One good episode was a conversation with an old lady in a village called Neelambur. She was in the process of making ghee which is commonly used in Indian cuisine. She has been churning butter and ghee for the past 15 years and this ghee is spread out to all corners of the state. Continuing with the same spark and enthusiasm, the old lady explained the whole process from scratch on how the milk is made into curd, curd to butter and finally butter to ghee.

As the old lady was in the midst of making the ghee from butter, she showcased the procedure. She placed the butter in a huge heavy-bottomed pan and lit the same on a low-heated flame. A thick bottom pan was used to prevent the burning of butter. Over time as the butter was melting in the pan, it began to bubble and foam which is nothing but the water content evaporating from the butter.

Then she showed us how the milk solids form at the bottom of the pan and the foam begins to subside. Then that foam was removed until the milk solids at the bottom of the pan turn golden brown. With that, the entire room was filled with the nutty flavour of ghee and then the pan was left to cool for a bit.

Finally, she strained the ghee into a clean and dry container to preserve it at room temperature or refrigerator for up to several months.

Now, hearing and witnessing the entire narration, it is clear that all this was possible only after the consistent efforts by the lady and it’s indeed a process.

Likewise, when it comes to health, without a sustainable plan to have a proper workout and good diet as a daily regimen, health issues will always be welcomed. Having a bad lifestyle for 10 years and expecting to get rid of all the side effects in a few days or a month is an unrealistic expectation. Consistent efforts might not show immediate results in a month, two or even three. But hanging in there patiently for some more time is needed to see the best results.

No injury will have a shortcut to disappear within an hour. Everything takes its own time to heal and the only aspect being demanded is consistent effort.

Be it anything, career success, material success, health success or even a good relationship, there are no shortcuts to make them last for a long time as it is a process. A process of consistent efforts.

Looking for shortcuts could be a stepping stone to be a meteor. It is a known fact that most meteors are visible for only a few seconds, typically between 1–5 seconds. The brighter and larger ones could be visible for up to 10–20 seconds on average.

Saying no to shortcuts will eventually welcome us to be a pole star and remains static. It inspires many others to take the journey we chose. It is all about the stability that the old lady is having for years and churning the milk into ghee.

A choice to be a shooting star or a pole star!

Our stay was arranged in a resort for a couple of days and after reaching the place, my friends went ahead to freshen up and come together for dinner. By the time they freshened up and gathered downstairs to move out, I was engaged in a very pivotal telephonic conversation.

While they were ready, I wasn’t and had to hurry up to refresh and join them. As I was heading upstairs, I found all the lights flicked off. It would have been easier to navigate and walk ahead with lights on, but everything was so dark that I slowly moved ahead groping around. Eventually, I bumped into a few things (sofa, table etc) one after another, until I figured out the switch to power up the lights.

Now imagining, if the place was more like a storeroom, anyone would stumble on things around due to poor vigilance and even get hurt. Usually, with low lights, it takes time for our eyes to adapt to the surroundings and situation.

Now, if the same was the situation at our home, we would be in a better situation to reach the lights a bit quickly, knowing the layout of the house as our eyes will certainly adapt to navigate even in the dark. The rhodopsin effect that’s naturally implanted in our eyes, is also one of the reasons for them to adapt to the night vision of a familiar place.

On the other side, another good way of dealing with new dark places would be to have proper guidance from someone, who knows the layout of the place. If a person who is already injured, and struggling to navigate through the dark gets proper support and genuine guidance, that will indeed make a huge difference in navigating through.

In our day-to-day life too, during the bright times, we will have crystal clear clarity on things happening around us. The situation looks unclouded and we tend to respond with a lot of confidence. A great level of hope prevails with a tremendous amount of enthusiasm and joy.

Nevertheless, during the dark and not-so-bright days, one may lose confidence in self-dealing the trouble days. Decision-making becomes hard in itself. A person who has been making the best decisions in the bright days of life, wobbles in assessing the situation and making the right call to get an ideal outcome. They become so confused and hopeless to even do the simplest thing, and tend to get a second opinion even in the most straightforward decisions.

