Because he kept making decisions about things that were changing…

Think about travelling somewhere. You decide that you want to reach Hyderabad. Now imagine you spend the entire journey deciding which road you should take. You take one road, just to see traffic. You turn around. Take another road, but now one new road looks faster. You turn again. Then Someone tells you about a shortcut, you take that route now. You spend the entire journey optimizing the route. But there is one thing you never change:

The destination.

Nobody would sit in the car and say, “The road changed, so I guess I don’t want to go there anymore.” Yet that is exactly what we sometimes do with our lives. A short-term plan fails, so we assume the larger dream was wrong. Someone gives us different advice, so we change direction. Something becomes difficult, so we start looking for another destination instead of looking for another route. The problem is not that we adapt. Adaptation is necessary.

If you change something that was always going to change anyway, you may only be solving today’s version of the problem. Tomorrow, the situation will be different and you will have to solve it again. But if you make a decision about something that is going to remain important for years, every decision you make afterwards can build on it.

The problem is, we often spend our time making decisions about things that were never going to stay the same in the first place. You decide based on what the market looks like today, what people want today, what opportunity is available today, what someone told you today, and tomorrow something changes and suddenly that decision is useless, so you have to make another one. And then another. You keep solving the same problem because you keep working on something that keeps moving. Instead, work on things that are fixed, not things that are variable or subject to change. If something is already clear and important to you, build around it. If your ambition is to build a company, become an expert, create something meaningful or reach a particular destination, that is what deserves your deepest decisions. The method can change, the strategy can change, the tools can change, the short-term targets can change, but the larger ambition can remain. When you improve something that is fixed, the effect keeps carrying forward; when you keep adjusting something that is constantly changing, tomorrow you will simply have to adjust it again. Don’t spend your life trying to control what moves. Build around what doesn’t.

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“You wouldn’t march for me.” The young man whispered those words so softly, I thought I might have imagined them. Having just finished the 2017 Women’s March with my daughters, I was running on empty, hoping I’d heard him wrong. But when I looked up from my seat on the floor at Grand Central Station, I could read the message of disappointment on his face.

He said nothing more, quickly storing his equipment in the custodian’s closet, getting lost in the crowds of people running for trains. But I could see him anyway, with a clear memory of his face and those softly spoken words. I tried to imagine what we would have said had we let a conversation happen. Would we have talked about what we owed to one another or about who suffered more? Have a discussion on civil rights vs. the suffrage movement? Instead, I let his words hang in the air unanswered.

On the train home, my body rested, but my mind continued to spin. The images of pink pussy hats and protest posters merged with conversations about the day. Women talked to each other across the aisles, sharing information about new campaigns and the next protest in D.C. I looked at my daughters Joanna and Kate, now in their twenties, and was struck by how fast time had passed. I could still see them as little girls dancing around the living room after their evening bath and creating games to play the next day. Their unbridled freedom of childhood had been replaced by fists up and chants of “We won’t go back.”

We arrived in the city early that day and waited our turn to join in with hundreds of thousands of other marchers. Inching our way through Midtown, women with no breathing room somehow managed to make room for more women desperate to add their voices to the protest. On most January mornings, New York can be pretty cold. But on this day, we were met with kinder-than-usual weather. It helped offset some of the bitterness we felt as we marched to maintain rights that men never once had to fight for.

We passed the United Nations building, past shops I wandered by as a little girl, past all the things I once wanted. I thought of my mother, her hands counting coins, never enough, nothing really hers. Six kids in eight years. All those decisions made by someone else, by men who never had to live with the choices they made for her. And some of them want to erase years of progress and put us right back in those shoes.

Older women wiped away tears, knowing exactly what was at stake, and many younger women talked about how they never saw the threats coming. The occasional man appeared, likely here for a wife or daughter. I wondered if most other men were letting the day go by as if it were any other Saturday, sleeping in or doing chores they’d meant to get to for a while. Maybe they didn’t see this battle as theirs to fight. That very afternoon, a young man would wonder something similar about me, about what I was doing when he may have needed my help to right this world.

The conductor finally entered our train car with his usual call of, “Have your tickets ready.” On any ordinary day, he and I would have had a polite conversation, or at least exchanged smiles. But that day, the best I could manage was to hold up my phone in his general direction so he could scan my ticket. Lost in the sights and sounds of the day, my thoughts drifted to my first protest in 1970. I couldn’t have been more than 12, still learning about most things in life.

