Discovering the secret bond between humans

Don’t you think that It looks really different when you see humans holding each others hand?In a park or in the middle of a street,its easy to see some people who hold hands just to feel closer or special while they share those moments together.But why do people hold hands when they sit together or even walk from point a to b?

Hands symbolize the relationship between “Give and Take” in the nature of humans life.When you serve something to someone or receive it from somewhere,hands are always in action of giving or taking the things you desire.Hands are also used as one of the most powerful tools in human’s interaction.People use them when there is a need to show one of the most essential feelings we keep deep inside,TRUST.

“I trust you!”

As a baby or a little kid,you always felt like there was always a need to hold your parents’ hand when you were on the street.This seems like a protection for parents since they want to take control over their children.Maybe they want prevent them from falling or getting into trouble in a different environment.But the reason why little kids temp to hold their parents’ hand because they feel secure when they know their parents are close enough to reach any given time.Kids can only trust their parents and by holding hands they basically show that they trust.

Its easy to see lovers holding each other hands in public.It can be an another example for how people show their trust by using hands.While watching a movie,having dinner or even walking on the street…Lovers have the instinct to hold hands,since they feel comfortable to have a company that they admire and most importantly trust.They share the moments by holding hands and feel appreciated to have someone that they can trust.

When you see same genders hold hands,you probably think that they are not straight.The reason why being gay or lesbian might not be fully accepted by every society,this one might be one of the most power examples we can take.The bonds between partner are so strong that even dough they know that there are people who don’t really accept them the way they are,they choose to be together and hold each others hand to walk together by showing the environment that they full trust each other.

Sometimes,the value of holding someone’s hand means a lot more than many of these examples above.I am sure there are moments in our life we feel like we can go back in time.you might wish that person was there next to you and you can hold his/hands and never let go.In order to not regret in the future,It’s always good to keep our loved ones closer.it’s important to hold their hands and make them feel special.Remember there are not many people left that you can fully trust in 21st century.

Holding Hands was originally published in Absolute Uniqueness on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Digesting the right amount of Religion in daily life

Do you believe in God?

-I do.

If you were born and raised in a country like mine,Religion might be one of most common topic were people always have something to talk about in daily life. You can easily see how religion has big impacts on many cultures and societies.But,why do we believe in a religion which tells you what to do,what not to do in life?Have you ever questioned yourself about your beliefs and if they really match the way you dream of your ideal lifestyle?

Not only my country,but many others are still ruled under influence of religious beliefs and powers.No matter you believe in god or not,you might have to blend in into your society even dough you don’t agree with most of things they believe in.I am a muslim and in the past I asked myself ‘How did I become a muslim?’.The Answer is so simple as you all might guess.Because I was born and raised in a muslim family.Is this my only option as a religion? Not really,But I chose to stick with this religion after I looked at others and see the differences.When I say differences,I don’t mean that all the religions are completely different than each other. I just feel like Islam is a great fit for me in terms of its’ ideology.

Religions are all the same since there is only one GOD.I would say any of the book that you read and practice,tells you the same things over an over again.The only difference is the language that they use to describe beliefs and truths.they slightly differ in each book but the main idea is always the same. BE A GOOD PERSON.

If Religion is such a peaceful source for humans,why do believers create so many conflicts and problems every single day on earth?

For me, Religion is the type of nutrition that feeds your soul.I personally consider religions as philosophies that you just need to read and question in daily basis.If you go too deep into a religion,you will start to live in its’ borders which will limit your life and also ability of your thinking.People must understand that Religions don’t limit your life,they give you freedom. That freedom comes from the positivity in life,peaceful living,believing in the greatest.People have been using religion too much in their life that all their traditions and customs mixed up with their religious beliefs.That’s the reason why you can easily point out someone if he/she is religious by just looking at their outfits or accessories.If Religion is a connection between ME and God,why would I transform my life to into something extremely different than who I am,just to get accepted into my society.This is the point where you get seperated from your neighboors.If you dont think like them or live like them,they might discriminate you or put you down by their insults.Religions have nothing to do with discrimination.If someone really discovers the beauty of a religion,that person will only believe in one and only statement which declares that There are only good people and bad people on earth.Race,ethnicity or background cant be a reason to insult,hurt or even kill someone.

In my opinion,New generation is not really aware of what to believe in terms of religion.Some of them believe in a religion just because they were raised in a religious family and the other half grows up with no beliefs.I believe that every single person needs to get just enough of religion involved in their life.If they choose not to believe in god or a religion,they can still be a good person as long as they believe in peace and happiness. No doubt!