The ability to view things from all realistic perspectives fades away. It feels as though life itself has shattered brutally and nothing will really fall right in place. At this point in time, a simple thing that can help us travel through the dark times is a good amount of genuine guidance and support.

A person who is undergoing trouble might not be able to think from all perspectives. Pertaining to the mental troubles, difficulty in decision making, lack of confidence and hope, juggling between emotions with a lot of confusion, fear and stress indeed reflect externally in a person’s appearance as well.

Perhaps, an individual cannot have a peaceful sleep and consume food normally. Their appearance itself would be sufficient enough to convey that something severe is troubling them.

However, when a well-wisher throws all the possible perspectives, it will turn a bit easy for the person to navigate through those times. Such a selfless act of providing the right guidance and being supportive itself gives the person confidence and they will assuredly come out victorious from the not-so-bright but dark days of life, and of course in any dark room as such.

Having said that, preferably choose to be the rhodopsin to the person in trouble than showing the cold shoulder. Instigate the change with a selfless act. A small gesture of being supportive and providing good guidance can certainly make this world a better place to live for everyone.

Action speaks louder than words!

This pleasure leads to attraction and it’s obvious to have that kind of attraction. However, if there’s no line drawn in front of them, they’ll lead to addiction. With the days passing, eventually, we tend to become slaves to such attractions and move away from the reality that, in some way, we are on the verge of harming ourselves.

A classic example is, most of us would have this habit of looking at our phones every now and then. Usually, most of our minds function in such a way that we snub the pain and attain pleasure. By pain, I mean the self-restraining nature. Here refraining from using the phone for some time makes us restless and our mind considers it as pain.

In fact, such pleasures are termed as Instant (or immediate) Gratification in which the temptations result in foregoing a better future benefit and trying to attain an immediate benefit that is less rewarding.

That said, is it that difficult to have self-control over such happenings which might turn out addictive? While our mind agrees to undergo that slavery behaviour, a simple question to ourselves can be the starting stage of self-control.

Will my productivity and focus increase, if I step aside from that gadget by enabling the, Do not disturb mode?

Being genuine to ourselves and to that question is of utmost importance as that is required in the need of the hour to prioritise things in a better way. This stand is important cause ‘The worst of all deceptions is self-deception’.

Now, let’s dive into The Marshmallow study which was performed at Harvard University years back.

A few kids were given a marshmallow each. Next, they were informed that if they wish they can consume the marshmallow right away. Nevertheless, if they could wait for some time without eating it until the second marshmallow is brought, they will get 2 marshmallows each. With this, the behaviour of each kid was examined and noted. A few kids waited patiently for the person in order to get the second one whereas, the rest couldn’t resist themselves from having the first one before they could get the second one.

Now, did something ring a bell? And was that all about the experiment?

Believe it or not, this experiment was not all about just noticing the instant gratification nature of each kid. Beyond this, came the crucial part of the experiment which extended for years. The examiners waited patiently for years and tracked down the information of those kids who turned into adults.

It was witnessed that the kids who were able to have self-control over their instant gratification, turned out to be more successful in terms of health, relationship and finances when compared to the ones who could not have control and fell into the trap of instant gratification.

The self-controlling nature is very much important in every stage of our day to day life. Here, it doesn’t mean that one should suppress doing the activities to the core and flaunt their willpower. All that is required is a balance and some limit.

Consuming a lot of tasty food in terms of junk, will not give the required nutrition to our body and considering to eat something just for the sake of nutrition will instantly reduce our interest and attraction towards the food. But if the taste and nutrition are balanced, the food will be enjoyed in both taste and health-wise.

Definitely, something to ponder and have the self-controlling quality rather than being slaves to such toxic pleasures!

So do I, where I love meeting people be it, old friends or new acquaintances. On one such weekend, I randomly bumped into a very old friend of mine in a mall. I was in fact surprised to see her in the neck of the woods. Of the top of my head, although we hardly had any conversation for the past few years, we still had the same old rapport and greeted each other with abusive words as we used to do before :p.

At times, with days, months and years passing, a few people tend to lose the connection and things fade out with the opposite person. They turn very formal when they encounter each other after a gap. But that wasn’t the case with me and my friend. We just gelled in a jiffy with each other.