“Come on, we’re going!” were all the words I needed from my two brothers back then. Joe was 16 and Steve 14. I slipped on my shoes, following along as I always did. I had a vague notion we were heading off to protest the Vietnam War in Central Park, but I convinced myself that the real destination had to be the museum, with just a brief detour for a few speeches. We often went there together, walking from our apartment on East 30th Street, zigzagging north and west, stopping along the way if something caught our eye or to rest on one of our favorite brownstone stoops.

Entering Central Park to protest, thousands of people, mostly young, lifted their arms as high as they could to share their anti-war posters, calling for an end to the draft and to make love, not war. Others held up two fingers in the air, a common plea for peace. I had to finally accept that the day had nothing to do with art. No Rembrandts, no Monets, no lighthearted stroll through the Metropolitan Museum of Art that afternoon. Instead, a display of bell-bottoms, long hair, and lots of passion about how life in this country needed to change. My brothers and I fit in on all measures, even if I preferred Rembrandt’s sad-eyed portraits to real people’s sorrows.

I first heard Bella Abzug’s bellowing speech, which was so loud I found my shoulders rising up in their own kind of protest. She spoke about the fight for women’s rights, then union leaders talked about workers’ rights, and politicians mostly talked about themselves. I asked my brothers, “Are we in the right place? “Who are we marching for?” “Isn’t this supposed to be about boys dying?” They shrugged, seeming to be as lost as I was. I strained to make sense of it, women and soldiers, two sides of the same coin maybe, both used, both told what to do.

We finally marched from the park into the streets with chants and songs of peace, something that made more sense to people with a personal stake in ending this war. Our three older brothers who were exactly at draft age didn’t come with us. I couldn’t be sure if they didn’t want to protest, or maybe not thinking about it at all was how they got through the day.

Most of the speakers said what they came to say, and went home or somewhere where we were not. Perhaps they were meeting where all the parents were hiding out, busying themselves with so many important things to keep their sons’ fates far from their thoughts. I could still hear Abzug’s voice in my head though, letting the rhythm of her grievances propel me forward, coming to embrace a message that started to feel like it was meant for me.

With the announcement of my station in Westchester, I did my best to shake off both the march that day and the childhood memories. I said goodbye to Joanna and Kate, who both had a few more stops to go, and returned to the daily routines of work and family. It’s a life I’d worked hard to build, one with as little conflict as possible. From my morning tea to evenings of reviewing student work, I enjoyed deep breaths of calm self-satisfaction.

But how the news shattered my peace. The Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade, and masked agents circled neighborhoods. Histories started to be erased, and cuts to healthcare devastated those in need. Tariffs hurt businesses, and support for struggling families disappeared. I participated in phone call campaigns, wrote letters, and waited for change. Yet with each new decision, more rights slipped away, more people suffered. I continued to wait until protesting in the streets once again seemed the only thing left to do.

The first “Hands Off” rally and protest kicked off on the steps of the NYC Public Library. I’d passed the two marble lions that sit in front of that building hundreds of times over the years. But as I approached them that day, I somehow recalled their names, learned long ago in my fourth-grade history class. They are Patience and Fortitude, so named by Mayor LaGuardia back in the 1930s. The symbolism served as a way to help people get through the Great Depression and the rise of fascism-evidenced by a nazi rally attended by tens of thousands less than a mile from the library. With patience and fortitude, the mayor said, people could survive anything. Dark times, I’m reminded on these steps, are not new.

After a few speeches by politicians, the crowd headed east to march uptown on Madison Avenue. Signs included: Hands Off, No Justice-No Peace, and Tax the Billionaires. Thousands of protesters made their voices heard in defense of democracy, and in defense of people they’d likely never meet. Everyone chanted slogans of protest, except for about a dozen women dressed in Handmaid’s Tale scarlet robes and white bonnets. They remained silent, heads down to avert anyone’s gaze. Their portrayal of silent and obedient women signaled a stark warning about a future left untended.

I wondered what my mother would think of the spectacle of the Handmaids. She was never in favor of public displays. I still remembered her gently spoken rules my brothers never had to follow, about how I should dress now that my body was changing, and the importance of keeping opinions to myself. It’s unclear to me whether she believed the feminine ideals she passed along, or if they were automatic, drawn from some reservoir of rules no one questioned. Or maybe it was her attempt at keeping me safe from the type of violence she grew up with. I wished I could go back in time and ask her. But I knew she’d likely say we can’t change the past, only the present. She had a unique talent for saying somewhat profound things while not answering my questions. So I refocused, watching the Handmaids fade away and letting the music draw me forward.

