Are you the type of person who is constantly worrying about everything? Do you spend most of your days intoxicated by a cocktail of stress hormones-living in fight or flight? Do you find yourself constantly under scrutiny by your inner critic and worried about the past? Or, are you always stressed out and worried about that which has not happened yet, overly concerned with controlling the future? If this sounds like you, just know that you are not alone. Most of society deals with this type of anxiety on one level or another. The problem is that most people are afraid to come out and talk about it. What I have found as I have become open about my own challenges in the past is that, the majority of people are going through very similar situations. My advice to you is to reach out to someone and talk about it. Take the time to dig deep within yourself to understand why you do what you do. There are many resources available (coaches,books etc) that can help you to identify the events from your past that have you repeating these same behaviors over and over again. Once you become aware of why you do what you do, you can begin to let go one day at a time. Speaking from experience, Zachary Durocher

Some will, some wont, so what!! Don’t waste your time trying to drag others across the finish line. Its exhausting!! You are NOT responsible for the success of others!! When someone is truly committed to their goals, they won’t require you to hold their hand through the process. You can guide them and lead by example, but don’t allow yourself to be seduced into becoming a “manager”. Spend your time and energy where it’s deserved with the people who qualify for it rather than those who drain you!!! ~Zachary Durocher #imjustsaying #someoneswaiting #speakingfromexperience#canigetawitness

I can’t think of another time in my life that I’ve felt so inspired and excited to wake up each and every day. As I become more and more aligned with my passion, my purpose and my vision, the gap between work and pleasure gets smaller and smaller. It’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but I can honestly say that I love my life these days. And that in itself is light years away from where I once was. I encourage everyone to take a few minutes to think about what your vision of the future is and what it is in life that sets your soul on fire? Because when you become clear on those things, you can begin to ask yourself, “Is what I’m doing today in alignment with my beliefs, my vision and my purpose?” “Is what I’m doing today bringing me closer to my goals?” As you begin to answer “yes” more and more frequently, you will become closer and closer to experiencing true joy. #speakingfromexperience#inspired #pathwithpurpose #yearoftransformation #seekingalignment

As a business owner and entrepreneur, I’ve learned the importance of having very clear and specific goals.When I first got started with my business, I’d wake up each day with a broad idea of what needed to be done and I’d just try to wing it. It was complete chaos and it left me feeling overwhelmed on a daily basis with little reward. I also ended up feeling overworked because I felt “busy” all of the time. That ended up leading me to become resentful and I would guilt myself into working late every night due to my lack of productivity during the day. Nowadays, I have a D.M.O (daily method of operation). I make a to-do list the night before and I have time blocks carved out each day for specific tasks. I even meditate when I lay down at night and when I first wake up on what I’d like my day to look like. I visualize myself completing those goals and I feel what that will feel like tocomplete them. It has made a world of difference for me. When you plan and execute your day with intention, it can and will absolutely change how you experience your day. You can count on feeling, happy, at peace, relaxed and confident, and you can certainly expect to see your productivity increase in all areas of your life. Speaking from experience, Zachary Durocher

No matter what profession you are in, you will always encounter people who can be challenging to collaborate with. In some fields you will have to deal with people who believe they are entitled because they have a degree. In others you may encounter people who have inflated egos because of their achievements, titles, etc. Some people have a sense of entitlement that they brought to work from home. In all areas of the workforce you can typically count on encountering conflict, gossip, drama, cliques and so forth. It’s inevitable. At the end of the day, people are people. In my experience, work ethic and etiquette isn’t something that someone learns in school. If a lazy and careless person ends up with an engineering degree, chances are, you’re going to end up with a lazy and careless engineer. That’s just the way it is. Unfortunately, most people are given jobs based upon their knowledge and/or seniority with not as much emphasis placed on heart,talent, and personality. I’ve been in many situations where people were promoted to leadership positions based upon seniority alone and, a lot of the time, they had no leadership skills- therefore, they were NOT qualified to lead. I have seen men with a 7th grade education outwit and outwork people with a masters degree. What I’m trying to say is, don’t allow yourself to be intimidated by your peers or your superiors. If you’re in a situation where someone is talking down to you, being disrespectful, or if you feel that you’re being ridiculed in the work place, just know it’s not about you, it’s about them. I can guarantee that those same behaviors show up in all areas of their personal lives too. Don’t be seduced into participating in the conflict and learn to master the space in between stimulus and response so that you can effectively respond to the situations instead of quickly reacting. As you master your own emotional state, you’ll learn to quickly neutralize the people who attempt to make you feel inadequate.Speaking from experience, zachary_durocher #speakingfromexperience