Note: All the things you read in this article are written based on my personal opinions and beliefs.

Nutrition for everyone, Religion. was originally published in Absolute Uniqueness on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Generation raised with Academic Illusion

Everyone of us at least once in life time comes across to an article about People who succeed without a college degree.I mean these types of articles are really easy to find since most of us have those moments in college when you are really tired of studying for hours just to pass useless exams which have nothing to do with your future or have no effect on your educational advancement.You look at your curriculum and then you start questioning yourself and the degree you want to carry rest of your life.If you ask my opinion,those people would have succeed even if they had a college degree.So being a college student is not something that should make you feel miserable.It’s a privilege but staring at blackboards and inhaling chalks will never make this experience as special as it supposes to be.

What I call as Academic Illusion is one of the biggest disease which drags people in wrong directions and keep them away from getting ready for real life after college.In order to understand this problem,you only need to analyze your environment and look at the demand of our society when it comes to hire young individuals.

I can hear your parents still complain about your academic evaluations.Even dough you do your best in school,it will never be enough for them.They will always compare you with their generation.Let me share with you some of the statements that I used to hear from my parents.This is going to make you realize how they really thing about your education.You will never win if you choose to argue but you will learn a lot when you think a little deeper about what they try to say to you.

‘Son,How lucky you are! You don’t have to work for a single day of your life to make money!All you need to do is study!’

‘We pay for everything and all we want is to see you successful in school”

‘If I have these opportunities when i was a teenager,I would have become an astronaut in NASA’

When you look at the statements above, There are only 3 distinctive words that really describe what they really cared when they were young.Money,Success and Opportunity.The Conclusion is that they didn’t have enough opportunity to make money to be successful.So They worked hard and create their own paths to earn enough money to succeed in life.But now when you think about it,Do you really believe money brings success into your life ,or opportunities bring money by itself? Do you consider every person successful who makes money or Do you even think people who have opportunities make good money? NO!

First of all We are living in 21century. That doesn’t mean your parents lived and survived in ice age.Everything is just different than before when you compare yourself to elderly people who succeed in life.The competition we have is probably 10 times more than 30 years ago.Those years,People were just dedicated to work hard since they didn’t have another choice.They lived life and worked every single day to compete in their environment.But as you see our environment is not all about working hard if you really want to get the dream job you desire.Let’s make a list of things that you might need to compete in our environment;

• Diploma
• Network (Connections)
• Professional Skills (Softwares)
• Personal skills (Personal developments)
• Personal achievements (Certificates,Licenses)
• Real life Experiences (Hands on skills)
• Work Ethic
• Multi Languages (Native + Foreign)
• Physical Health (Appearance)
• Mental Health (Determination)

These are the ones I can come up with now,the list might get longer and longer if you think about a specific field or a career.So when you look at the list how many of them can be achieved with your academic curriculum.I would say maximum 3 or 4 of them,if you really push your limits in school.You can learn the basics of softwares and languages in electives and maybe get some certificates but not all of them.Eventually you will get a diploma so I count on that as last one.What about rest of the list that actually make you different than your competitors?

Remember your parents were talking about how lucky you are because you didn’t have to work even a single day to make money while you were in school.Well think about what would have been different if you have worked instead of getting lost in academic illusion.You would probably have improved half of the skills you need in real life and maybe even build some confidence about your future.

I consider our generation as second generation individuals.First generation had lack of opportunities to go get a college degree and being a college graduate was a dream for many of the people in the past.Diploma was much more valuable asset for those who had chance to get a degree.But now as you can see,Second generation has much more to accomplish compare to elder ones.Of course having a degree can be a key to open some doors in real life but that can only open the door and you might need much more than a piece of paper(Diploma) to walk into that door which can be considered as career.

We were raised to be successful in school and learn not much about how to be successful in life.Well when I think about myself right now;I probably use only %20 of my academic knowledge at work.Imagine,I am a mechanical engineer which is considered as a technical major.If you are trying to become a scientist or a professor,you might need much more than %20 percent of the things you learned in school.Think about your friends,how many of them are going to be a professor or a scientist?

Having a college degree is really important but we shouldn’t let ourselves to believe that diploma is more than enough to settle down in a stable job.If you are a recent graduate,I am sure you are looking at job boards and get frustrated when you see the amount of experience that are required by companies you might want to work with.

