1. Perfectionism:

-> I have done many paintings in 14 years. My current painting is so much better than my first. If I had kept trying to make that first one ‘Perfect’ I had never have got published at all.

-> We should of course strive to do our best in everything we put effort into. But forgive yourself if it is not perfect.

-> Sometimes you just have to get the job done.

2. Overcommitting:

-> I was starving to succeed in my twenties and would never give up an opportunity.

-> This led to overcommitting and endless stress and sleepless nights as I tried to achieve everything.

“Do not overcommit”

-> Make a realistic assessment of your timeframe. Deliver much more than you promise.

3. Endless Social Events:

-> We don’t have to be a part of every single thing. As a writer it becomes very important for me to safeguard my mental space.

-> I say no to many social events. I my opinion, endless social events take away our focus.

4. Self Doubt:

-> I am guilty of this even to this day after so much success. It’s okay to have a little self-doubt as it keeps us humble.

-> But never let self doubts take over. It will kill you.

5. Fear Of Missing Out:

-> We often say yes as we are afraid of what we will miss out on. We also feel bad and left out when people share stuff on social media that doesn’t include us.

-> Remind yourself on the path and your destination when you feel this way. We don’t have to be like everyone else.

6. Procrastination:

-> Take a small step. When I don’t feel like going to the gym, I tell myself that I will do only a 15 minutes workout and come back.

-> But when I get there I always end up doing the full workout. The hardest thing is to make that decision to go the gym.

7. Pleasing Everyone:

If you try to please everyone you will end up pleasing no one including yourself!

8. Being Too Busy:

-> Take breaks. It is so important to not work continuously.

-> Take a walk in the middle of your work day. Meditate.

-> Take a full break from work at weekends. Do things bring you joy. Say no to being busy.

Hope this helps!

How to overcome common pitfalls and achieve your goals? was originally published in Good Vibes Club on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

This was my personally connected real incident. There once was a family of five: a mother, a father, two daughters, and the sister of the father. In India, they had a contented existence.

The dad left his family behind when he left for work a while in Qatar. The mother was responsible for managing the entire home alone.
The aunt went to the market one day with her eldest daughter to buy something to eat. The mother and her little daughter were at house.

After breakfast, the younger daughter went to play outside. There was a well nearby, and the younger daughter was playing near it. She sadly slipped into the into that. She shouted out for assistance, but nobody was there to help her. She fought to escape several times, but she was unsuccessful. Eventually, she drowned.

The younger daughter’s slippers in the well were shocking to see when their mom and older daughter arrived home from the store. When they realised what was happening, they cried out and screamed for rescue. Neighbours came running and helped to retrieve the younger daughter’s body from the well. The family was devastated that their precious daughter was gone.
As soon as dad received the news, he left Qatar and came back. He was brokenhearted. He did not realise his young daughter had left.
The younger child’s last rituals was done, and the family mourning her passing. They never recovered from the disaster.
His dad returned to Qatar for work after a few days.

After two months of typical living, the family began to hear weird noises within the home. The bell on the younger daughter’s bicycle would ring by itself. Everyone in the family felt worried and questioned whether it was because their younger child was there. The elder child was conversing with someone in her room one day. When her aunt walked in, she was alone and speaking to herself. The older daughter was speaking to her sister. when her aunt questioned, she replied “It was my sister”, who she was speaking to. The aunt was taken aback and unsure of what to do.

They were discussing about the weird things going on in the house. So, they decided to call the saint and asked for the solution. When the saint spoke to the younger daughter’s spirit, she expressed a desire to be with her parents. When the mother heard this, she was broken down. The saint performed some rituals to help the younger daughter’s soul rest in peace.

Strange occurrences then halted. The family was devastated to lose their child, but they were also happy that her spirit had finally found peace. A family lost their little girl in this terrible story, but they eventually found peace. It reminds us that even though we may lose loved ones, we can rely on their spirits being with us.

The tale advises people to exercise caution around water sources like drains, Wells etc., and serves as a lesson for kids about the risks of the water.
The tale also serves as a reminder that there is always cause for optimism, even in the most dire circumstances. And this shows that even the most trying situations may bring about recovery.

