Why Invest in Yourself?

• Enhanced Self-Confidence: When you invest in yourself, you gain new skills and knowledge, boosting your self-esteem.
• Increased Earning Potential: Investing in education and training can lead to higher-paying jobs and career advancements.
• Improved Relationships: Personal growth often leads to better communication skills, empathy, and stronger relationships.
• Greater Happiness and Fulfillment: When you prioritize your own well-being, you’ll experience increased happiness and life satisfaction.

How to Invest in Yourself

Here are some practical ways to invest in yourself:

1. Continuous Learning:

• Read books: Explore various genres to expand your knowledge.
• Take online courses: Learn new skills at your own pace.
• Attend workshops and seminars: Network with like-minded individuals and gain valuable insights.

2. Prioritize Health and Wellness:

• Exercise regularly: Physical activity improves both physical and mental health.
• Eat a balanced diet: Fuel your body with nutritious foods.
• Get enough sleep: Prioritize quality sleep for optimal cognitive function.

3. Develop Strong Relationships:

• Spend time with loved ones: Nurture your relationships with family and friends.
• Join social groups: Connect with people who share your interests.
• Practice active listening: Pay attention to others and show empathy.

4. Financial Planning:

• Budgeting: Create a budget to track your income and expenses.
• Save and invest: Build an emergency fund and invest in your future.
• Seek financial advice: Consult with a financial advisor to plan for your long-term financial goals.

5. Practice Mindfulness and Meditation:

• Reduce stress: Practice mindfulness techniques to calm your mind.
• Increase self-awareness: Develop a deeper understanding of your thoughts and emotions.

By investing in yourself, you’re not only improving your own life but also making a positive impact on the world around you. Remember, the best investment you can make is in yourself.

Porn Addiction now a days like a serious issue, it has destroyed our youth, first it attacks on eyes, and slowly covers the whole body.

Porn addiction, like any addiction, can have a significant negative impact on our life. It can lead to decreased productivity, damaged relationships, and emotional distress.

If you’re struggling with porn addiction, here are some practical steps to help you break free:

1. Acknowledge the Problem:

• Be honest with yourself: Admit that you have a problem and that it’s affecting your life negatively.
• Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist about your struggles.

2. Limit Exposure:

• Block websites: Use website blockers or filters to restrict access to pornographic content.
• Avoid triggers: Identify situations or triggers that lead to porn use and avoid them.
• Digital detox: Take regular breaks from technology to reduce exposure.

3. Develop Healthy Habits:

• Prioritize self-care: Engage in activities that promote physical and mental well-being, such as exercise, meditation, and hobbies.
• Build strong relationships: Spend time with loved ones and cultivate meaningful connections.
• Set realistic goals: Break down your goals into smaller, achievable steps.

4. Seek Professional Help:

• Therapy: To address underlying problems and create coping strategies, think about going to therapy.
• Support groups: Join a support group to connect with others who are struggling with similar issues.

5. Practice Mindfulness:

• Mindful meditation: Focus on the present moment and reduce stress.
• Gratitude journaling: Practice gratitude to shift your focus to positive aspects of your life.

6. Replace Porn with Healthy Alternatives:

• Engage in hobbies: Pursue activities that you enjoy, such as reading, painting, or playing cricket, etc…
• Exercise regularly: Physical activity can help reduce stress and improve your mood.
• Spend time in nature: Connect with the natural world and appreciate its beauty.

Remember, overcoming porn addiction is a journey, not a destination. Be patient with yourself and celebrate your progress. With dedication and support, you can break free from this addiction and live a fulfilling life.

Hope it will be helpful…. See you in next post….:)

After the process of HEC attestation, the next day I planned to go to MOFA for the attestation because it’s also compulsory to do that before going abroad.

• With the very hard day of HEC attestation, I woke up at 5:30 am the next morning, pray Fajar, office opening time was 8:30 am, but I have seen the videos that people came there at 4:00 am or 5:00, and it’s true. So I thought I should go now so that I would get on the token early, I put the location on my mobile and just went to the MOFA office at 6:00 am, I reached there at 6:25 am and my eyes were fully opened to see that the bundle of 50/60 peoples is already standing in the line.

