We’ll be diving into a Guided Meditation of this 1 Habit for Transforming Uncertain Times to our Most Magical Breakthroughs Today!

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So many of you reached out to find out if we were okay through the Ojai Earthquakes! We love you ❤️‍🔥 Thank you 🙏 And while it was scary, there was no damage for us or anyone in our area.

Heading 3: We Are Living in Uncertain Times 🚨

This is not news, nor is it rocket science. It’s hard not to feel like the ground is moving underneath us in these incredibly uncertain and unsettling times.

So how can we find our peace, power, and expansion when the world around us seems to be shaking?

Finding comfort in uncertainty, adversity, and suffering is one of the greatest gifts we have as humans with huge hearts.

What if these seemingly terrible and terrifying times are not against us in any way, but have been designed to shake us free, crack us open, and help us find exactly what we want most in this life?!

The Key Is Vulnerability 👐

The key to navigating these times is counterintuitive.

Often, when times get tough, we get tough. We fight, we resist, we suppress the pain and suffering, and we soldier on.

If a lion is running in your direction, this is great advice. Get tough. This is not the time to be soft and care about your feelings. This is a time to get tough and fight.

However, the challenge of these times is different. While it seems like the threat is in the world, the real challenge is what we are experiencing within ourselves.

The Real Challenge is Within 😞

I don’t know anyone who isn’t going through a challenge.

The planet is awakening, and so are we.

Many of us used to be able to suppress our doubts, fears, and negative patterns, but we’ve been forced to face them and (hopefully) grow through them over the last few years.

We are at a turning point on the planet, and we are each at a turning point in our own evolution.

We are being asked to let go of the fight and truly allow love.

I know it may sound hippy-ish, but maybe it’s time for all of us to be hippies.

We all need to get on the love, peace, and compassion bandwagon, not only to do what we can to save this planet, but also to come home to the safety of our true selves.

But Won’t We Be Destroyed if We Surrender? If We Allow Our Vulnerability? ☠️

The key here is to understand that we are multidimensional beings. We exist as humans, but we are also spiritual beings inhabiting these beautiful human forms. When faced with a physical threat, such as a lion charging at us or an actual emergency, our primary goal is to take action to protect ourselves.

However, when our challenge is an inner fear, doubt, or panic, we must learn to transform these “attacks” by surrendering and being vulnerable instead of fighting or running away.

Rather than clinging to the fixing and figuring out that we do in our minds, we need to let go and surrender. Instead of resisting and fighting against the feelings in our bodies, we must learn to “relax and release”, as Michael Singer suggests. We can also follow Eckhart Tolle’s advice and allow the present moment to be as it is, letting go and surrendering to now.

Your Power Comes from Love ❤️‍🔥

When we resist what is, our ego finds strength and control. The number one concern for our ego is to be in control. Instead of relaxing and allowing what is happening, we fight and resist to maintain a sense of power over our circumstances.

However, resistance disconnects us from our being, from the love or source within that is our true power. The challenge with resistance is that it hinders us from accessing our true power.

Vulnerability is the Birthplace of Everything We’re Looking For 🕊

We find love, courage, and power when we allow ourselves to be present and accept and embrace our human feelings, fears, and doubts. These qualities are awakened from within when we do so.

For me, the bottom line is that we must learn to practice self-compassion when facing difficult situations. We need to develop a practical and powerful habit of being gentle, kind, and compassionate with ourselves, even when we encounter challenging situations. This will help us transform and dissolve the ego reaction that tends to resist, fight, and disconnect us from our feelings when facing adversity.

The Habit: Letting Go of Resistance When We Feel Uncertain, Afraid, or Overwhelmed

Recall a moment in the last few months when you felt uncertain, afraid, or overwhelmed. Allow yourself to imagine and feel that moment right now.

Can you feel the tightness, tension, and resistance in your body, mind, and feelings? If you’re not aware of it, try focusing on your chest and heart chakra. Breathe deeply and allow yourself to feel how you feel in your physical body. Do you feel relaxed, open, loose, and free? Or do you feel tightness, tension, and resistance?