Old voices sang Woody Guthrie songs, and toddlers propped up on their dads’ shoulders swayed to the chorus of, “You fascists bound to lose.” The drum corps added a primal energy signaling the fight we’re in. People sitting in an outdoor cafe raised their coffee cups toward the crowd in some kind of everyman salute, reminiscent of old anti-fascist movies I remember my parents watching so many years ago. Protest signs varied widely, drawing attention to themes such as immigration and healthcare, and bodily autonomy. A disparate group of issues, for sure. But there was a shared look of grief I saw on most faces, a sense of loss that felt binding.

I headed back to Grand Central after the march, thinking about future protests, wondering if they could be better planned, maybe lasting longer as they do in Europe. But even in our most imperfect and unfinished efforts, there has almost always been some progress as work continued for lasting change. I reminded myself that there hasn’t been a draft in over 50 years, and by most measures, women are in a better place than my mother’s generation. At least for now.

I thought about the young man every time I passed the custodian’s closet at Grand Central. His whispered words, “You wouldn’t march for me,” rang true for many years. I’d sometimes glance over, knowing he likely moved on to another job, but still wishing I’d see him again. I wanted to let him know that even if his was a passing comment, maybe if he didn’t even remember it at all, that I had remembered. And while his words rang true for the last few years, I am grateful they no longer do. There are so many of us now, no longer marching just for ourselves, but finally for one another.

Unfinished Protests was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Ok, the title might be a tad misleading — I won’t be getting hired by a AAA studio any time soon, or even make a wage as a marketer. But, nonetheless, here I am, creating and executing marketing plans for a video game.

My partner has been working in the gaming industry for as long as I’ve known him. He is very passionate about video games as both a player and a creator. Unfortunately, the video game industry is currently experiencing mass layoffs — a trend that started in 2022, and grew to see as many as 14,800 video game employees laid off in 2024 alone. According to Jessica Clement at Statista, in just three years (2022–2024) there have been almost 34,000 layoffs in the video game industry (Gaming layoffs worldwide 2024| Statista). This trend continues in 2025 as game studios of all sizes continue to let staff go, with some even closing their doors for good.

My partner unfortunately was not immune to this trend. After working at the same AAA studio for over 8 years, he (not so suddenly) found himself unemployed, as he too was laid off.

In this current economic climate, being unemployed is a daunting position to be in. Fortunately, thanks to labour laws and the help of a very good employment lawyer, my partner’s severance is providing us a bit of a cushion to lean on before we feel the need to panic.

And that cushion is what has led me here — claiming to be a video game marketer.

For years my partner has thought about making his own video game. He has a lot of passion for this industry, and as both a gamer and an insider he also has a lot of insight. So we looked at our finances, had big conversations, and made a decision — being laid off was an opportunity. An opportunity for him to follow his passion and turn his dream of becoming an indie-developer into a reality. No longer making other people’s games, no longer tied down by the decisions that other people have made, no longer making games he isn’t passionate about. He had an idea and he jumped in with both feet.

…And I have followed.

There are many ways partners support each other through life and career changes. But I’ve never been one to sit on the sidelines. I’ve never been good at saying no. I’m never not working on something new. So, how can I support the solo indie-game developer in our home? I can’t program or code, I have zero artistic skills, and to be fully transparent — I don’t actually know much about video games at all.

But I’m good at research. I’m great at planning. And I’m a decent story teller. So marketing seems like the perfect (or perhaps only…) fit.

I am just at the beginning of this journey. I have been reading and researching and putting together a plan. A plan that I will have to dive head first into. A plan that requires me to integrate myself into the gaming world. To tweet and blog and create, to research and test and learn, to outreach and connect with gaming professionals — developers, journalists, streamers, festival coordinators. The list goes on.

Thankfully Chris Zukowski of How To Market A Game has made it easy to find a starting point. His blog has allowed me to dive in and learn best practices and read about others’ success stories. I am slowly melding into the world of indie-devs; engaging in discord channels, participating in related subreddits, finding local meetups, and absorbing as much as I can.

It is an interesting position I find myself in — learning not only new skills, but an entirely new industry. It’s challenging. And I want to succeed. That’s why I am calling myself a video game marketer. This isn’t a hobby and it’s not just for fun. I am putting in the work and I am making the plans. I may not have the experience or the background, yet, but I AM a video game marketer.

My husband was laid off — and by turning this setback into an opportunity, I am now a video game marketer.