Now that both of us had no further plans for the day, we decided to give the evening to each other. Our conversation was so random that it oscillated from personal life to professional life and a lot of other hilarious stuff. While she was narrating a few incidents that were toxic at the workplace, she even went to the extent of deciding to quit such a workplace. With a lot of politicking happening around, people talking a lot of negatives all the time, ending up with gossips etc, it naturally made her mind subconsciously assume that these are bigger toxic problems that she is dealing with in life.

Despite having a good set of people around her at the same workplace who have always turned out to be her well-wishers, she started giving importance to the negative happenings around her. However, one day she opened up this conversation to a good friend of hers and concluded that ‘It’s time for me to quit’.

Hearing everything, the young man requested her to do a small task before she proceeded further. He asked her to go to the pantry, take a coffee mug filled up to the brim with hot coffee and walk around the floor twice. Hearing this, she smirked and asked him ‘What’s wrong with you? Are you nuts? I’m this serious and you are asking me to do such a stupid thing’. However, he somehow convinced her to do it.

After doing exactly the same that she was asked to do, when she went back to inform him, below is what he replied to her,

While you had the hot coffee in your hand and walked around the floor, people still continued having random conversations. A few were positive and the rest all were negative and gossip.

Nevertheless, were you able to even hear what people were conversing about? And if not, why couldn’t you hear them now and experience the toxicity?

While she was thinking about the same, he said,

‘This time, your focus was completely on yourself and the coffee mug throughout your walk. A focus on not spilling the hot coffee, else you will hurt yourself. Even if a single drop of coffee falls, it will burn your skin.

So all that you need to do is to focus on yourself and you will automatically begin to ignore the negatives considering them not to be of much importance. It is high time you focus on yourself.

With this, he suggested to her to take some time and ponder on the same than playing it by ear.

It is certainly true that we can only have control over the things we do and not over what others do. My friend and I just wondered what if she had focused on the conversations happening around and was lethargic with the coffee mug. For sure, in a few seconds, the entire floor would have stared at her after hearing the loud scream (with the coffee being spilt on her hand)… LOL

That’s when we realised that, in life, there’s no one who has not faced any issue/trouble. But the way to deal with an issue completely depends on our perception and our choice of precedence. If we think a problem is very big, it will look giant and we would spend the majority of the time thinking about it. But if we take that lightly and do not overemphasise it, that’ll feel as though we don’t have to invest so much time thinking about it as it’s not worth getting so much of our attention.

Thereby, playing with our focus is completing in our hands.

That said, ‘When you focus on yourself, you grow, when you focus on shit, shit grows’.

It is a known belief that astrology provides information about human affairs and earthly events by studying the movements and relative positions of celestial objects. Palmistry and parrot cards are also the few other mediums of trying to know the future.

Recently, when I was on a travel trip with a friend of mine, I saw a man reaching out to an astrologer nearby and began to whine about his problems. Let’s overhear their conversation.

Sai: Hello sir, I’m in a pickle and I’m completely unsure of what to do with my life.
Astrologer: Okay, calm down…. give me a rundown of the trouble you are having.
Sai: Nothing is normal in my life and I’m very much worried about my future. So, I have a very keen interest in knowing how my future is placed to act accordingly. Could you please help me with this?
Astrologer: Sure thing. Without much delay, let me take a look at your horoscope.

(a few minutes later…)

I could see that there is an ominous influence of Saturn in your life for the next 6 months. It is better you try to get rid of it at the earliest possible. If you would like to proceed further, it’ll cost you Rs.200 via a ritual.

Sai: Oh my god! I need to clear that out, but I don’t have Rs.200/-
Astrologer: Okay, you can pay me Rs.100/-
Sai: I don’t have Rs.100/-
Astrologer: Pay me at least Rs.50/-
Sai: No sir. I don’t have Rs.50/- too
Astrologer: If not 50, pay me Rs.10/- to do the ritual
Sai: Really sorry…. I don’t have that as well.
Astrologer: You must at least have 1 rupee right? I’ll perform the ritual for 1 rupee.
Sai: Unfortunately I don’t have money at all, sir.
Astrologer: Look, you leave. Just go. If you don’t have even 1 rupee, I don’t think Saturn will do any harm to you. That said, please leave…

Here, instead of pondering on what next to do in life and how to make this planet a better place to live, Sai was curious about his future. Most of us are so much worried about the future that we ignore the cardinal facts of life. One has to comprehend that in life we cannot have control over certain aspects. If something is meant to happen that’ll happen and nothing can cease it.