A Daughter’s Return: The Power of Love was originally published in Good Vibes Club on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Everyone wishes to have beautiful skin. It represents good health and vigor. But it might be difficult to get radiant skin, particularly in today’s impure atmosphere.

There are multiple products with chemical bases which advertise beautiful skin. However, these products frequently induce negative impacts and can be irritating on the skin.

Using organic facial packs is a superior technique to have glowing skin. The components used to make natural face packs are kind to the skin and have a number of advantages.

This post will outline five Homemade face packs for shining skin that you may prepare at home using natural components.

1. Multani mitti and yoghurt face pack:

For pimples or acne as well as the scars left behind by healed acne, multani mitti may be a successful home cure. To maintain healthy and shiny skin, this clay may be used everyday. Multani mitti may have absorbent material qualities that help to remove extra oil from the face and avoid acne. Yoghurt’s lactic acid prevents the production of tyrosinase. Tyrosinase is an enzyme that produces melanin, which is what gives your skin its black colour. Yoghurt could enhance the tone of your complexion in this method. From my personal experience it gives instant glowing.

How to apply: Take 2 Tablespoon of multani mitti, 1 Tablespoon of yogurt. To create a paste out of it, add some water. After applying the paste to the area around your neck and face, wait 15 to 20 minutes before washing it off. Use the warm water to wash it off.

2.Coffee and honey face pack:

Popular methods for exfoliating the skin, removing oil and dirt, and minimising the appearance of blemishes are coffee face packs. Antioxidants, which can aid to shield the skin from harm, are also abundant in coffee. Being a natural humectant, honey aids in bringing and holding moisture to the skin. It makes it a great addition to a coffee face pack for dry skin. Make sure your coffee is freshly ground for best effects. Do not use coffee face packs if you have sensitive skin or open wounds.

How to use: To make a mixture to use as a face pack, just combine one spoonful of ground coffee with one tablespoon of honey. Wait up to twenty minutes before washing the paste off your face and neck after applying it. To remove it, wash with cold water.

3.Aloe Vera Face Pack:

One popular method to moisturise, calm, and nourish the skin is using aloe vera face packs. Organic extracts of aloe vera gel has several advantages for the skin. It draws in and holds onto moisture in the skin. It is an excellent ingredient for skin of all ages and skin types.

How to use: 2 teaspoon of aloe vera extract+ 1 teaspoon (yoghurt or honey)

4. Tomato Face Pack:

The skin may be cleaned, exfoliated, and brightened using tomato face packs. Tomatoes vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants have a variety of beneficial benefits on the skin. For example, tomatoes contain vitamin C, which can help to brighten the complexion and make black patches less noticeable. They also contain lycopene, a strong antioxidant that can help protect the skin. Personally, I saw an increase in the colour of my skin to a fair tone.

How to apply: Simply smash one tomato and put it to the areas of your face and neck to create a tomato face pack.

For optimal results, use ripe tomatoes. If your skin is delicate or you have open sores, stay away from tomato face packs. Depending on your skin type and demands, you may use tomato face packs either once a week or twice a week.

5. Potato Face Pack:

The vitamin C compound, which is found in potatoes, can aid to lighten the skin and make dark patches less noticeable. Due to its anti-inflammatory qualities, potatoes can help to calm sensitive skin.

How to apply: Apply a potato that is solid and spotless. Simply grate one potato and extract the liquid to create a potato face pack. Put on it to the area around your face and neck after that. After approximately fifteen minutes, leave it on and then remove with cool water.

It’s crucial to apply and remove the face pack carefully because intense rubbing might irritate the skin. Moisturize your skin following using a coffee face pack.

Most of the people can use the above face packs without any thoughts.
But, it is very important to have a patch test on your small area of your skin before using it to your whole face.

It is very important to know that each individual have a different types of skin. You can try and find which works for your skin. You can use twice or once a week depending on the type of skin you have.

5 Glowing Skin Face Packs: A Natural Facelift was originally published in Good Vibes Club on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Ready to break free from the shackles of shopping addiction and live a simpler, happier life?

