strong>1.</strong> <strong>Appoint Schools</strong> — Pre-qualify and identify private schools and negotiate the cost of educating a child per year and pay for the education of a number of children allocated to the schools. Only schools that are willing to open their books for audit will be selected. Most private schools have capacities to take up additional students. In some instances, some old schools with old proprietors will be bought or merged and managed under a central school management board.</p><p>These guaranteed fees from allotted students will support host schools in building and renovating infrastructure, acquiring globally accepted learning resources, paying teachers attractive salaries, investing in training teachers, and equipping them with state-of-the-art technology.</p><p>For remote schools in the rural areas of states, with security threats, additional funds will be deployed for 24-hours armed security. Same used by the elite in the respective state. Any resistance to this will be fought through advocacy.</p><p><strong>2.</strong> <strong>Pre-qualify and Select Children: </strong>We will deploy a robust evaluation and selection process that will include biometric registration (for child and parent/guardian), guardian source of income verification. School fees will be sent directly to the Schools to cover tuition, school uniform, two nutritious square meals, books, after school care, and a stipend to some parents (not all) as incentive to keep children in school. This critical if the child is a breadwinner. Children will stay behind for sports, vocational training, and homework — keeping them away from the vices of their poor communities and ensuring they have a “semblance of childhood”.</p><p><strong>1.1.2 Sustain Fund</strong></p><p><strong>1.</strong> Mobilize donors — use very creative media and communications to attract and convert donors. Also, engage influencers (willing to volunteer) across all works of live-giving them a customized platform to promote the Fund. The communication strategy must take into consideration the psychology of Nigerians and design scientifically-proven ways of driving adoption across all levels.</p><p><strong>2.</strong> Pay for Fund management and all professional services required to deliver competent services. Service providers will be subject to research, audit, monitoring, and evaluation.</p><p>[Trustees will not be entitled to any compensation; even physical meetings should be held at the Fund managers’ office or virtually].</p><p><strong>LEVELS OF PARTICIPATION</strong></p><p><strong>1.</strong> <strong>Trustees:</strong></p><p>a. Founding Trustees — A set of 12 Founding Trustees. Two nominations have been received [Nelson Okwonna, Emmanuel Tarfa].</p><p>b. Regional and Functional Trustees — Trustees appointed for specific functions, projects, initiatives or regions (states) to execute specific objectives. There is no limit to this number.</p><p><strong>2.</strong> <strong>Donors:</strong></p><p>a. Individuals — 10m + Individuals donating at least N1, 000 monthly.</p><p>b. Institutions — Non-involved Companies and Organisations donating cash and kind (professional services).</p><p><strong>3.</strong> <strong>Service Providers</strong>:</p><p>Fund Manager, Auditors, Education Advisory companies, Technology companies, payment companies, Schools, etc. This will be appointed by the Trustees and managed by the Fund Manager and will be required to provide best class services within fair rates. Additional considerations for service providers:</p><p>a. Service providers will be rotated where applicable or shared among companies.</p><p>b. Service providers that participate at this conceptual stage and agree to delay compensation till the fund is set-up, demonstrate competence, and will be given automatic 2-year exclusivity for specific service.</p><p><strong>PROJECTIONS AND ROLL OUT</strong></p><p>Donations can be made to state, regional national specific. i.e. donors will be given the option to select where their funds should be deployed. For non-specified funds, the roll-out table below will be used.</p><figure><img alt="" src="https://cdn-images-1.medium.com/max/941/1*5umhkwAWhxqtKM1hYkr9rQ.jpeg" /></figure><p>Adoption rates are strictly projections of guardians/parents to accept to Educate their children. The fund will pursue full adoption but will roll out in the phases above.</p><h4>SUSTAINABILITY PLAN</h4><p><strong>1.</strong> Use a reputable Fund manager, auditor, and custodian.</p><p><strong>2.</strong> Pay for service and get quality and competence.</p><p><strong>3.</strong> Remove incentives for leadership and democratize decision making.</p><p><strong>4.</strong> Leverage technology for operations.</p><p><strong>5.</strong> Leverage crowdfunding to raise funding.</p><p><strong>6.</strong> Invest in creative media and communication and the adoption of influencers. Effectively, communicating monitoring and evaluation efforts.</p><p><strong>7.