A person can never have any control to select parents before birth or choose the family or place or country to be born in etc.

However, the fact of the matter is our life revolves around two aspects,

B & D

B for Birth and D for Death. While the B & D are not in our control, something that comes in between them can certainly be in our control.

Between B & D, comes C and all that we can do is to learn to make the right Choice and endeavour to achieve the purpose. ( B C D )

Choosing is very significant, however, people often tend to choose to prove something.

This is where the common mistake is done as such because in my opinion choosing should not be done to prove but it should be done to improve.

On the other hand, the choice to respond will be much more beneficial than choosing to react. A deeper insight about choosing, reacting and responding is shared in this blog.

The situation that comes in our life cannot be changed but our response can indeed differ as it is completely under our control. That said, working passionately without worrying about the end result is what a good person would do. With that, when things don’t turn out to be in our favour, the least self-satisfaction one can have is ‘I outdid myself’

Choose the right perspective!

Disclaimer: The views expressed herein are those of the writer’s personal opinion. The intention of the blogger is not to hurt the sentiments of any individual.

At times it is essential to train our mind to be stronger than our emotions or else we will lose to ourselves every time.

In the previous blog, we saw two significant factors that a strong-minded person will possess.

1. Embracing change

2. Establishing boundaries

Here is the link to the blog.

Now, let’s jump into the other three important factors.

3. Embracing failure: Embracing failure can be done in four steps. Let’s take a deeper look at the four stages.

There is no individual who wouldn’t have faced even the smallest failure.

Now, how does it usually feel when someone fails?

Months back a friend of mine, who took part in the State level women’s badminton tournament, lost in the semi-final match. Here, before the match, she didn’t have a mindset that if she loses, she should not feel bad about it. After the match, she felt bad and eventually cried.

So, it is very normal to feel bad and even cry.

When we fail, people around us often remind us about our mistakes, although we are aware of them. A few may do it deliberately to make us feel low, a few may pinpoint them to ensure that we are aware of it and a few make a very hilarious situation out of it. Such people are definitely our close friends who make fun of us in a good way :P

In such circumstances when we are reminded of our failures, we tend to move out of that situation or change the topic or it instigates us to fight with the opposite person. This leads to frustration and that indeed results in a restless mind. Thus, to have a peaceful mind and make clear decisions, the 1st step would be to FACE the failure.

Now, what next??

After facing it, the 2nd step would be to ACCEPT IT. But rather than accepting, we tend to give unlimited excuses and play the blaming game.

When the facing part is done, one can go to the root of the failure to examine it like a scientist. Most importantly, the examining part should be unbiased. If we think in a way of ‘Why I failed’, that ‘I’ will certainly give numerous reasons or blame someone else or run away from the situation.

The best way to remain unbiased and know the reason for the failure is by detaching ourselves from the entire scene and be a spectator (with a second or third-person perspective).

The 3rd step would be learning from our mistakes. Yes, to an extent the success/failure matters but another pivotal aspect is how we are growing in life internally and with how much clarity we look at things after encountering a failure.

If facing, accepting and learning from the negative outcome is done properly, you will become a newer version of yourself each time.

Now, moving to the last step is to grow out of it.

Well, an immediate question must have come into mind which is …. how?

It is normal for anyone to set a goal and work towards it. Setting a goal is done to achieve it. But once we achieve it, we go into our comfort zone and relax for the next few days at least. But to grow, it would be ideal to have a purpose.

For instance, if the goal is to finish a project, we become relaxed with its completion. Nevertheless, if the purpose of the project is to keep enhancing it as and when it is developed no matter if the idea works out completely or not, we will not go into the comfort zone, but just grow.