• So, firstly I had to park the bikes, there was no official parking stand at MOFA, so I had to park at a random private stand, where they took 50 rupees instead of 30 rupees.
• After that I stood up in the line, where people were standing till 8:30 am, yes 2.5 hrs we stood just outside the office of MOFA, what we did there, don’t ask it, because we had just seen the new random faces. But I had a task, recited the Darood e Pak at least 4000 times, and time passed like a rocket.

• Thanks the door opened at 8:30 am, first the ladies went inside the office, then the males went inside, and there was also a line because MOFA has just 3 counters to entertain, one for females and two for males. Finally, my turn came out, I got 3 tickets, a token, and a form.

• I have to attest my university degree and transcript, so filled out the form, put the ticket back on degrees, and just submitted with within 10 minutes. Roughly after the opening of the office, it just takes 50 minutes inside. Then they were given time of 2:00 pm, but they attested early 2:00 pm.
• I went back home at 9:30 am, and breakfast Naan channai, and just slept after reaching home, woke up at 12:30 pm, refreshed, and went to the office at 1:00 pm to collect my documents. Yes, I got the documents easily after reaching there. I was very happy that finally I got the result that I wanted because many people were sad about not having completed their work by MOFA. I was lucky that they did not create any issues for me.

Ok, now I will tell you which documents you have to take with you.

• Original Degree: Your university degree must be HEC-attested.
• Copy of Attested Degree: A clear photocopy of the HEC-attested degree, as MOFA often keeps copies for record.
• Original CNIC or Passport: A valid Computerized National Identity Card (CNIC) or passport.
• Photocopy of CNIC or Passport: A photocopy of your identification document.
• Authorization Letter: If someone is submitting documents on your behalf, provide a signed authorization letter and a copy of their CNIC.

One of the major issues is that there are MAFIAS, who will offer you quick work with the fees of 4k-5k rupees. You have to beware of them. The total process charges me just 100 rupees, as the price is 25 rupees per ticket.

There are 2 types of Attestation in MOFA, General and Apostille, Some countries include general, and some are Apostille, General attestation is walk-in mode, but the Apostille will be entertained by courier mode, like TCS or Leopard, etc.…

Note: Don’t carry your bag with you, because they will not allow you to carry the bag inside, you have to put it outside the office, and there is also a MAFIA sitting, who they are charging 100 rupees per bag.

That’s all from my side, hopefully, it will help you surely!

Well, if you have studied a degree in Pakistan and you want to go abroad to study or for a job, then the attestation is one of the steps, you have to take. Hence the title picture is not a real picture of the HEC attestation lmao :)

The first step for attestation is to make your account on the HEC e-portal (eportal.hec.gov.pk), then you have to fill up the application form on the website.

In that application, you have to give Personal info, Details of degree(s), Attestation details, Documents upload, and finally, you have to verify your details.

In the Attestation details, you have to tell them whether you have to attest from TCS or By walk-in through. There available offices include Islamabad, Lahore, Karachi, Quetta, and Peshawar.

I selected the WALK-IN mode because TCS can take 1.5 months or less, even further.

My appointment came after 28 days by walk-in mode, I came to the HEC office, with the following documents

. CNIC copy

. Matric result card and Transcript Original and 1 Copy

. Intermediate result card and Transcript Original and 1 Copy

. Application form

. Challan Form Receipt (Online Easy paisa or as per use for user)

. University degree and Transcript and its at least 1 Copy

I thought that I had an appointment and I would just go there and give documents and receive the attested documents, but it was just a Wish!

There was a token number there, a first come first serve system. If you have an appointment of 2–3 pm, then go 1 hour before, to get a token and then you have to submit the documents at the counter and have to wait for 1 or 1.5 hours more for documents attestation.