With it being Halloween today, I know that there will be a lot of people out there putting on make up or masks and enjoying being someone else for a night. I get it! For a lot of us it feels great to forget about who we are for little while. We can step out disguised into the land of make-believe leaving behind our pain,worries,guilt,our stress and the responsibilities associated with our day to day lives..But for me, this year will be a little different. Because I have recently discovered that taking off the masks that we hide behind in our daily lives and giving ourselves permission to be ourselves all of the time is one of the most liberating acts of self love that one can demonstrate. So I will be showing up today as me to celebrate being free from the beliefs that have perpetuated my masquerade in the past. Speaking from experience @zachary_durocher #happyhalloween #plottwist #speakingfromexperience #removethemask #daretobeyourself

A lot of people seem to have this idea that success is on one side of us and failure is on the other. I personally believe that failure is the space in between us and success. You can’t have one without the other. I don’t necessarily believe that we should actively seek to fail, but I do believe the every defeat is a small victory worthy of celebration. So the next time you find yourself feeling discouraged about a perceived failure or loss, lift your head and smile knowing that you’re learning and growing from the situation. You are now one step closer to the outcome that you seek. Remember that success is not a destination, but rather a state of being. Speaking from experience:@zachary_durocher Have a great week everyone!

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In our line of work we are blessed to have the opportunity to work with a variety of people from all walks of life, and we ask them a lot of BIG questions. In an effort to get them to move into their imagination, one of the things that we almost always ask is, “What would you do if you had unlimited resources and time were not an issue?” Our objective here is to get them to imagine what life would feel like if they could have it all. Because what we’ve found is that there aren’t a lot of people out there doing much dreaming at all. And we know that in order for us to assist them in arriving, we must first be able to help them conceptualize their destination. Now, there’s a small percentage of people that will immediately begin to describe the life of their dreams, mentioning things such as travel, freedom, philanthropy, and gifts for their friends and family. But the majority of people respond in either one of two ways. The first and most common response is quite simply, “I don’t know. I’d have to think about it,” with the second most common response being “I’d pay off my bills and be debt free!”

Now I’m going to be honest here. I had never really paid attention to how wildly absurd this was. It was actually brought to my attention by my coach, Jeffery Combs, who touches on it from time to time on his“More Heart Than Talent” podcast. I mean, we are asking some pretty big questions here. Right? We are basically asking people to imagine the life of their dreams with no limitations. By them expressing that the pinnacle of their dreams is to be debt free, they are ultimately insinuating that their biggest goal/dream in life is to be back at ZERO. Barely in the black! It’s unbelievable! No dreams of writing a book, helping the homeless, or creating some kind of legacy. Nothing of the sort. The majority of people’s dreams and aspirations seem to end with being back at ZERO. Or they have become so accustomed to the idea that their life can never be more than it is that they have lost the capacity to imagine it any other way. It’s disheartening. Now, I don’t know that there’s a blanket cause for this lack of vision, but I do know that it’s belief or lack thereof that’s at the heart of it all. Vision is the bridge between the present and the future, but vision rarely exists without belief in oneself.