First day of your job,Just take a deep breathe and think about the years you spent in classrooms (15-16years since your childhood)! That will be really helpful in order to understand the high you got from this illusion.Now you might need another 15 years to forget about what you learned and to stay strong in wild life.

Those people who succeed in life without a college degree,worked probably 10 times more than us in order to become leaders in their fields.Most importantly,they studied ‘Life’ as a degree and become billionaires.

Chalks and Blackboards was originally published in Absolute Uniqueness on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Think about what it takes to be lucky in life!

Most of us believe that we have to accept what life offers us in order to be happy and have a peaceful life.There are times we don’t dig in too much to get confused or frustrated about situations.Then we consider bad results as bad luck or lack of luck since we truly believe we cant do it better or we are not lucky enough compare to others.

I am someone who believes in destiny and I think things happen the way it suppose to.But also I believe that destiny has a little impact on our daily life and future.As a young professional,I always try to learn about succesful people’s adventures and try to understand their real life experiences.If you sit in front of your computer and watch ted talks all day,I am sure you will learn and discover so many different things such as ideas about how people succeed in life.But is this enough to make you better than others?Or do you really need to be lucky to go one step further in your environment where many people still don’t even discover which path to follow in life.

I used to consider wealthy people as lucky individuals since they seem they are more capable of doing different things in life.Higher standard of living is all what we,humans want since we try to make more money every single day when we wake up.While you make your plans about future,You realize there are already some people live the life you dream and you consider them lucky.

Since I was surrounded with many wealthy people(whose parents are doing really well in life),There were times I question my luck and how lucky I am compare to others.Not because i grew up in a poor family but I was raised in a way that I was never spoiled and I always had enough to be comfortable.This maybe limited the things I could have possibly done in the past in terms of having fun or having better college life.The reason why my dad decided to start open up his company from scratch on my early teenage years maybe I was more effected as a teen compare to my younger sister who had much more comfortable teenage years in less stressful environment since Our living standard got much higher later on.So I guess she is lucky,right!

The reason that I decided to mention about my environment because often times i have seen people that are not aware of many things in life.Such as Appreciation,Hard work,Satisfaction…etc The more I analyze things I felt like I was the lucky one compare to them.For me,the word luck changed its’ meaning from money or wealth to awareness.

I realized that the more I challenge myself and my knowledge in life,I can get luckier compare to my ages.I totally believe in the idea that Awareness can guide me to have a better career and bring me much more success in life.As a conclusion,I got to the point that Luck is not something you have which makes you better than others,its what you use to make the best out of yourself.

As I mentioned,I am just a young professional who is in his mid 20s but I feel like my awareness in life put me ahead of many of the people which I consider my generation.Maybe my short term real life experiences on earth don’t make me a wise man or the most knowledgable person on earth but I discovered 3 main facts that can make you luckier in life;

1-Working hard:I believe in order to be successful, Working hard is the most crucial one in real life.For me which takes biggest percentage (%50) if we picture a pie chart for Success. Luck is the last %10 percent which can be the cherry on top in order to fully accomplish your mission or reach your target.The less you work,you will start to rely on your luck more and that percentage(%10) will increase day by day.instead of being %10,it will reach to %30-40s even %50s.Then your life is going to be a gamble.

2-Being honest:Being honest to yourself increase your awareness and you will be able to see your real power when you set your goals.Never set big goals for short term if you want to do great things in life because it sometimes takes much more time to settle down in an environment that you desire.Also less disappointment is always better for more motivation.

3-Being fair:Never see yourself better or worse than anybody.Be fair and accept things the way they are.Dont make yourself feel better when you compare to yourself less fortunate.Too much confidence can give you illusion. Don’t envy the people that are doing better than you.Negativity limits your productivity.

For me these are golden rules in terms of being successful.That %10 percent will be always there if you eliminate the disadvantages you might face in life.Luck finds its’ own way to get into your life!You shouldn’t consider anybody luckier when you compare them to yourself.You might see people rely on their luck so much that they dont really think of one step further. Maybe they were born wealthy or good looking!Never envy them and always try to see what is unique about you and make the best out of it.Remember if their Lives unexpectedly change, they might lose all their luck in one second but your uniqeness will stay with you and you can advance yourself with discovering new things about yourself.Remember there are so many people start from scratch and they reach their dreams even dough they suffer and struggle for years.Believe in destiny and never lose your faith but most importantly you always have to open your mind to the greatest.Try to do better and better and your luck will never leave you alone in this life time journey.

Good Luck!

Jealous of Lucky people? was originally published in Absolute Uniqueness on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.