I once had a problem with shopping. I adored shopping for new outfits, gadgets, and footwear. I used to browse shops as well as internet merchants for several hours, and I was never able to say no to a nice deal.

I realised one day that I had a lot of possessions. My cupboards were stacked with footwear, my cabinets were stuffed with accessories, and my closet was overflowing with clothing. I was unhappy, though. My stuff made me feel anxious and overburdened.

I made the decision to change. I began by organising my house. Anything I did not require or needed was discarded. I also gave up excessive purchasing. I opted to only purchase items that I genuinely required and adored.

I had a hard time initially overcoming my urge to go shopping. But the more satisfied I got, the more I decluttered and streamlined my life. I came to the conclusion that I didn’t require much to be content. I was happy with the bare minimum.

Some found motivation from my transition from a compulsive shopper to a minimalist. I may discover genuine pleasure and joy by cleaning up my house and making fewer commitments.

“Minimalism is not about deprivation, it’s about living a more intentional and fulfilling life.”

Listed below some helpful pointers for clearing your house of mess and making life simpler:

-> Begin small; Never attempt to organise the whole house in a single day. Begin with a single space or a particular set of objects.
-> Get rid of whatever you don’t require, utilise, or love.
-> Avoid being hesitant to part with cherished belongings. Maintain a few sentimental objects that carry unique value for you, yet avoid hanging onto all things.
-> Look for a way to get rid of the items you no longer need. They can be offered, reused, or distributed.
-> Never give up. Although it requires time and work, decluttering is ultimately beneficial.

After cleaning your home of chaos, you may begin organising your daily activities.

-> Set a limit on your spending and stick to it. You may avoid making impulsive purchases thanks to this.
-> Instead of going out to shop spend more time with relatives and close friends.
-> Getting away of anything you aren’t interested in having around.
->Give close consideration to your top priorities.
-> Even if it might be challenging, simplifying the way you live is a wonderful idea.

“Keep in mind that perfection is not the goal of simplicity. It’s simply moving forward and figuring out what suits you”.

Do not give up if you encounter difficulty. Simply get back up and go on.

I hope this story has encouraged you to think about going minimalist. I wholeheartedly endorse this path.

Here is my own experience of bringing up self-reliant young children.
When my niece was two years old, she loved play with her toys, climb trees and run about the garden for hours.
She injured her knee while playing outside one day when she slipped and fell. I rushed outside to investigate as she started to wail.
I took her up and gave her comfort. I bandaged her wound after cleaning it. I then convinced her that all was going to go good.

She replied, “I could handle it on myself.”
I surprisedly turned to face her. She had never experienced that before.
I said, smiling, “Yes, you could do it on your own.

I gave her a seat. Help me to help myself ! This is what toddlers feel like saying most of the time. This simply means that we adults need to set up things for our child so they can be successful by themselves.

Here are some interesting suggestions for teaching your youngster to take care of themselves:

Create a safe space so our child can be independent:
-> Set up a dedicated space: A safe and comfy haven where your child can explore and learn.
-> Set clear ground rules: Simple and easy-to-follow guidelines to keep your child safe and happy.
-> Be there for them, but from a distance: Let your child know you’re close by if they need you, but respect their privacy and let them explore independently.

Step in when you know the child needs help:
It’s critical to reassure kids that you have their best interests in mind and are available to assist them when they need it most.

Offer the minimal help and step back for them to continue independently:
-> Determine the requirements of the kid.
What are they having trouble with?
What abilities must kids acquire to become more independent?
-> You may adapt your assistance to them after you have gained a thorough understanding of their requirements. Just sufficient help should be given to enable success.
-> Don’t assist them with tasks they can complete themselves. Instead, provide direction, inspiration, and support. Remain apart and let them attempt.

Read articles that will assist you:
-> There are numerous excellent books for kids that emphasize the value of looking out for oneself.
-> Your child may learn why it’s vital to be self-sufficient and to acquire new abilities by reading these books with you.

