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Wanting the “Idea” of Having an Affair
But not actually having one…
Why do some people love the IDEA of having an affair?
Maybe because they are bored? It’s sexy? It’s dangerous? It makes them feel desired? Feel alive? Who knows? Some combo of all of the above?
But they don’t have the guts to follow through.
They are the ones that have an idealized view of an affair.
“Hot hotel sex whenever I want!”
“She’ll do everything my wife won’t!”
“Her tits are so much better than my wife.”
They are looking for fantasy fulfillment. When faced with the reality of taking the next step, meeting and figuring out logistics, they balk and retreat. It’s no longer so “easy.” It gets complicated fast trying to maneuver schedules of two married people with jobs and kids.
“How available are you?” I ask.
“Oh, I own my own business,” potential affair partner responds (the amount of times I’ve heard this is mind boggling). “I’m VERY flexible, wink wink.”
“Are you?” he adds.
Holy shit. Stop it!