I reached there at 2:14 pm and just looked at the people of Rush there, what was happening, and asked nearby people, he told me to take Token and wait for my turn.

My token was 347 and the going on token was 210. Now I thought about what to do, first I waited for someone to empty the chair in the hall, then somebody left the seat, and I just sat there and started reciting DAROOD-E-PAK.

When it was 4:20 pm at the clock, some unknown person came to me and he gave me his token, what was that, I don’t know. But surely it was the help from ALLAH ALMIGHTY. I got the 337 token number and on the counter, it came immediately 337 number and I ran to the counter to submit the documents. After that, I offered the Asr prayer and came back, just waiting for 10–15 mins my documents to be attested. I thanked GOD, and kick the bike, and came back home with mix emotions, which I can’t describe.

Note:

The Common Issues and How to Avoid Them, which I have seen there

• Rejected Applications: Applications are often rejected due to incomplete information, illegible documents, or a discrepancy between uploaded and original documents.
• Outdated Information: Keep your profile updated on the HEC portal, as outdated information can lead to delays.

That’s all from my HEC attestation experience. Comment your experience of HEC.

My Life with laziness

Its the story of mine. I can’t blog for the last 2 days, as because of the low and slow internet, I will talk about this on an other blog post, but the other issue was my laziness also. I was regularly posting something unique to entertain readers to learn, to fun, but break that rhythm some of my issues, one of the reason is laziness.

Recently I was talking to myself and trying to understand myself, what happen to me, basically I have recently graduated, trying to find jobs, but didn’t get it, reason I was finding, somehow there was also a laziness, then I find that my cgpa is not that capable, or my CV is not too much attractive to Interviewers, or I have lack of confidence to give interview, or there no jobs in Pakistan (as per my interest).

Beside that issues, when you feel low, try to understand the problem yourself by talking to yourself, yes, you are reading correct, talk to yourself, there should be no mobile, no other person and just feel your soul to talk.

On the other hand I have a plan B , to go abroad, and started the finding the jobs or to get scholarship where I can get that with my limited resources, still finding, improving the mistakes which are hurdles for that, but some times work stop due to laziness and some other issue, but I will talk about this LAZINESS.

Why laziness came and what’s the solution for this.

There are several factors like

. Fear of Failure

. Lack of Motivation

. Instant Gratification

. Poor Time Management

There further also, but these can be major issues for laziness.

Your question will be, how to break it, right?

Yes, very easy, that I am trying to do that, hope so, you can also do this to avoid the laziness.

1. Set your goals that you are desperate to achieve that.
2. Create a proper routine that can include work, relaxation and time for hobbies.
3. Minimize the distraction, that’s most important. For me its the mobile phone.
4. Reward yourself, like you achieve a small part of your goal, then reward yourself, I reward myself with some food, that I like most.
5. Practice meditation, give a time to yourself to avoid laziness.
6. Seek support, if you are in an extreme level of laziness, then you should approach a therapist or a family, friends to whom you can share your issue and find the solution.

At last remember that laziness will take your time and effort, you have to break the chain of your comfort zone.

SO SEE YOU IN THE NEXT BLOG…LEAVE YOUR STORY IN A COMMENT SECTION.

Medium has grown into a popular medium for exchanging ideas, stories, and knowledge. While it’s easy to become engaged in the endless scroll of information, there’s far more to gain than quiet reading. Let’s look at how you can use Medium to increase your perspectives and learn something new.

1. Discover New Perspectives:

• Diverse Topics: Medium offers a wide range of topics, including technology, politics, personal writings, and creative writing. To expand your understanding, look into things that are outside of your expertise.
• Expert Insights: Connect with thought leaders and industry experts who can share their knowledge and experiences.

2. Improve Your Writing Skills:

• Analyze Style and Structure: Examine the writing styles of popular Medium authors. Take note of their article structure, storytelling methods, and language use.
• Practice Regularly: Create your own articles and share them with the Medium community. Get criticism and gradually get better at writing.