Stay patient as the child will take more time than we do:
-> Do not forget that your youngster is still growing.
-> Children require time to acquire knowledge and develop since they are not born knowing everything.
-> As kids pick up new skills, it’s crucial to be understanding and patient with them. Show them what to do instead of pointing out their mistakes.
-> A more effective technique to teach and assist youngsters in learning is to demonstrate what to do rather than criticizing their errors.
-> When you correct a child’s error, it may leave them disappointed and uninspired. Show them how to do things the right way instead. They will get knowledge from this and get better.

Independence is what toddlers need most of the time. But we end up overdoing things for them. Raising independent toddlers is not always easy, but it is rewarding.

Raising Independent Toddlers was originally published in Good Vibes Club on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Getting married is a big step in life, and it’s important to make sure that you’re on the same page with your partner before you say “I do.”

“Marriage is like constructing a home. You must ensure that the structure’s base is sturdy and that each component fits together flawlessly”.

The likelihood of the house collapsing in the future increases if you don’t have a strong foundation or if the parts fail to fit along effectively. Your marriage similarly need a solid basis. While getting married, having frank and open discussions with your spouse about pressing issues is the greatest approach to lay a solid foundation.

The following are a few of the most important discussions to have with your partner before getting tied the knot:

1. Finances: Be honest about all of your other debts, your wish to purchase a home, your options on how to divide living expenses, your choice to create joint accounts, etc.

2. Children: Do you both wish to have children? How many, if any? If not, why not (for whatever cause)? or if they would be open to adoption, etc. Of course, you may revisit this at a later time. But it’s always a good idea to have a broad notion to determine whether your viewpoints are in sync.

3. Parenting Style: We frequently have a tendency to parent our children in the same manner in which we were raised. When the kids arrive, big conflicts could occur if you and your partner had very different upbringings.

4. City you want to live: Where do you both wish to live? What would happen if one of you found job elsewhere? Would you be open to relocating to a different place? These are topics that you must discuss.

5. Household Tasks: How will you allocate the chores? Who will manage the house-help, the payment of the bills etc.?

6. Celebrations: What do important occasions seem like to you? Do you want to continue any family traditions? This is important if your parents reside in different cities.

7. Weekends: What plans do you have for the weekends? How much time apart do the two of you require? How about your closest friends? (Many individuals find it upsetting if their partner has a friend who is of the opposite sex and wants to spend time alone with them.) Do you both share any weekend activities?

8. Pets: How important are animals to you? Do you enjoy animals? You’d be surprised at how even something so straightforward as this might spark problems if you and your spouse can’t agree on it.

9. General Health: How important is it to you to be healthy and fit? Sometimes one partner is a fitness enthusiast while the other is apathetic.

10. Deal Breakers: Discuss your personal deal-breakers. Talk about what constitute cheating. Talk about healthy boundaries.

Although marriage is a significant commitment, it should not be frightening. Before getting married, discuss these crucial issues with your potential spouse as an investment in your future. It’s a chance to understand more about your spouse and lay down the foundations for a strong connection.

10 Pre-Marital Conversations I Think That Will Help You Get to Know Your Partner on a Deeper Level was originally published in Good Vibes Club on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Nurturing the Whole Child: A Kindergarten Classroom That Promotes Academic, Social, and Emotional Growth

Growing Little Learners: A Kindergarten Classroom Where Every Child Can Bloom

My mom is a Kindergarden Coordinator, and she has always had a strong desire to see that every one of her students achieves success. She has given me a lot of advice throughout the years about the best ways to support shy and learners who are slow.

Listed here are some of my favourites:

Educational environment that promotes education and development.

A secure, encouraging, and supporting environment is what makes a school beneficial for learning. Kids should feel welcome and appreciated there, and they ought to have access to the tools they require to be successful.

“Creating a learning space where comfort meets excellence”

According to studies, spending time surrounded by nature might improve one’s physical and mental health. Thus, having green areas like play areas, landscaped areas, and trees is crucial for schools. These areas can serve as both a location for students to unwind, play and a spot for learning.

Creating a classroom where kids feel loved and respected:

First, teachers ought to build a rapport with each student and learn about their interests, qualities, and family circumstances. They should also check to see if the student seems to be at comfort.

Teachers must encourage the kid by giving them feedback on their successes and guide them on their mistakes. By doing those the child will get motivated and build their self-confidence.