Step one was creating a website for his new studio Dream Bank Games

My Husband Got Laid Off… Now I’m a Video Game Marketer? was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

A Much Needed Confession

For much of my early career, I was scared to break the rules of modernist typography. I admired that work deeply. The clarity. The restraint. The rigor. Designers like Paul Rand and Emil Ruder represented a level of craft and confidence that I aspired to have. Naturally, I wanted my work to belong in that lineage.

So I did what many young designers do. I tried to make work that looked like the work I admired.

But everything I created ended up feeling a little dull. Not bad. Not poorly designed. Just somehow disconnected. Like something missing.

At the time, I assumed the problem was me.

I wasn’t experienced enough yet. Not skilled enough. Not disciplined enough. So I kept learning. I listened to critiques. I welcomed feedback. I refined my work again and again.

A project would go through one round of feedback, then another, then another. One person would want it cleaner. Another would want it more expressive. One would question the typography. Another would question the concept. Every opinion seemed valid, so I tried to accommodate all of them.

The work improved. But no matter how many iterations I went through, there was always another opinion waiting on the other side. Eventually, I started to feel like I could never satisfy anyone. I wasn’t even sure what my style was anymore.

After years of critiques, feedback, and also comparison, I had unknowingly stopped trusting my own instincts. I became more concerned with making work that designers would admire than making work that felt like mine.

Every project started to feel like a test. And I was constantly trying to pass it.

Then one day, almost by accident, I made something just for fun. There was no brief. No strategic objective. No criteria to meet. No audience to impress.

It broke many of the rules I had spent years teaching myself to follow.

The proportions weren’t perfect. The typography wasn’t particularly rational. There was no carefully constructed system holding it together. By many of the standards I had learned to evaluate design, it probably shouldn’t have worked.

But it was interesting. It felt alive.

And for the first time in a long time, I wasn’t thinking about whether anyone would approve of it. I was just enjoying myself. Even entertaining myself.

The pressure disappeared. It made me realize that my relationship with typography had always been slightly different. I’ve never been interested in type purely as a vehicle for legibility.

I love typography that behaves like a character. The kind that pulls you into a story. The kind that has emotion, personality, awkwardness, confidence, humor, tension.

In film, costumes are custom-made for the actor wearing them. They help build the character before a single word is spoken. I’ve started to think about typography in much the same way. What if every letterform was custom-made for what it was trying to say?

Not just readable, but expressive. Not just functional, but emotional. Not just a container for information, but part of the story itself.

Of course, this isn’t an argument against traditional type design. We need the designers who dedicate themselves to creating systems, refining craft, and advancing the discipline. Their work forms the foundation that the rest of us build upon.

This is simply an argument for expression. For experimentation. For becoming who you are as a designer. For embodying our authentic self.

For allowing ourselves to create without immediately filtering every idea through a framework of approval.

Sometimes we get so comfortable working within a particular way of thinking that we forget there are other possibilities. We sense that something is missing, yet continue refining the same answers instead of asking new questions.

For me, part of that shift meant spending less time looking outward and more time looking inward. Less time asking what great design had looked like before and more time asking what is it that feels right to me? Less time asking what other designers might think and more time asking what is the point I’m making? Less time searching for the perfect reference and more time creating with being present.

Today, we have access to more inspiration than ever before. We can study history, analyze trends, create endless moodboards, conduct exhaustive research, and now even generate ideas with AI.

All of these things have value. But none of them can replace a personal point of view.

At a certain point, looking can become a substitute for making.

And making can become a process of assembling things that already exist instead of discovering something new.

The work that has meant the most to me has rarely come from following a formula. It has come from paying attention to a feeling. A curiosity. A small instinct that didn’t make complete sense at the time.

Not everyone will like where those instincts lead. Some people will criticize it. Some people will feel neutral towards it. But there will also be someone who’d find it surprising. Someone who sees a possibility they hadn’t considered before.

That’s how new work enters the world. Not through consensus. Not through approval. But through someone being brave enough to make something that could only have come from them.

Maybe finding our own style isn’t about perfecting what already exists. Maybe it’s about trusting ourselves enough to follow our own rhythm. Even when it breaks the rules. Even when it doesn’t make sense to everyone else.

A Much Needed Confession was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

A small comment hurts more than it should.
A simple disappointment stays in your mind for hours.
Even normal responsibilities begin to feel emotionally exhausting.

And sometimes, you cannot even explain why.

You just feel mentally full.

