I’ve never had a conversation with someone that does not assume my sons will attend college either free or extremely discounted. I work in Tech and whenever a boss finds out I have sons they are like oh don’t forget we have internships when they get that age.

I’ve had Sports coaches remind me that I don’t need to put so much energy into their academics because as long as the boys are moderately intelligent and get okay grades everything else is basically on autopilot for them.

I know when people say that they mean it in a sexist way, to shade girls, but there actually is much truth to that statement. It’s literally theirs to mess up.

And I’m sure this overall ease of life transfers over into their attitudes and dispositions because while My son is on the precipice of middle school everyone’s like oh it’s smooth sailing from here just get in a sport and stick in it and you’ll be successful in no time, but his female peers are realizing that they live in a world of double standards and that they are oppressed. They are dealing with more misogyny, more restrictions by the day.

And honestly having sons has been my largest thought experiment regarding patriarchy, because I realize now why so many men do absolutely nothing with their lives. Everything is handed to them, everything is so easy, they don’t ever really have to work for anything and that makes people lazy. Any man that’s not shit consciously chose that. It’s so easy for them, this is why so many of them play so many games and think they can just get their life together at 40, because literally the answers of the test are handed to them at birth.. They think one day they’ll wake up and decide to stop playing and it will just be easy to get it together, because that is literally what we teach boys, that is their lived experience.

I also think I’m given some residual privilege for being a boy Mom especially since I work in a male-dominated industry. Telling men that I only have sons has never not played well in an interview. I think you truly can’t conceptualize how good and easy they have it until you have sons.

It reminds me of the Kanye line “I had a dream I could buy my way to heaven, when I awoke I spent that on a necklace. Told God I’ll be back in a second”

Feminism is a woman complaining about the boot.

Conservatives insist there wasn’t a problem with the boot being on the neck until the woman started talking about it. If she would just be quiet about the boot, there wouldn’t be a problem.

Male allies think there’s a way to talk about the boot being on the neck that appeals to everyone and doesn’t “alienate” those that would help remove the boot.

“Good Guys” insist that not all men wear boots.

Women with internalized misogyny insist they have a boot on their neck by choice and they love it! They insist something is wrong with women complaining about the boot.

The boot is never removed from the neck.