3. Build a Community:

• Engage with Others: Comment on articles, join discussions, and connect with same-minded people.
• Network with Professionals: Build relationships with other writers, experts, and potential collaborators.

4. Stay Updated on Current Trends:

• Follow Relevant Topics: Subscribe to publications and authors that cover your areas of interest.
• Discover Emerging Trends: Stay informed about the latest developments in technology, culture, and society.

5. Develop Your Critical Thinking:

• Question Assumptions: Challenge the ideas presented in articles and consider different perspectives.
• Evaluate Evidence: Examine the reliability and honesty of the information provided.

6. Find Inspiration:

• Discover New Ideas: Explore creative writing, personal essays, and interesting articles that will keep your interest.
• Gain Motivation: Read success stories and learn from the experiences of others.

7. Support Emerging Writers:

• Recommend and Share: Promote articles by new and upcoming writers.
• Provide Feedback: Offer constructive criticism and encouragement to help others grow.

By actively engaging with Medium, you can expand your knowledge, improve your skills, and connect with a community of same-minded individuals. So, the next time you find yourself scrolling through your feed, take a moment to consider what you can learn from the content you’re consuming.

I am also learning new things from it, and gaining the new knowledge. Hence I am new here on medium, but still making the notes of the articles which spark my knowledge, which article attracts me.

Try to explore…

Leave a comment, if you like my article. Thank you, see you in next article!

It may be both thrilling and stressful to meet your heroes. Standing in front of someone you respect, whether they are a well-known athlete, a mentor, or a business star, may cause a number of emotions, including excitement, anticipation, and frequently, anxiety. Although experiencing anxiety is normal, there are strategies to control your nerves and enjoy the moment. Here are some tips for being composed and self-assured when meeting your heroes.

1. Prepare and Practice:

• Research your hero: Learn about their life, career, and accomplishments. This knowledge will give you confidence and help you engage in meaningful conversations.
• Practice what you’ll say: Rehearse possible conversation starters or questions in your mind. This will help you feel more prepared and less anxious.

2. Focus on the Positive:

• Shift your perspective: Instead of focusing on your nerves, focus on the excitement and opportunity of meeting your hero.
• Visualize success: Imagine yourself having a great conversation and feeling confident. This can help boost your self-esteem.

3. Be Yourself:

• Authenticity is key: Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Your hero will appreciate your genuine enthusiasm and personality.
• Share your experiences: Talk about how your hero’s work has impacted your life. This personal connection can make the conversation more meaningful.

4. Embrace the Moment:

• Let go of expectations: Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect. Enjoy the experience and savor every moment.
• Be present: Focus on the conversation and the person you’re meeting. Avoid getting caught up in your own thoughts or anxieties.

5. Handle Nervous Habits:

• Identify your triggers: Recognize the physical or mental cues that indicate you’re feeling nervous.
• Develop coping mechanisms: Practice deep breathing, mindfulness, or other relaxation techniques to manage your anxiety.

Personally I have applied these points on myself first, then I am telling you that points, so that their would be no difficulty to meet your super heroes.

Remember one thing more that everyone feels nervous when meeting someone they admire. It’s a natural reaction. So be Calm and Relax and enjoy the moment.

First we will discuss about the issues, like

1. A Moment of Curiosity

The main reason boys look back is that they’re curious. Riding on a motorbikes gives them a sense of freedom and excitement. By riding the bikes, boys feel bold. When they pass by a group of girls, this curiosity kicks in. They want to see if the girls noticed them, and they’re eager to catch their reaction. It’s a fun and playful moment, a quick glance to see if there’s any interest from the other side.

2. The Role of the Passenger

The boy sitting in the back of the motorbike look back. He is not driving, so he’s free to turn his head without worrying about the driving and road accident. Often, it’s just a small turn of the head, and sometimes, there’s a brief exchange maybe the girls look back, or maybe they just ignore it. Either way, it’s a lighthearted moment.