The next step is to embrace and honor the resistance. Psychologically, we know that all resistance in our consciousness is simply working on preservation and protection. It’s trying to keep us safe, lovable, and okay.

The next courageous opportunity we have is to relax and release the resistance. To let it go. To surrender to it. Sometimes this is easy. Sometimes, in the face of great fear or uncertainty, we can simply relax and let it go.

But sometimes we can’t.

Sometimes there is an experience in our consciousness that can’t be let go of easily. Sometimes it first needs to be heard, seen, honored, and loved. Then, when it feels complete and whole, it can be released.

In the ‘NOT Therapy Thursdays’ Call on August 24 we will explore how to transform our resistance into clarity, courage, and actionable steps forward. This will involve a guided closed-eye process.

The recording of the call will be available on August 25th and can be found here.

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In This Week’s Subscriber Only Rewiring Guide we’re diving practically into how to apply these strategies in our life: rewiring neurologically back to Love with these 3 Essential Habits.

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This process is most effective when you’re facing a challenge. Although it can still be helpful after the fact, it’s most beneficial to work through moments of difficulty as they occur.

So, if you’re up for it, the next time you find yourself feeling scared, sad, overwhelmed, anxious, or overthinking, try diving into this process:

1. Start by setting a clear intention for the Highest Good and for the greatest amount of healing and clearing possible. Before diving into any exploration of our human consciousness, it’s important to anchor ourselves in our spiritual truth: the Highest Good.
2. Next, call to mind the challenging moment in your life and write down what’s challenging about it. Allow yourself to dive into it. Let go of any need to be “good” or “spiritual” about the situation. Allow yourself to experience any sadness, anger, confusion, etc. Write down what’s challenging in whatever way feels best for you. This is the place where it’s okay to blame, to complain, to get bitchy, and truly take on the position of the victim.
3. Now, move away from your head and focus your attention inside your body. Be as present as you can within your body. If you’re more emotionally wired, allow yourself to feel whatever is going on in your feelings and body. If you’re more mentally wired, let go of the past and the future, and allow yourself to be completely present, alive, and here in your body.
4. Simply describe the energy that you’re aware of in your physical body right now. This can be a complex and nuanced skill, but we’re all inherently able to do it. It might take some time to remember how to do it, so if you’re not aware of any energy within, make it up. Have fun with it.
5. Next, let go of any tension or resistance within. Imagine it’s like a tight fist, and open your fist until it becomes soft, open, free, and expansive.
6. If you’re more emotionally wired, feel and have compassion for this tightness, this tension inside. If you’re more mentally referenced, simply say yes to whatever is present right now. Become one with what is. Accept and cooperate with it as fully as you can.
7. Sometimes we find a place of resistance within (usually the result of trauma) that cannot be simply released in this focus. If that’s the case, scroll down to “Giving Your Resistance a Voice” below.
8. Allow yourself to continue to relax and release, letting go of anything that comes up within you that’s tight, tense, or in contraction in any way. Keep allowing yourself to be present within, relaxing and letting go of anything that arises, until you feel open, light, and free.
9. Complete the process with a huge hug and deep, sacred gratitude to yourself. Thank yourself for going through this very challenging journey of being human. Thank yourself for enduring, for serving you so beautifully.

Pro Tip 🏆

Once you’ve completed this process, it’s a great time to be aware of any clarity you might be seeking in your life. Pay attention to your physical world situations right now, and allow any Light and Loving direction that may be present within you to guide you. Write it down, and then act on it.