“A classroom where kids feel loved and respected is like a garden where flowers bloom. When the conditions are right, students flourish and thrive”

Making them mingle:

You must leave them free by mingling with others from childhood. It will helps to interact with someone in a very positive way, They will learn how to behave or if something gone wrong, they have the power of solving problems. As from all they will gain interpersonal skills. We must allow them to enjoy oneself.

“Making kids mingle is like weaving a tapestry. Each child is a unique thread, and when they come together, they create a beautiful and vibrant work of art”

Make use of a wide variety of methods for education:

Kids go through a period of rapid growth and development in kindergarten. To help children realise their greatest potential, it is crucial to give kids various kinds of educational activities since they are always learning new things.

Following are a few pointers for incorporating a range of teaching techniques in kindergarten:

· Give students the chance to learn via doing.
· Young children learn best by doing.
· Give children the chance to experiment and explore with various objects and activities.
· This might involve activities like building with blocks, doing scientific research, or producing artistic works.

Use a variety of teaching methods. Some children learn best through visual stimulation, while others learn best by listening or doing. Use a variety of teaching methods to reach all learners. This could include things like lectures, discussions, demonstrations, and group work. Incorporate technology into the classroom.

For example, you could use educational apps, games, or videos. Make learning fun and engaging. Kindergarteners should enjoy learning. Make your lessons fun and engaging by using games, activities, and stories.

Image:A kindergarten student planting a flower in a garden. The child is smiling and focused on their task.

Just like a flower needs the right conditions to bloom, a kindergarten child needs the right environment to learn and grow. In a growing kindergarten classroom, teachers provide children with the nutrients they need to thrive. They create a supportive and engaging learning environment where children can explore their interests, learn new things, and build their skills.

Kids pick things up through observing the adults in their lives. They observe our interactions with people, our methods for resolving disputes, and our self-care practises. We must lead by example if we want to establish an environment where our children may acquire healthy social behaviour..

Here are some guidelines on how to show your children how to be socially adept from a different perspective:

1.Being a good listener:

Spend time listening.When your child is speaking to you, give them your whole attention. There should be eye contact, head nods, and more questions. This demonstrates to your child that you value their thoughts and care about how they feel.Even those who disagree with you should be treated with respect. Try to maintain your cool whether disagreeing with your partner, child, or friend. Instead, focus on being straightforward and assertive when communicating your expectations and emotions.

2. Be kind and tolerant:

Everyone, including kids, makes errors. When your kid makes a mistake, make an effort to grasp their viewpoint and assist them with recovering over it. Don’t scream, punish, or shame anyone. Rather, concentrate on instructing your kid in future decision-making.

3.Being real and trustworthy:

Kids are extremely good at recognising fakes. As a result, be genuine and let your kid see you for whom you are. They will gain an awareness of acceptance of oneself and originality as a result of this. A wonderful time! Life is too short to spend it being solemnly serious. Spend time laughing and playing with your youngster. They will grow happier and more upbeat as a result of this.

Here is an interesting viewpoint on how to teach your kid good interpersonal skills:

Inform your kid about difficulties with social justice. The world is a difficult and complicated place. However, we can educate our kids to be good, sympathetic, and impartial citizens. Discuss significant societal topics with your kid, such as racism, sexism, and poverty.

Educate them on the effects that these problems have on various groups of individuals and communities. Likewise, inspire children to participate in improving the world. You may assist your kid in developing the interpersonal abilities necessary for success throughout life and the ability to positively impact the world by exhibiting good social behaviour for them.

Some examples of social justice lessons you can give your kids:

1.Learn about various cultures and viewpoints through reading books and watching films.

2.Discuss current happenings and the news with your youngster.

3.Volunteer for a cause that matters to you and your child. Contribute to organisations and organisations working to advance global fairness and justice.

4.Teaching your kid about issues with injustice can be challenging but worthwhile.

You may assist your child in acquiring the social skills necessary to succeed in society and have a positive effect on the world by using the advice in this article.Remember that children develop by imitating the adults in their lives. Be an empathetic, loving personality that you wish your children to become. Mostly of all, enjoy yourselves together!