3. Testing the water

For many boys, this glance is a way to stare if the girls are interested or noticed them. It’s a harmless way to start a little interaction without saying anything. In some cultures, where boys and girls don’t talk to each other as much, these glances are a somehow safe way to express interest, if both are agree on this way, and I have personally saw the girls and boys, they started talking to each other by this way. It’s like saying, “I see you,” without actually having to speak. Even they exchange the numbers by just passing each others. But I am not promoting this way, I will tell, what ISLAM says about this.

Fun or Annoying?

What will be the result???

While this glance can be harmless and playful, not everyone likes it. Some girls may find it funny, but others may not enjoy the attention. It’s important for boys to understand that not all girls appreciate being stared at, even if it’s just for a second. Respecting each other’s feelings is key. It will becomes annoying, when it crosses the line.

What ISLAM says ?

1. The Importance of Modesty (Haya)

In Islam, haya (modesty) is a key characteristic of a believer. Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that is purer for them.” (Surah An-Nur 24:30)

This verse directly instructs men to lower their gaze when encountering women. Looking at someone with curiosity or attraction, even from a motorcycle, is discouraged because it can lead to improper thoughts or actions. Modesty protects both the heart and the community from unnecessary temptation and distractions.

2. Respect for Personal Boundaries

Islam emphasizes the importance of respecting others’ dignity and personal space. The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was the perfect example of respect toward others, especially women. He taught that every person deserves honor and that we should avoid behaviors that might make someone uncomfortable.

Looking back at girls without their permission, even playfully, can make them feel uneasy. Islam teaches us to treat others in a way that we would like to be treated. If we wouldn’t want someone staring at us, we should avoid doing it to others.

3. Avoiding Temptation and Protecting the Heart

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:

جریر بن عبداللہ رضی اللہ عنہ بیان کرتے ہیں، میں نے اچانک اٹھ جانے والی نظر کے متعلق رسول اللہ صلی ‌اللہ ‌علی ‌وآلہ ‌وسلم سے مسئلہ دریافت کیا تو آپ صلی ‌اللہ ‌علیہ ‌وآلہ ‌وسلم نے مجھے حکم فرمایا کہ میں اپنی نظر ہٹا لوں۔ رواہ مسلم

Jarir bin Abdullah (RA) narrates, I inquired from the Messenger of Allah (SAW) about the sudden raising of the gaze, so he (PBUH) ordered me to remove my gaze. Muslim 3104

4. Encouraging Self-Control

Another Hadees is that:

اىک نظر کے بعددوسرى نظر نہ کرو(ىعنى اگر اچانک بِلاارادہ کسى عورت پر نظر پڑى تو فوراً نظر ہٹا لے اور دوبارہ نظر نہ کرے)کہ پہلى نظرجائز اور دوسرى ناجائز ہے۔( ابو داود،کتاب النکاح، باب ما یؤمر به من غض البصر، ۳۵۸/۲، حدیث:۲۱۴۹ملتقطاً)

Do not look at a woman after one look (i.e. if you suddenly look at a woman without intention, then immediately remove your eyes and do not look again) because the first look is permissible and the second is not permissible. Ghaz al-Basr, 358/2, Hadith: 2149 (excerpted)

Key points

Lower the Gaze: As mentioned in the Qur’an, lowering the gaze is an act of obedience to Allah. Boys should remind themselves that modesty is a sign of true strength and character. By not looking back at girls, they are earning the pleasure of Allah.

Be Mindful of Intentions: Before looking at someone, boys should ask themselves, “Why am I doing this? Is this action pleasing to Allah?” This self-reflection helps purify intentions and encourages more mindful behavior.

Seek Good Company: Surrounding oneself with good friends who remind each other of Islamic teachings can make a big difference. If boys are around peers who respect women and avoid unnecessary glances, they are more likely to follow suit.

Remember Accountability: In Islam, every action, even the smallest glance, is accounted for. Boys should remember that Allah is aware of everything we do. Thinking about our actions in this light can encourage us to make better choices.