Advanced: Giving Your Resistance a Voice

1. Allow the resistance to become an exaggerated cartoon character. Give it a color, a texture, a movement, and a cartoon shape of some kind.
2. Let this character speak freely, without censorship. Don’t worry about what’s true, logical, or rational. Let it share the energy it’s holding on to.
3. Let it keep sharing, ideally by writing it down, until it feels complete.
4. Lift into who you really are: the Huge Heart; the Unlimited Love that you are. Let this character know what you just heard. Let it know that you have so much love, compassion, and understanding for it. Treat this character like a small child. Don’t try to change anything for it. Don’t solve or fix or change anything. Just be with this character, letting it know that you feel it, hear it, and love it so much. Just like a small child that has lost its favorite toy, don’t reason with it. Don’t tell the child you’ll get another toy. Let the child know that you hear how sad, how lost, how truly sorry you are that this very special toy is lost.
5. Ask this character from your Huge Loving Heart, “What do you need in order to let go? What do you need to relax and release everything you’re holding onto?” Let your character answer. Don’t answer from your mind. Let this character within answer. Just write down whatever it says without thinking about it first.
6. Give the character what it just asked for. It might be a hug, to know that everything’s okay, to take a nap, or to use your imagination to create an experience that it needs. Whatever it is, give it what it needs. If the character asks for something that is destructive in any way, ask it, “What is the experience you hope to have if that happens?” Then guide yourself to give that experience to yourself. For example, if the character says, “I need so-and-so to die and suffer,” ask the character, “What is it you hope to experience if that happens?” Maybe it says, “I would feel safe and right.” Then give the inner character that experience. Flood it with feelings of safety and rightness.
7. Once this feels lighter and your character has been able to let in at least a little of what it needs, return to step 8 above.

We all learn to fight or flee when faced with difficulty. It’s not easy to stick around, to be vulnerable, and to trust love to guide us forward. But if we make the effort, if we try our best, love meets us and works magic and miracles for us.

When I first began to open up to this work, I was struggling with an ‘unfair’ work situation. Despite working hard, I felt criticized and unappreciated. The pain was overwhelming, and I felt unloved and unsupported.

So I allowed myself to feel that pain, that unfairness, that fury. I let go of the blame and the cycle of wanting to be right and to fix others and the world. Instead, I embraced the vulnerability of being human.

Through this process, I was able to release much of my childhood trauma. After a few weeks of working on this experience, I realized that my boss’s behavior was triggering me because it mirrored how I felt with my stepdad when I was younger.

I was able to release the patterns I created to protect myself when I was 6, 7, and 8 years old. I stopped running from the pain, and stopped fighting with people who couldn’t give me the love and support I needed. Instead, I learned to give myself the love and support I needed.

Even though my boss and work situation did not change at all, within a year, I was able to see that my boss was doing the best he could. I realized that his criticism and dissatisfaction were not a reflection on me. I allowed him to be displeased with my work, and I experienced the truth of doing my best. I felt love, appreciation, and celebration for the way I was showing up.

I love you. Thanks for being here. Zoë xoxoxo

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While it might not always feel fun, or comfortable… this year is a profound gift. And it’s up to us if we’ll receive the gifts available to us, or ignore and avoid the change that’s possible.

How we show up for our challenges… our hurt, upset, doubt and fear… is key.

I hope these 2 Questions will support you in taking any challenge and transforming it into the change, manifestation and miracles it holds.

Two Questions for Turning Your Challenge into Your Next Step UP

1. What Is my Emotional Disturbance Begging Me to Receive?

If I were to truly allow and embrace my feelings, my hurt, my upset — what are they begging for?!

If our upset is more along the lines of anger, frustration, blame… it’s going to be powerful to let go of focusing on what you want in the world — and allow yourself to clearly see what You Need Inside of Yourself?

That requires great vulnerability. It requires the courage to feel that we do need love, support, and people.

But in realizing truly what that human emotional need is, at the heart of your challenge — you have a clear pathway to resolving the inner and outer challenge.

How can you give yourself what you need? How can you take care of what you need within, and then focus on what you need to do in the world around you.

When a situation takes us out of balance, we often turn first to: what to fix, change or do in the world.

But if we first: turn within to give ourselves that that we need within, it is wild and wonderful how clear and easy it then seems to take clear and courageous action in the world.