Most people think emotions become heavy only after major life events like heartbreak, failure, or loss. But honestly, emotional heaviness often builds slowly through small things we ignore every day.

Stress accumulates.

Unspoken thoughts accumulate.

Pressure accumulates.

And eventually, the mind reaches a point where even ordinary situations begin to feel overwhelming.

Important Reality About Modern Life ✨

Modern life also plays a huge role in this.

We are constantly surrounded by noise:

• notifications,
• expectations,
• comparisons,
• bad news,
• social pressure,
• and endless information.

Even during moments of rest, our minds rarely become truly quiet.

As a result, the brain stays emotionally overstimulated for too long.

Sometimes what we call “being emotional” is actually mental exhaustion.

Why Ignored Emotions Become Heavy

Another reason emotions feel heavy is because many people suppress them instead of processing them.

We distract ourselves quickly:

• scrolling,
• staying busy,
• watching content,
• overworking,
• or pretending everything is fine.

But emotions do not disappear just because we avoid them.

They stay quietly inside the body and mind.

And over time, those ignored feelings begin showing up as:

• irritation,
• anxiety,
• overthinking,
• emotional numbness,

or sudden sadness without any obvious reason.

The Invisible Weight People Carry

One of the hardest things about emotions is that they are invisible.

People can see a physical injury.

But they often cannot see emotional fatigue.

Someone may look completely normal outside while internally feeling exhausted from carrying stress, loneliness, fear, or pressure for months.

And honestly, this is why self-awareness matters so much.

Sometimes we do not need to “fix” everything immediately.

Sometimes we simply need to pause and ask:

“What am I actually feeling right now?”

That small moment of honesty can change a lot.

Important Things to Remember

• Feeling overwhelmed does not mean you are weak.
• Rest is emotional recovery too.
• Your mind was not designed for constant stimulation.
• Ignoring emotions does not remove them.
• Small moments of peace matter more than we realize.

Small Things That Actually Help

Emotions also feel heavier when we constantly judge ourselves for having them.

Many people believe they should always stay strong, calm, productive, or emotionally controlled.

But human beings are not machines.

Feeling overwhelmed sometimes does not mean you are failing.

It simply means your mind and body are asking for care, rest, or emotional release.

And surprisingly, small things often help more than we expect:

getting proper sleep,

talking honestly with someone,

spending time alone peacefully,

• journaling,
• going outside,
• reducing noise,
• or simply slowing down for a while.

Healing is not always dramatic.

Sometimes emotional recovery begins with giving yourself permission to breathe without guilt.

Final Thought

The truth is, emotions become heavy when they are carried silently for too long.

And maybe that is why understanding yourself matters so much.

Because the moment you stop fighting your emotions and start listening to them…

they often become a little lighter. ✨

Why Emotions Feel So Heavy Sometimes was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

We wake up and immediately check our phones.We scroll while eating.We stay busy all day.And somehow, even after doing so much, life still feels emotionally empty sometimes.

Modern life moves fast.

So fast that many people never stop to ask themselves an important question:

How deeply do I actually want to experience my life?

And honestly, that question changes everything.

Because most people are not truly living intentionally.They are reacting.

Reacting to notifications.Reacting to pressure.Reacting to trends.Reacting to expectations from society, family, and social media.

But “deciding on your depth philosophy” means choosing something different.

It means deciding whether you want to live only on the surface of life — or experience it more consciously, meaningfully, and honestly.

The Problem With Surface-Level Living

Today, shallow living is extremely easy.

You can spend hours scrolling without remembering anything you saw.You can stay constantly distracted and still feel lonely.You can look productive online while feeling disconnected inside.

And slowly, without realizing it, noise starts replacing clarity.

There was a time when I thought being busy meant I was growing.

If my day was full, I felt important.If I was constantly consuming information, I thought I was improving myself.

But eventually, I realized something uncomfortable:

Being mentally occupied is not the same as being emotionally aware.

Sometimes we consume so much that we stop experiencing life deeply altogether.

What Does “Depth” Actually Mean?

Depth does not mean becoming serious all the time.

It simply means becoming more intentional.

• A person with depth:
• pays attention to their thoughts,
• reflects on their habits,
• values meaningful conversations,
• and spends time understanding themselves instead of constantly escaping themselves.

Instead of asking:

“What looks impressive?”

They begin asking:

“What actually feels meaningful to me?”

And honestly, those are very different questions.

Important Shifts That Happen

When you begin living with more depth, small things start changing.

You stop needing constant validation.