The Role of Parents and Teachers

Parents and teachers play a crucial role in shaping the character of young boys. They can use Islamic teachings to guide boys on how to behave respectfully and modestly around the opposite gender. Teaching boys to lower their gaze and control their desires from an early age helps them develop a strong moral foundation.

Additionally, creating open conversations about the importance of modesty and respect can help boys understand why these values are important, not only in Islam but in building a healthy society.

Yes, we all have 2 types of friends in our circle, that can be relate to the topic. Some of the snake friends are slippery, will be ready to bite when you least expect it. Others will be the snack friends comforting, and like a favorite bag of chips during your favorite show. While both of them looks harmless on the surface.

Snake Friends: The Pretenders

You can never be completely trusted when it comes to snake friends. Like a snake hiding in the grass, they may appear friendly and innocent at first, but they will attack when you’re least expected.

Behind-your-back gossip: You reveal to them a secret, and before you know it, everyone else does too — with a few spicy details added for fun.

Concern masked as jealousy: They’ll congratulate you when you succeed, but you can see the glint of jealousy behind their smiles. It’s amazing that you received the promotion, I didn’t think you were worthy of it.

Disappear when you need them most: When times are hard, these friends abandon you, much like a snake does when its skin sheds. When you ask for assistance, it’s as if you are texting the wall, you will be very dishearten after there this reaction.

Manipulate: They may use emotional manipulation to control or exploit others.

Use you for their own gain: They may only be interested in what you can do for them or how you can benefit them.

Snack Friends: The Genuine Companions

These friends are favorite peoples, they are to lift your spirits, motivates you and make your life better.

Supportive, not competitive: They’ll cheer for your wins and help you through your losses, never making you feel like you’re in a competition. If you succeed, they celebrate; if you fail, they bring you snacks to cheer you up.

Honest, but kind: A snack friend won’t sugarcoat the truth when you need advice, but they’ll do it in a way that makes you feel heard and valued. They’re like a sweet-and-salty snack: balanced, understanding, and never too harsh.

Respect your boundaries: They understand and respect your limits and personal space.

Celebrate your successes: They are genuinely happy for your achievements and support your goals. Offer constructive criticism: They provide honest feedback to help you grow and improve.

The Ultimate Test: When Life Gets Spicy

• When you are in a difficult position, that’s the right time for test between these two friends, they will reveal their true colors. Snake friends will act to support you, but when the things will be uncomfortable, he will be quick side away.
• But the Snacks friends, they will be entered in your that situation as like a hero. Whenever you are in a stressed in a work, or having relationship troubles, or you are feeling down, they will be there to comfort you, like a snack.

So, it’s important to differentiate between these two for your mental health and for overall happiness. Toxic relationships can have a significant negative impact on your self-esteem, emotional stability, and overall quality of life.

When you will identify snake friends, there you can protect yourself from any harm from them.

Following techniques are to maximize the efficiency,

1: 5-Minutes Rule

If a task can be completed in under five minutes, it is advisable to address it immediately rather than postponing it. This approach can help avoid the accumulation of tasks and minimize procrastination.

2: The “If/Then” Technique

You can use the IF/THEN technique to develop the habits, like if you finish your morning task, the you will take a short break. This can be very helpful to stay motivated and consistent.

3: The Single-Tasking Approach

While multitasking may seem inefficient, it can actually reduce productivity. By focusing on one task at a time, you can improve your concentration and quality of work.

4: The Bullet Journal Method

The Bullet Journal method allows you to create a personalized system for tracking tasks, notes, and ideas. This can help you stay organized and motivated. It can be helpful to customize your productivity system.

5: The “Eat the Elephant” Technique

If the task is overwhelming you, then you have to break down into smaller step to manageable easily. By this you can be motivated.

6: The “Mind Mapping” Technique

It is the visual tool to help you to organize your ideas and identify your connection between the different tasks.

Hopefully these techniques can be helpful to you, to organize your work with proper attention with maximum productivity. These techniques also helpful to me, so I thought to share with you.