You might find this 4-Step Guide for Feeling for Healing helpful too.

Ok… and so the second supportive question is…

2. How Can I Give Myself What I Need More Consistently?

To the extent that we take responsibility for the experience that we want in life, the Universe will respond and reflect to us the reality that we choose.

Truly. Check this out as your own spiritual experiment.

Whatever upsets you next, really use the first question: What Is my Emotional Disturbance Begging Me to Receive? to clearly identify what you need within.

Some examples to help you lean into this:

If your boss doesn’t appreciate you and is unkind — allow that vulnerable feeling to show you that you need kindness, appreciation and recognition. And then use any moment when you feel this way, particularly in relationship to your boss, to show up and give yourself what you need. When your boss treats you unfairly, show up for yourself in profound kindness, appreciation and loving. Really take the time to tell yourself what you need to hear. Really flood yourself with the hugs, the love and gratitude that you deserve.

If you’re currently feeling afraid about your job, or finances — allow that vulnerable feeling to show you the experience you crave and need right now. Which could be expansion, or peace of mind, or safety and security, or joy and freedom. That inner experience or feeling will be different for different people. It’s not about thinking or figuring this out — but really allowing yourself to feel that fear — and ask that place what do you need — what do you want?! And from that emotional experience — you will know clearly what you need to give yourself within. So if what you need is safety and security — how can you give yourself that imagined experience inside of yourself? If what you crave is freedom and joy — how can you give yourself that experience more and more?

No matter what you need inside — you have the power to give that to yourself. And see what happens when you start to let go of needing others to give you what you need — and give it to yourself…

If you want to really move through your challenges this year — embrace each challenge with both questions.

It’s not easy to do on your own, and that’s why I’m all about vulnerable sharing. We need to surround ourselves with love, support and compassion in order to rise about the challenges of this life. I genuinely believe that. None of us are designed to, or meant to live this life alone.

So take advantage of your loved ones. Talk to them about the hard stuff. Talk to them about what’s challenging and together use your challenges to lift you into the gifts, the strengths and the opportunities they are made for.

I created the Allowing.Love™ intensive for this specific purpose. To create a community to learn the spiritual principles that support us in turning every area of our life into the Love and Success that it is. And to create the real human bonds of friendship and unconditional loving that are the fuel and the support we need along the way.

If you’re intrigued in any way — spend just a minute learning about the program here — zoelumiere.com/ali.

I just have to share what one grad shared…

“I have had the best year (2020) ever.
Massive challenges became massive shifts for the better,
and it’s because of you guys, because of the Allowing.Love™ intensive.”
– Amelia, CO

I mean what have you got to lose — except the fear, doubt and illusions that your challenges are holding you back?!

What if the CoronaVirus, is not against us… not a problem… but for us?

Not a curse.

But perhaps a big part of our own personal cure for more Love and fulfillment in this life?

I love sharing how the greatest adversities in my life have been some of my biggest gifts.

Of course they didn’t come wrapped with bows and cards.
They came with great sadness and disillusionment.

They came with incredible fear, and profound confusion.

Being sexually abused through my childhood did suck.
I didn’t have a boyfriend until I was 33.

And watching my Mum slowly die from cancer for 3 years was horrific.
After she passed when I was 14 I used bulimia to cope.
By 17 I was using hard drugs like speed and ecstasy to escape.

Trust me I get it and have so much compassion for how challenging, painful and heartbreaking the adversities of this world can be.

When I first started my journey in Spiritual Psychology with Drs. Ron and Mary Hulnick, I remembered how challenging it was for so many of us to get on board with the Universal Law:
“How you relate to an issue, IS the issue.”

WTF?!?

So being sexually abused — NOT the issue?!
My problem is HOW I’m relating to it?!?

And so the CoronaVirus — NOT a problem!?
Just HOW we’re relating to it makes it a problem — or not?!

In case you’d like to hear this a few different ways.
I’ve asked a few of my friends 🤣

Eckhart Tolle says it this way:
“Every challenge is a disguised opportunity for salvation.”