Therefore, when we define a purpose (which is to keep enhancing it), failure will not stop us but it will help us explore new approaches and grow. Thus, these are the four key things that can be done to embrace failure.

4. Self-love: Self-love doesn’t mean the freedom to do whatever we want to do or what our mind tells us to do. Especially the things that may harm us.

Maintaining our mind and body to always be healthy, automatically boosts up our confidence, be it any work or relationship we are in. It gives a very good amount of energy and a person will never tend to doubt their abilities.

Here, if our purpose to do certain things is to maintain a healthy mind and body, that is termed self-love. However, if we are using ourselves to obtain certain pleasures that are unpleasant for our mind and body, then that cannot be self-love.

We might be in an assumption that we are in self-love, but if our actions are causing damage to our mind and health, then we are cheating ourselves by being in an illusionary state.

For instance, if a person convinces his mind that he is in self-love but continues to smoke daily despite knowing the fact about the harm it can do to the body, then that person is using his body to get the pleasure of smoking. Ideally, the person is not in self-love, however, he is in love with the pleasure that is risking his life.

In a nutshell, self-love is being self-disciplined that brings only positive outcomes to our minds and health.

5. Power of sacrifice: People who are well versed in human psychology know that sacrifice builds resilience. It makes a person strong to recover quickly from difficult situations. With that resilience builds strength, strength builds power and finally, power gives a purpose.

Be it any sacrifice, it will certainly hold a purpose.

For instance, a foodie (who consumes all kinds of junk food) when decides to focus on health, will have to undergo a lot of change. The change has to be implemented in both physical routines and on the food that they consume. It is said that a proper workout and healthy diet should go hand in hand which results in good health.

Here the person who has prepared his/her mind to undergo this change is sacrificing their old lifestyle.

One classic example would be Virat Kohli and his transformation. A person who loves eating and used to eat a lot of junk food began to love having well-cooked food. With sacrifice, discipline comes automatically.

Things to ponder upon and better late than never!

Most of us will be in an assumption that we are mentally strong. But, are we really strong-minded or dodging and lying to ourselves that we are mentally strong?

Well, what are the aspects one can consider to claim themselves strong-willed? Before we jump into that, let’s look at a situation to know why Thomas Alva Edison is considered a mentally strong person.

Thomas Alva Edison is one of the famous and most prolific inventors of all time. He had a lot of remarkable inventions that still have an enormous influence on modern life.

However, in 1914 a massive explosion erupted in Thomas Alva Edison’s factory. A fire broke out at the West Orange laboratory destroying 13 buildings. It almost damaged everything. Edison underwent a loss of 23 million dollars. In the very same laboratory, he was also working on a prototype for years.

With this incident, the way he looked at it shows how tough he was as a person mentally. He just made a simple statement, “Thank goodness all our mistakes were burned up. Now we can start fresh again.”

One of the best qualities a mentally tough person has is that he/she will know how to handle oneself in the worst situation and keep a positive approach. The fact of the matter is not everyone will be mentally strong right from birth. There are a few habits that can be followed to transform, from a mentally weak person to a mentally strong person. Let’s drive into the major 5 factors that a strong-minded person will possess.

1. Embracing change

Are we open to change? Here the way we look at change matters a lot.

It is a known fact that the Eagles have the longest lifespan of their species. It can survive a life of up to 70 years. Nevertheless, to reach that age, an eagle should certainly make a very difficult decision. In its 40th year, the eagle’s long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey that serves as food. Their long and sharp beak also bends to an extent where they will not be able to eat its food. Due to their thick feathers, the old-aged and heavy wings stick to the chest and make it difficult to fly.

With this, the eagle is left with mere two options. DIE or go through a painful process of CHANGE!

The eagle leaves no stone unturned till it finishes the process that lasts for 150 days (5 months). Initially, it flies to a mountain top and knocks its beak against a rock until that plucks out by itself. Then the eagle waits for the new beak to grow back after which it plucks out its talons. With the grown talons, the eagle then starts to pluck its old-aged feathers. With this, finally, the eagle takes its famous flight of rebirth and LIVES for 30 more years!!

Thus, a mentally strong person eventually accepts every difficult change and passes through the change to make themself strong.