You stop comparing your life to carefully edited moments online.

You become more selective about:

• who gets your energy,
• what deserves your attention,
• and what truly matters to your peace.

Suddenly:

• quiet mornings feel valuable,
• thoughtful books feel comforting,
• silence feels less uncomfortable,
• and meaningful relationships become more important than large social circles.

You also start noticing how much distraction modern life creates.

Sometimes we are not actually tired from work.

We are tired from overstimulation.

Too much noise.

Too much comparison.

Too much information.

Too little presence.

Why Depth Can Feel Uncomfortable

Living deeply is beautiful, but it is not always easy.

Because depth forces honesty.

It asks you to question:

• your habits,
• your distractions,
• your emotional patterns,
• and the version of yourself you are slowly becoming.

And honestly, many people avoid depth because distraction feels easier.

Noise keeps us occupied.

Silence makes us aware.

But awareness is where real growth begins.

Important Things About Depth Philosophy ✨

• Not everything meaningful is visible immediately.
• Peace is more valuable than constant approval.
• Being busy is not always the same as being fulfilled.
• Silence can teach things distraction never will.
• The quality of your attention shapes the quality of your life.

One day, most people realize the same thing:

A fast life is not always a meaningful life.

And maybe the real goal was never to impress everyone around us.

Maybe the real goal is to:

• think clearly,
• feel deeply,
• love honestly,
• and experience life with awareness before it passes by.

Because in the end…

life is not only about moving forward quickly.

It is about being awake enough to truly experience where you already are. ✨

Decide on Your Depth Philosophy was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.

Rain falling outside the window.
Waves near the ocean.
Soft piano music at night.
Even the quiet sound of wind moving through trees.

And then there are other sounds that do the complete opposite.

Loud notifications.
Traffic noise.
Constant talking.
Videos playing one after another.

Without realizing it, sounds affect our mood, focus, energy, and even our thoughts every single day.

That is why so many people today are becoming interested in “healing frequencies” and calming audio.

But honestly?

The idea is much simpler than people make it sound online.

Your Brain Needs Rest Too

Most of us keep our minds busy all day long.

The moment we wake up, we check our phones.
We scroll while eating.
We multitask constantly.
Even while resting, our mind keeps thinking.

Slowly, the brain becomes mentally crowded.
And when the brain stays overloaded for too long, we start feeling:

• anxious,
• irritated,
• emotionally tired,
• distracted,
• or unable to focus.

Sometimes the mind does not need motivation.

It simply needs silence and calmness.

That is where peaceful sounds can help.

Why Calm Sounds Feel Good

Our brain naturally responds to rhythm and sound.

Soft music and slow sounds can help the nervous system relax.
Nature sounds can reduce mental noise.
Gentle frequencies can create a feeling of emotional comfort.

This is why people enjoy:

• rain sounds,
• white noise,
• meditation music,
• slow instrumental music,
• and soft frequencies like 432 Hz or 528 Hz.

Not because they are magical.
But because they slow the emotional “noise” inside the mind.

Popular Frequencies People Listen To

432 Hz

Many people say this music feels softer and calmer than regular music.

528 Hz

Often called a “healing frequency,” though science does not fully prove the dramatic claims around it.

Still, many listeners find it emotionally relaxing.

Alpha Sounds

These are often used during:

• studying,
• journaling,
• reading,
• or deep focus work.

Delta Sounds

Usually connected with sleep and deep relaxation.
That is why sleep music often includes them.

But Here’s the Most Important Thing

No sound can completely fix an exhausted lifestyle.

A healthy brain still needs:

• proper sleep,
• healthy habits,
• movement,
• sunlight,
• emotional peace,
• and real rest.

Sometimes we search for one perfect solution while ignoring the basics our body actually needs.

Still, sound matters more than we realize.

The right music can completely change the feeling of a moment.

A peaceful sound can slow overthinking. Silence can make emotions feel lighter. A calm rhythm can help the body relax after a stressful day.

Honestly, there is no single “perfect frequency.”

The best sound is simply the one that makes you feel:

1. calmer,
2. lighter,
3. more focused,
4. and emotionally peaceful.

For some people, that is rain sounds.
For others, soft piano music.
For others, complete silence.

And maybe that is the real point.

In such a noisy world, sometimes the mind is not searching for magic.

It is simply searching for peace. ✨

Why Certain Sounds Calm Our Mind More Than Others was originally published in Betterism on Medium, where people are continuing the conversation by highlighting and responding to this story.