Self love , Dreams , Achievements , Success, etc.. These things never exist without ‘YOU’. Because , if i am talk about self love then , you can`t love yourself without ‘you’. If i talk about dreams , then you can`t even dream without ‘you’. If i talk about achievement and success , then you can`t do this without your own hardwork and motivation. That`s why ‘YOU’ is very important, because everything starts and end within ‘YOU’.

Believe in yourself

The first step to success is believing in yourself . You don`t need to be perfect to start the things. You to trust on abilities and skills even when doubt arise.

Let me tell you a story of my life which completely change my own life and boost my confidence very high.

I have always been a shy person, constantly afraid that I wouldn`t be able to talk to others and step on to the stage . For me, going up on the stage was a huge deal. During some circumstances , I changed my school and took admission in other school , that was COVID time . A few months later, a speech competition was held at my school. Everyone was participated including 5 students from my class but I wasn`t among of them. For me , giving a speech or stepping onto a stage has always been a huge deal. In fact some of my classmates instead that I couldn`t get up on stage because I was quit student in whole class so, may be they judge me . Morever, I was a new student and i had no idea what was going on inside me .

Just then, my class teacher arrived and asked who was participating , when she noticed that I wasn`t taking part she came over to me and said ; “ You can speak, you can go up on stage, you should participate’. You have rest of today , and the speech is tomorrow . So you have plenty of time to prepare and get ready to deliver your speech on stage.

When i got home , I began to doubt whether I should deliver the speech or not ; the prospect of standing on a stage in front of 700 to 800 student , taking the microphone , and presenting a speech felt incredibly daunting. I asked my brother if I could do it? He replied , Dear ‘ Believe In Yourself’. So, I quickly prepared my speech and the next day delivered it — relying on my own courage and self belief.

I didn`t win the first prize in the speech competition , but I did secure the second prize on the stage in front of those 700 to 800 students. As the sound of clapping \ applause reached my ears , I felt that i had truly accomplished something and i am capable of doing it . I have faith in myself. From that day on , my fear of being on stage and speaking in front of others vanished. I began participated in all speech and debate competitions — both within the intra and inter school event without any fear and i went on to win numerous medals and certificates . I even stood for the school head girl election and won .

And i got so much success because I started believing in myself so, I can proudly say ‘BELIEVE IN YOURSELF’.

You are capable of doing things that others cannot, Don`t underestimate yourself; recognize your strength , move forward and have faith in yourself.

Self love means loving yourself, you are disciplined with yourself, you are enjoying your company, you are treating yourself as a king or queen in your life. But, this can only happen when we are feeling positive about ourselves.

In today`s era most of the people think ‘THE POSITIVITY DEPEND UPON OUR END UP RESULTS’. It true but not completely true.

Suppose, Dear you are the student, employee, manager etc. and you have a goal which you need to complete it effectively to achieve a good result and, once you achieve your goal then you get scholarship for abroad studies , if you are student, get high incentives, if you are employee or worker, get promotion, if you are manager ,HR whatever….

Basically, every good results depend upon our actions, Right? Suppose what if you don`t succeed in achieving your goals then, you are start feel negative and blaming yourself and try to harm yourself.

My Cheerful Readers, I am sorry but it is not self love . You all are just pretending that you are in love with yourself. In reality you are in trap of your ‘MIND’.

However, its not our fault .It`s society`s fault, because society has always drilled into our mind that those who get good results will always be happy .Let`s see how this is created?

Surrounding → Thinking → Action → Results

We think what we see , we act what we think and what we done actions lead to results- which can be either positive or negative.

We human being pin our happiness — and even our self love depends on a single action. We tend to believe that if our action are good , we will love ourselves more and feel positive , but that`s not the case. We should just focus on our action not on results . We shouldn`t worry about the outcome .

My favourite book ‘ Shrimad Bhagwat Geeta’ , In which krishna says;

‘Karmanye Vadhikaraste Ma Phalesu Kadachana| Ma Karma Phalahetu Burma te Sangostvakarmani’.

MEANS , YOUR RIGHT IS TO PERFORM YOUR WORK, BUT NEVER TO RESULT , NEVER BE MOTIVATE BY THE RESULTS OF YOUR ACTIONS , NOR SHOULD YOU BE ATTACHED TO NOT PERFORMING YOUR PRESCRIBRD DUTIES.

So, Dear focus on your actions not on your results , because if you focus well on your actions, you will get good results automatically. So don`t expect anything , if you don`t expect then you can`t hurt yourself.

‘SELF CARE IS SELF LOVE’

Parent care us because they love us. Painter care their paintings because they love their paintings. So, just like this , If we care ourselves it`s means we love ourselves. Because when we care about anything so, we can`t try to harm that things which we love the most.

My lovely readers,

You know what self love say ‘ Knee down in front of you not others’

Because when we fell down, we stand by our mood not other`s mood and most important thing that, most of the people support you in good situation not in bad, because they want some entertainment. Do you agree?

RULE : You will become self lover person when you stop thinking about society. Do those things which you love most and don`t depend your happiness on society and outcomes.