2. Establishing boundaries

When was the last time we literally had to bite the bullet to do something (maybe, work) that spoiled our entire day and all the other scheduled works?

And then we later regretted pondering that this one work has stopped us from doing the other works at our best. If this is something that happens often, then it’s a sad truth to know that you are not mentally strong. A strong-minded person will know their line of control. Such people will know for which work to say yes or no.

They will know in which conversation they should be a part of and not. Likewise, when it comes to their diet, they will know what is good for their health and eat accordingly. That self-controlling tendency defines a boundary here. In a nutshell, such people are very selective.

Stay tuned for the next blog to know about the other 3 aspects of a mentally strong person!

If a batsman falls into that trap, they will be on the verge of losing their wicket. When it comes to sledging, one thing Sachin Tendulkar is known for is to remain calm. Sledging hasn’t bothered him much on the 22 yards pitch as he chose to respond rather than react to such players.

He has always responded by remaining calm and not furious or agitated.

Everyone faces sledging often in the day to day life too. It is done to spoil our peace of mind and we cannot have control over such toxic people who do it intentionally. You cannot stop a person from criticizing you or a batsman in cricket cannot tell the opponent team player to stop sledging. At times things will definitely be out of our control which cannot be brought under our control.

For instance, a batsman who is batting on the crease might expect an in-swinging ball. The bowler could also bowl an in-swinging ball. However, with just one gush of wind, an in-swinging ball can become an out-swinging ball.

Or when it comes to the examination question paper, do we have control over what questions will be asked?

Of course not!

So, given any situation, all that’s of utmost importance is how we prepare our mind to deal with it, that too in a responsive manner.

Statistics say that 70% of the human mind revolves around things that are out of our control. So it would really be a great skill if we emphasize learning the masterstroke of responding and not reacting to any toxic scenario or person.

In the journey of life, two things will certainly happen. One is the stimulus of life that encompasses the circumstance, difficult situation, conflicts, fear etc and the other one is the result. In the middle of these two comes our choices and these choices play a significant role in how the result will shape up.

In a nutshell, although Sachin Tendulkar did not have any control over the players who tried to sledge him, he was always prepared on how to deal with them. He opted to remain calm and stay focused which became a response in itself.

Usually, when things go wild in the form of sledging us, criticizing us, being demeaned, envious of us, conspiring us, politicking etc., we are most likely to react like a tin of coke (when jiggled). Jiggling a tin of coke and opening it instantly, results in the liquid fuming out in a fraction of seconds. Whereas, when the same is done to a sealed bottle of water, the water appears to subside at the earliest possible and responds by being calm when the lid is opened.

Now it’s our choice whether to be a Coca Cola tin or an Oxy Cool bottle of water.

Likewise, all have seen our captain cool (MS Dhoni) in a lot of pressure situations. After his birth, the nurse didn’t hand over him to his mother saying, here is our captain cool MS Dhoni :P

MS Dhoni wasn’t created in the maternity ward. He became Captain Cool by his choices.

Thus, a great personality is born only based on the choices they make in life. So to lead a peaceful life it’s high time to respond and not react to all the toxic obstacles.

It is better late than never!

Being a sports player and having great hard-working players in my close circle, I have realized that the best sportspeople do not understand defeat. They don’t accept it at the initial stage itself. If they are thrown an obstacle in the way, they say ‘Okay right. This is an obstacle. How am I going to overcome it?’

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In the recent French Open finals between Novak Djokovic and Stefanos Tsitsipas, Djokovic beat Tsitsipas to win the 19th grand slam of his career. For anyone who has not seen the match would have a feeling that this was expected as Novak Djokovic is ranked World №1 in Men’s tennis.

However, people who spent watching the finals that lasted for more than 4 hours would know the situation of Novak Djokovic till the beginning of 3rd set. Battling with fatigue after the 4 plus hours semifinal match with Rafal Nadal the previous day, Djokovic was down by 2 sets in the best of 5 sets finale.