Although this was, admittedly, once the case with me, I never realized how common it was among others. As I was settling into my mid-thirties, I had arrived at a point in my life where I had pretty much accepted the fact that I would never be highly compensated for playing music, writing, or doing anything that I was extremely passionate about. I had given up hope that it was even a possibility, and I stopped shooting at targets that I was uncertain I could hit. It wasn’t until I started dating my wife that things began to change for me. From day one she saw things in me that, at the time, I was unable to see in myself and she was constantly pouring into me. Her belief in me was a 10 out of 10 and because I trusted her so much, I began to believe that she could be right. As my belief in myself began to change, so did my vision of what my future would look like. In a very short period of time, I was able to completely change my path and redesign my life.

With that being said, I think that we often overlook how much we impact those around us with our encouragement or lack thereof. Think about it. How often have we told our partners or our children that something was impossible or irrational or that their ideas were silly. This undoubtedly affects most people’s self-esteem and belief in their ability to create the life of their dreams. I think we should all take a look at how we are showing up for our friends and family. Chances are we can all do a much better job of playing a supportive role in their lives. And hopefully, in the days to come, when people are asked “What would you do if you had unlimited resources and time were not an issue?”, they will have a clear vision of what that would look like and an unshakable belief that it really is possible.

Speaking from experience@zachary_durocher

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What would you say if I told you that your words are never returned void? What if your subconscious mind was listening to everything you say and then telegraphing that to the universe. Would everything happening in your life begin to make more sense? This isn’t a new concept and although it’s widely accepted as fact by many cultures, it’s often treated with much disregard. Your words are law. And as a matter of fact even the Big Book itself states, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21). There’s no doubt that our words have real power. In the Bible, God spoke the world into being by the power of His words (Hebrews 11:3), and we are in His image in part because of the power we have with words.

It’s important to understand that our words are doing so much more than just simply delivering information. They are either creating or destroying, an investment or a withdrawal. Much like the code of the operating system that tells your computer how to portray your desktop, your words are directly instructing the universe as to what your reality should look like. Unfortunately, this wasn’t a topic that was openly discussed nor acknowledged in my household. But when the pain of my situations became great enough and I was forced to take a deeper look at myself , it became undeniably clear that my “reality” was a direct reflection of the things that I was saying out loud.

With that being said, I challenge you to take a long hard look at your dialogue with money, success and relationships etc. Closely monitor how your current situations are described by the things that you say and the stories that you tell. If you are struggling financially, you may notice that you spend more time talking about your debts or lack rather than speaking abundant thoughts from a place of faith. You may say things like “We could never afford that.” or “ We don’t have enough money.” unconsciously instructing the universe to manifest your broke thoughts into a bankrupt reality. If your relationships are failing, it’s very likely that you spend a great deal of time focused on and complaining about all of the things your partner does wrong. And chances are, you spend very little to no time at all praising and edifying them for the things that they do right. Sound familiar? Well this isn’t a coincidence and this isn’t “Progressive” or “New Age” thinking. This is just a universal law that always has and always will hold true.

Although some of us have made great improvements in this area, there’s always more work that can be done. Of course, don’t expect things to magically change over night either. Because, if you’re anything like me, you will probably have a great deal of residuals that will be headed your way before you can truly begin to see a significant change. Just hang in there though, stay positive and try to always remember that when you think that you’re describing the present,you’re actually prescribing the future. Speaking from experience….@zachary_durocher

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Whenever we allow our pain, our past or being a victim of any situation to become our identity, we tend to subconsciously create chaos in our lives to validate our story and tell ourselves things like “this always happens to me”, “I have the worst luck” or any other combination of words that express how hard we have it. However, if you take a deeper look into things,you will see that you are actively attracting and creating conflict in your life to keep yourself let down and disappointed because being happy, free from the past and being a victor rather than a victim would contradict your identity. When you become aware of this, you become empowered to create lasting change.
Speaking from experience:@zachary_durocher
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