In Neale Donald Walsch’s words:
“The darkness of our world awaits you — not to engulf you, but to be transformed by you.”

And from Carl Jung:
“In all chaos there is a cosmos, and in all disorder, a secret order.”

And from Byron Katie:
“Everything happens for you, not to you.
Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.
You don’t have to like it… it’s just easier if you do.”

So while I am encouraging us all into this higher perspective: that there is great goodness, growth and expansion waiting for us… in all things… even the Coronavirus… the way forward isn’t ONLY in mentally lifting into this perspective.

I believe that we also need to allow ourselves to be human and to have our human, flawed and upset feelings along the way… and that this quickens the ability we have to let go of the challenge, and to receive the blessing.

Not to insult anyone, but this is best explained by how we would support a 5 year old child.

Imagine a bright, beautiful 5 year old has just lost his goldfish. It died. And the child is devastated. The goldfish was the child’s best friend.

We could try and to convince the child that actually it’s good and wonderful that the goldfish is dead. That it’s all a part of his growth and evolution. But that doesn’t address the deep sadness within.

Letting him cry, and letting him feel the deep sadness, and the deep missing within… naturally brings him to the next feeling.

He’ll cry for a while… but soon that emotion — that energy in motion will have passed through… and now there is naturally space and openness available.

Now with this space and openness we fill him with Loving, with kind words, with touch and affection, with the warmest, safest, most wonderful hug possible.

In essence, this is how I went from hating my sexual abuser with such visceral rage… to feeling grateful for the profound self-Love and spiritual healing gifts the experience gave me.

And letting myself be sad, still really sad about my Mum’s death.
And letting myself miss her, still deeply missing her after 20 years…
is a part of my ongoing transformation into a woman with some of the most super-human muscles of unconditional loving on the planet.

But we don’t get super-human muscles of unconditional loving by just letting ourselves cry when we’re sad. Emotions will recycle on you if you’re not filling the space with your Own Divine Loving afterwards.

I have picked up 14 year old Zoe off the cold hard hospital floor next to her Mum’s bed the day she was dying… so many times… maybe 100 times.

All of this life’s experiences are here for us to realize the frailty and imperfection of our humanity, and to bridge it with our own divine loving.

But we can’t just do one.

We can’t just be a victim, be sad, and cry, and let the floor swallow us whole.
And we can’t ONLY be loving, and trusting, and spiritual.

We need to be both human: to feel that.
And to be divine Love: to allow that fully into the places that hurt.

Rumi says this best:
“Love is the bridge between you and everything.”

I have many techniques that I share with clients and my community to support you in this process, here are a few that I think might prove useful in the challenging times ahead.

From Anxiety to Energy – A Step by Step Guide

Feeling our Feelings for Healing – 4 Step Guide

What I ALSO love about showing up for ourselves in these healing ways… is that when we clear the emotional imbalance, fear and inner struggles out of the way… we make Aligned, Practical, Healthy and Self-Honoring decisions for our life.

When we’ve handled our inner experience, it’s amazing to see how better equipped we are in being present, at responding appropriately in each moment… at remembering NOT TO TOUCH OUR FACE!!!!

I love you all.
Huge hugs to all of us in these challenging times.
May we all show up for ourselves with the loving and caring we show others.

•••

A Personal Note from Dr. Zoë Lumiere
I grew up not knowing it was ok to feel my feelings.
When my Mum got cancer I wasn’t allowed to cry. I was 12.
And when she died after a 3 year battle I was told you’re strong, you’re ok. Hold it together for your younger brother.

Learning how to feel my feelings and use them to access the profound Love that is at the heart of all experiences in this life, is my mission in life.

It’s my most powerful aspect of my own self-love and self-care.
And I now serve thousands of people every year learning how to transform their feelings to healing, their fear to fuel, their adversity into their spiritual gifts.

This work has given me so much. I’m grateful to be able to give so much back.

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