Tsitsipas was dominating the match till the beginning of the 3rd set [7(6)-6, 6–2]. At that point in time, Djokovic’s frame of mind wouldn’t be complaining and pondering ‘Why am I in this situation?’. The match started at 6.30 PM IST and around 8 PM like everyone else I was expecting the match to wrap up in the next 30 minutes and head-on with my next work. But, to my dismay, the situation slowly began to turn upside down.

Given that situation after losing the first two sets to the World №5 who is 14 years younger than him, Djokovic staged an exceptional comeback to triumph over the Greek player winning the next 3 sets [6–7(6–8), 2–6, 6–3, 6–2, 6–4].

Even the best can falter at times but the right attitude to tackle the situation can certainly make a change.

Likewise, this is true for so many of us in life. With any tough situation, if we are going to react just by complaining and whining about it we can never get over that situation and win. One can just hang in there and think what best can be done now to make the situation better and even win over it.

To share another instance, I happened to see a basketball match in my college days and my friend was a part of the team. She has faced the worst situations during most matches. Well, I could say this confidently as I was one of the spectators for most of her basketball matches. In a game that demands 5 players on the court, in her team, she just had 3 professional basketball players (including her) and the remaining 2 were substitutes who hardly knew the game.

Before the match, when I had a word with her, she told me that ‘We are just 3 main players and they are 5. That’s okay. I think we can handle it and win. In movies, one person beats 25 people then why can’t 3 of us beat the 5 :P’.

Having been put in that situation, they could have easily given up considering that the other team had 6 professional players. I guess such an attitude only helps players to pull out matches and win them that they are not supposed to win.

This attitude is a part of excellence. It is always better to give your best even in the worst of the worst situation either to win or to learn something new that you never mastered before or were aware of in the past.

Think about it. It just demands a slight change in attitude!

Expecting a few things in return for the favour we do to another person is natural. Here not everyone decides and mentions the expectation they wish to receive in return, it just stays within oneself. This is something that sets automatically for most humans. Nevertheless, not everyone invests time in it and makes a list.

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On the other hand, there are some people who do not have any expectations at all. They are just trying to do all that they can do to help and make the present surrounding a better place to live for all.

One such person is Sanjana. Looking at her personal life, she has a family to take care of. A loving and caring husband, who has always supported her in every stage of life. He would have excitement on his face every evening after he calls off the day from work, just because he is going to see his wife and family at home.

There is also a very small smile with her that gives her innocent happiness no matter how tough her day would have been. Whenever she sees that little smile on her 1-year-old kid’s face, it feels as though her day has just started.

Apart from them, there is this one woman who ensures to feed Sanjana with her own hands when she is about to skip her meal due to work. That’s her mother. Having a family to take care of, one day something very pivotal came up that she had to leave behind the support and love of her husband, care of her mother, the little smile of her kid and soft shoulder hugs of her family.

Over time, it looked as though she had to forget the little smile, innocent happiness and soft shoulder hugs of her family for months.

She was called for an emergency wherein she had to even forget the directions to go home until the situation became normal. Now she hasn’t slept for nights just to make sure that the ray of hope to survive doesn’t dim down in the country and darkness doesn’t prevail over humanity. Sanjana decided that she will hit the sack only when she becomes so very sure that the country can breathe on its own. Yes, the country is struggling to breathe by itself.

At this point in time, when the sincere prayers became futile, she trusted her profession of medical science to heal humanity. She is trying her best to keep all those hearts beating, that come under the care of her hands and vigilance.

Be it a person of any religion who is struggling to survive, she didn’t even bother to discriminate against them and give them cold shoulders. All that was running in her mind was to keep their hearts beating.

The situation resembles in such a way that the soldiers who fight for the nation on the borders have now transformed their uniform from khaki to white in the form of doctors and nurses.

Yes, Doctors and Nurses. They are our real soldiers in these tough times. All that they desire is to see INDIA breathe on its own without any expectations in return. What they are doing is an act of selfless devotion.

Source: crstoday.com

Choosing to be kind and generous rather than to rain on someone’s parade gives an immense pleasure. It is all about doing the needful for a person who desperately needs help in their hour of need. Most importantly, when there are no expectations set in return, your heart will feel like a free bird with no boundaries.

Give it a try rather than pondering the same for ages. This will certainly give a serene feel and self satisfaction!!!