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Combatting Victimization
Part Five of the Heart Chakra
How can we combat playing the “victim card”?
We have to recognize our own power and access it from within. There are always a few solutions to the same problem and engaging in the victim mentality does not allow you to see that.
When I was younger my dad used to always tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself. It was normally during the after game criticism time, when he was trying to help me improve my skills.
I never thought that he was trying to help me, I only ever felt victimized by him not having seen my effort. But it was not that he hadn’t seen my effort, he saw my effort, and recognized my potential. It was me that did not see the potential because I never got out of the bouts of self-pity.
As you can imagine, I never understood what he meant by “stop feeling sorry for yourself” until I was much older.
The interpretation that I kind of have of it now is to stop standing with your jaw open that life hit you, and instead find a way to fight back.
When we sit in the realm of self-pity for too long, we begin to take on the role of the victim and our power is stripped of us. It is crucial to hold tightly to hope, and our own discernment for embarking on a new action plan.