</strong> Invest in the re-orientation of parents and guardians and work with other stakeholders to drive adoption.</p><p><strong>HOW TO PARTICIPATE?</strong></p><p><strong>Applications are opened for the following:</strong></p><p><strong>1.</strong> <strong>Trustees — </strong>Process to be completed last<strong>.</strong></p><p><strong>2.</strong> <strong>Donors — </strong>Initial legal process to be completed by end of October 2020 and account opened for funding.</p><p><strong>3.</strong> <strong>Service Providers </strong>(to be selected by the Fund manager, except if donating services at inception):</p><p>a. Fund manager</p><p>b. Legal advisers</p><p>c. Fund Auditor</p><p>d. Technology companies</p><p>e. Payment companies</p><p>f. Education advisory companies</p><p>g. Research and development organizations with a focus on education</p><p>All expressions of interest for any of the above should be sent: to <a href="/service/mailto:naijaforce2035@gamil.com">naijaforce2035@gamil.com</a> [For donors, the donation platform will be launched October 31st.</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=f3e611a8f5a4" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Who is responsible for Nigeria’s failure?]]></title>
            <link>https://emmanueltarfa.medium.com/who-is-responsible-for-nigerias-failure-5e84c5a233eb?source=rss-9eb7fb8c8803------2</link>
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            <category><![CDATA[underdevelopment]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[nigeria]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[christianity]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[faith]]></category>
            <category><![CDATA[governance]]></category>
            <dc:creator><![CDATA[Emmanuel Tarfa]]></dc:creator>
            <pubDate>Sun, 16 Aug 2020 12:21:46 GMT</pubDate>
            <atom:updated>2020-08-16T13:30:20.652Z</atom:updated>
            <content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>Before I answer the question, let me teach you a bit of Logic:</strong></p><p>Major Premise: All men (humans) are Mortal</p><p>Minor Premise: Socrates is a man (or human)</p><p>Conclusion: Socrates is mortal</p><p><strong>Back to Nigeria: Who is responsible for Nigeria’s failure?</strong></p><p><strong>Major Premise</strong></p><p>You will hear a chorus answer — its leaders!</p><p>Well, the people of a nation choose the leaders from among them and indirectly determine their fate.</p><blockquote>1 Samuel 8: 6–7. 6. But when they said, “Give us a king to lead us,” this displeased Samuel; so he prayed to the LORD. 7. And the LORD told him: <strong>“Listen to all that the people are saying to you;</strong> it is not you they have rejected, but they have rejected me as their king.”</blockquote><p>So, who “creates” the people or influences their outlook and values for decision making? Who has the greatest influence on Nigerians? I would vote for the religious (faith) and cultural institutions especially in the formative years of the country? Since religion claims to be superior to culture, let’s narrow down on the two dominant religions in Nigeria of which Christianity is one.</p><p><strong>Minor Premise</strong></p><p>Nigeria is made up of at least 50% of Christians or maybe slightly less and dwindling due to the increase in the childbirth rates of other religions. Notwithstanding, based on the premise above, 50% of Nigeria’s population is at least controlled by its Christian leaders.</p><p>[Digression] Have you ever heard the saying — “when my man of God asks me to jump, I don’t ask why, I ask how high”? or do you know any other entity who is entitled to a tenth of someone’s income apart from the Government?</p><p>50% of Nigeria’s failure can, therefore, be attributed to the failure of Christian leaders to raise men and women with strong values and courage required to build a nation.</p><p>[Digression] <strong>In a very very corrupt country with 50% Christians</strong>, how often do you hear a top civil servant resigned on the basis of his/her values/faith? Our probability rates are clearly upside. Don’t get me wrong, these things happen in private corners, but this testimony is not common and even when it happens — there are no Christians to stand by such men/women or maybe they are too busy voting on reality TV.</p><p><strong>Conclusion…</strong></p><blockquote><strong>Nigeria is where it is today because of the quality of the version of Christianity it widely practices. It is either fear on the part of “the righteous” or a lack of true spiritual substance or an absence of adequate righteous folks.</strong></blockquote><p>P.S: If Christianity claims to have more direct access to God, then we could hold it 100% responsible for Nigeria’s failure.</p><p>Selah…</p><p>Emmanuel Tarfa</p><img src="https://medium.com/_/stat?event=post.clientViewed&referrerSource=full_rss&postId=5e84c5a233eb" width="1" height="1" alt="">]]></content:encoded>
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