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A Daughter’s Dreams
Mothers have dreams for their children. But this daughter had dreams for her mother.
For some, losing someone they love puts them on a mission to live to the fullest and make the late person proud. For others, they go on with their lives, but it’s as if they are just getting through the motions.
The latter reminds me of my mother.
This breaks my heart. That’s for her. I always thought she deserved the world. When I recall how she sacrificed years of her life to care for her parents and help with my paternal grandmother, all while raising her family, there was always a part of my mind that wanted to see my mom flourish and come into her own.
She worked hard at anything she did. so shouldn’t there be some space in her own life at some point to carve out things just for her?
Growing up, Mom did whatever was needed at the expense of her happiness to do the right thing for her family. After my dad passed away in 2017, I hoped she’d spend her time doing things she wanted to do. Yes, her life as she knew it was over. But I believed that somewhere in the grips of grief, she would pull up her bootstraps and say, “This is my time, and I’m not going to sit around being sad. I’ve got things I want to do, and there’s nothing to keep me from doing them now. So, here…
