𝓨𝓸𝓾 𝓦𝓪𝓷𝓽 𝓦𝓱𝓪𝓽?

Ever ask someone what they want and get a blank stare back? Without context, limitations, or framing, our brains tend to freeze up. Are we talking about lunch? Career goals? Weekend plans? A bucket list item? It’s like trying to hit a moving target in the dark.

Then there are those rare unicorns who can answer without missing a beat. How do they do it? It’s usually a mix of having a sense of purpose, knowing what they like, and being tuned into their desires in the moment.

Let’s dissect this magical ability and throw in some tough love, shall we?

Purpose: Your North Star

First up, direction or purpose. This is what gives your life meaning — philosophy, spiritual practice, big goals, and bucket lists. It’s the stuff life coaches and career counselors harp on. And yeah, it’s important. We humans crave meaning and a sense of direction.

But here’s the kicker: when it comes to relationships, romance, or even just figuring out what you want for dinner, your grand purpose isn’t going to cut it. Knowing you want to change the world doesn’t help when your partner asks what you want in bed. Your life’s mission won’t guide you on whether you want sushi or tacos tonight.

Purpose helps you see the big picture, but it can distract you from the nitty-gritty of daily…